Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

  • Guess What January 2nd Means for Dating?

    buy Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    You know how regular gym goers get annoyed at the first of the year because all the newbies with their New Year's resolutions are taking up the machines? Evidently it's kind of like that with online dating too!

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    According to, January 2 is the busiest day of the year for new membership registrations. Last year, there was a 55% increase in new memberships on that day alone. Evidently, there's an overall spike from December 25th to February 14th (decisions to join a dating site during engagement season do not surprise me), but the biggest day comes post-New Year's resolutions. According to's Chief Scientific Advisor, Dr. Helen Fisher, "As the holidays come to an end, we naturally resolve to fill what's missing in our lives -- particularly love, the most powerful of our human needs and joys." In fact, in a recent survey conducted, 65% of singles are making a New Year's resolution related to

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  • 8 Ways to Truly Embrace the Holidays as a Single Girl

    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    Conde Nast ArchiveConde Nast ArchiveLast year when I was still freshly off a breakup, it was all I could do to survive the holidays as a single lady. I put on a happy face when I could, and I occasionally even enjoyed myself, but mostly I felt bitter and tense and sad. Thank goodness for holiday champagne.

    I'm not beating myself up for taking some time to get here, but this year, I could not be more into the Christmas spirit. All the bitterness I felt about facing the holidays alone last year has just evaporated into a haze of good cheer.

    Here are 8 things that have helped me get there:

    Reliving childhood traditions: Last year I was grumpy because I was dwelling on the past years with my ex-boyfriend, but I should have gone even further back in time! Remember when you were a kid and the holidays were about magic and fun, not being the only single person at the cocktail party? Sure, you can't avoid the occasional lone Christmas elf in a room full of Mr. and Mrs. Clauses situation, but you can

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  • The 10 Most Popular Dating Sites of 2012

    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    Need a little end of year inspiration for picking up your dating life? Let's check out the trendiest dating sites of the year. According to Google Zeitgest, online dating is popular enough (duh) to warrant its own top trending searches list, and here are the sites people searched for the most:

    1. PlentyofFish
    2. Match
    3. OKcupid
    4. eHarmony
    5. DateHookup
    6. Zoosk
    7. Christian Mingle
    8. AdultFriendFinder
    9. JDate
    10. SinglesNet

    Have you tried any of these? I've dabbled in a few, but seeing as how I haven't had any long-term success...I might need to check out a few more! You've probably noticed from my posts that I tend to be pretty site-loyal to OKCupid, but like every generic online dating profile in the world says, I'm always up for trying new things!

    Are any of these your go-to sites? Did you use any this past year? And will you make a resolution to try a new dating site next year?

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  • How to Make Sure Visiting His Family for the First Time Isn't a Holiday Disaster

    by Meredith Turits, Glamour

    Holiday cheer! Beverages that end in "-nog"! Your boyfriend's relatives screaming at each other as you awkwardly stand there, noting you are related to none of these people, yet here to witness this all go down!

    So, hopefully this won't be the case for you, but, honestly, it's possible. Holidays are difficult for lots of reasons," says Dr. Deanna Brann, Ph.D, and clinical psychotherapist. "It's a stressful time anyway for most people, but people also have a Norman Rockwell mindset for what that is supposed to be, and not many people have that. Issues are magnified, worst behavior starts to come out." Brann is also the author of Reluctantly Related: Secrets To Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law, so I tapped her to spill all the wisdom she had to help survive visiting your guy's family for the first time.

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    Behold, Brann's has these top three tips to keep in mind:

    1. Be a team player.
    When you go

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  • The Pros and Cons of Bringing Your S.O. To Your Work Holiday Party (I’m All for Flying Solo!)

    by Melissa Melms, Glamour

    Conde Nast ArchiveConde Nast Archive You get the invite from work: "Please come to this year's holiday bash…and bring a friend!" Are you more likely to RSVP +1 or hit the party up solo?

    Back in the day (you know, in like 2010), I was all for bringing J to my work holiday parties. Right out of college I worked with mainly guys at this lifestyle magazine in Hoboken, NJ, but I wanted my guy by my side while they brought their girlfriends and wives. Since it was such a small office, inviting an extra 5 people (our significant others) wasn't a huge deal. We were all friends so it truly was a big party.

    But now I'm all for flying solo at the office bash. Glamour is pretty big and pretty much all ladies, so I like to enjoy a sort of girls' night out with my coworkers. And since J's office is big, too, he goes to his holiday party by himself and enjoys a night out with his buds. Maybe it's because we're living together (or because our jobs require a little extra networking), but we don't invite each

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  • The 7 Things You Learn Your First Year Living with a Guy

    by Melissa Melms, Glamour

    It's really funny how things can change in a year's time. You can move in with a guