Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

  • 5 Rules for Pursuing the Friend of an Ex

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    by John Orvted, Glamour

    A couple weeks ago, I told you guys about my failed attempt to seduce a friend of an ex, and it made me reflect on the rules of attraction when there's a third party involved. Here are the guidelines I came up with for pursuing the friend of an ex...

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    1. Question the friendship and its value
    Cold as ice, I know. But you gotta do it. Look at their friendship. Look at your friendship with the ex. Give these relationships real valuations. And then read A Midsummer Night's Dream. Twice. I'm not saying your ex's friend has been waiting to pounce on you since the breakup, but hey, it's a possibility. I'm not suggesting you cut ties or even judge those relationships in the negative. Just take a look at them.

    2. Sh*t or get off the pot
    If you're going to go through with it, there's no point in going halfway, or hedging. "We'll try it for a month, and if she hasn't forgiven us by then, we'll break it off."

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  • Cute or Creepy: Guys Who Use Emoticons

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    by Shallon Lester, Glamour

    A guy who can express himself is high on my list of qualities I look for in future dates. It's just before "Watches Bachelor Pad with me without complaint" and just after "Can quote Tombstone." But the last few guys I've dated seem to think that using emoticons in texts is a substitute for actual vocabulary.

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    Let me say up-front that I have no beef with emoticons. I've been known to throw around a smiley or a sad face on occasion, usually to convey that I was teasing or making a joke. But the :P and the ;) seem a little too cutesy-wootsey--even for a girly-girl like myself.

    But two boys in my recent dating history, Bryan and Paul, routinely peppered every single text or email with emoticons of all varieties. Some I'd never even seen before! What does "O_o" mean? Or ": u"? I like to think that I have a pretty decent vocab, but I guess when it comes to symbols my range is pretty limited.

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  • Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger's Fool-Proof Plan for Picking Up a Guy on Valentine's Day

    Courtesy of Bravoby Anna Moeslein, Glamour

    Millionaire Matchmaker guru Patti Stanger stopped by Glamour HQ today to give us tons of love advice-everything from date-night makeovers to how to tell a guy you're just not interested. And, of course, with Valentine's Day just around the corner, we had to ask her tips for the lovey-dovey holiday. If you're in a relationship, she says, what he does for Valentine's Day will tell you what he's really feeling for you-"If you don't get flowers on that day, he's toast."-but I thought her advice for single women was especially interesting. According to her, it's actually the best night to find a date!

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    "Valentine's Day is the hardest day of the year for a woman to get out, but everybody who is anybody and single is out that night," Patti says. "There's a reason why: Men get laid on Valentine's Day. So, think of it this way, in a city where there's five men to every one woman-all these men who are single are roving. If he's out

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  • A Perfect Valentine's Day (In Six Words!)

    Valentine's DayValentine's Dayby Ben Kassoy, Glamour

    That's what I asked several people, and spoiler alert: they'd want food-and lots of it. Sex as well-and lots of that too. My perfect six-word Valentine's?

    "Internet, phone: dead. You, me: present."

    Here are some other gems from friends:
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    "Dinner plus Nutella plus lingerie. Sex."

    "A warm bed and friendly eyes."

    "Side-by-side reading a book."

    "Food, sex, music, dancing, whiskey, sex."

    "Strolling hand-in-hand with you."

    "Order takeout and watch Terminator 2."

    "Go out with friends. Boys suck."

    "Green tea, warm cookies, gentle laughter."

    "Beach sex underneath a meteor shower."

    "Cuddling, puppies, dessert, sex, beltline jog."

    "Menage a trois in Shangri La."

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    "Gentle hugs, long walk, feeling connected."

    "Reading Calvin and Hobbes together…naked."

    "Play hookey. Sexy picnic. No reservations."

    "Back massage. Sex. Hot meal. Sex."

    "Hand lotion. Lots of hand lotion."

    "A burrito with a

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  • A First Date on Valentine’s Day? 7 Reasons it Isn’t Crazy!

    Yasu + Junko

    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    While a major date is pretty standard for an established couple, those of us who are casually dating or trying to set up a first meeting with someone might mark February 14th as a complete blackout day. Sorry, no available hours!

    I used to think it would be totally uncouth to have a first date on Valentine's Day, until my best friend did it. Guess what? She and her boyfriend are celebrating three years tomorrow! To hear the guy's perspective on why it actually worked so well for them, I spoke to her boyfriend, P., and got the scoop. Based on his account and a few other motivating reasons, here are some arguments for why a V-Day first date can be great:

    1) It's super easy to remember your anniversary. Seriously, I can barely remember my parent's wedding anniversary, and their marriage is basically the reason I'm alive. Yet I remember my best friend's anniversary with her boyfriend with ease, because duh, it's Valentine's Day. So you can imagine

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  • 10 Valentine’s Traditions from Most to Least Overrated

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    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    Even Valentine's Day haters have to admit there are some good things about the holiday of love, and even those who enjoy it have to admit that some typical elements reek of cheese.

    Here are ten Valentine's traditions in order from most to least overrated, according to the reaction they invoke when encountered:

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    The tradition: Cupid as the holiday mascot.
    The reaction: RUN AWAY SCREAMING.
    I know, I know, the actual mythology of Cupid is totally different, but let's just talk the Hallmark card variation: a weird fat baby-man shooting arrows at people's butts to force them to fall in love with each other is like an extra-creepy arranged marriage.

    The tradition: Stuffed animals holding "I love you" hearts.
    The reaction: Cringing embarrassment.

    If you are 13 with your first crush, receiving one of these is adorably heart-stopping. Otherwise, why do places keep stocking these like they're not the

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  • 5 Not-So-Obvious Signs He's Avoiding Valentine's Day

    CN Digital Studioby Meredith Turits, Glamour

    I was having coffee with a friend a couple of weeks ago, who mentioned he'd purposely booked a trip out of town to see his grandmother during Valentine's Day because he didn't want the girl he was seeing to think he wanted to celebrate.

    I'm not a V-Day kind of gal myself, but flying halfway across the country to avoid a date on a calendar? The lady he was seeing probably had no idea how evasive he was being. Were there other things guys were doing to avoid the Day of Hearts and Roses and Candy, besides mysteriously coming down with the flu? I did some digging from my male friends and turns out, there are.

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    1. He goes out of his way to spend time with his family that day. As demo'd by the grandma example. While sweet, turns out there may be some ulterior motives lurking. Whomp whomp.

    2. He crutches on the "work" excuse more than a week out. "If he's building up talking about a big proposal he's putting together and it's

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  • How Do I Cancel a Date Without Seeming like a Flake?

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    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    Our reader has a problem I'm a little jealous of--canceling a date with one nice guy because she already found another--but it's a problem she wants to deal with gracefully, nonetheless. She's so nice, it's no wonder all these men want to date her!

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    She writes:
    "I just decided to give online dating a try about six weeks ago. I started talking to one guy over Christmas break, he seems like a nice guy and a good catch, but communication fizzled a bit over the holidays. He has in the mean time friended me on Facebook and followed and "liked" a lot, but that was it. In the meantime, I chatted and met up with another guy, we've been dating for a few weeks now. Guy A resurfaced and asked if I wanted to meet up, and I agreed to next week - I like Guy B, but we hadn't had the "where is this going" talk so I thought, why not? A few days later, and now he's started talking about wanting to be exclusive - which is

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  • Man Survey: What Guys Really Think About Sex

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    by Glamour

    Glamour's exclusive man survey turned 18 this year-and in honor of its big birthday, we asked 1,131 men (and a few celebrities) some seriously uncensored questions. If you don't want to know what he's thinking on a date with you, in bed with you, or in the next cubicle, then you probably shouldn't read this...







    1) Have you ever had sex on your lunch break from work?

    Yes: 42%

    No: 58%

    2) Have watched porn at the office?

    Yes: 17%

    No: 83%

    3) Have you ever fantasized about a female colleague?

    Yes: 79%

    No: 21%

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    4) How about a female boss?

    Yes: 43%

    No: 57%

    5) Do you have a name for your penis?

    Yes: 13%

    No: 87%

    *Some of the best we heard? "Penisaurus Rex," "Sean Bonery," and "Mr. Happy" (multiple times!).

    6) Would it be weird if a woman named her vagina?

    Yes: 41%

    No: 59%

    7) Do you think you'd have more sex if you were taller?

    Yes: 24%

    No: 76%

    *But a

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  • 6 Relationship DOs and DON'Ts We Can All Learn from Pride and Prejudice

    Courtesy of Focus Features

    by Kayla Tanenbaum, Glamour

    Jane Austen's timeless classic Pride and Prejudice turned 200 yesterday! We've all read the novel, swooned over Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy in the BBC version (hello, clingy white shirt!), rooted for Keira Knightley as Elizabeth Bennet in Joe Wright's 2005 adaptation, and laughed with Bridget Jones. We turn to Pride and Prejudice when our mothers drive us crazy, when our best friends have another dating disaster, and when some rude person insults us at a bar.

    Needless to say, Austen is still everywhere and for good reason: She is the master of relationships and wit. "She pokes fun at the way society and the marriage market work," says Erin Blakemore, author of The Heroine's Bookshelf: Life Lessons, From Jane Austen to Laura Ingalls Wilder. "And I think we can use a lot of that levity today because it's really easy to take all that stuff super seriously."

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    So, in honor Pride and Prejudice's bicentennial,

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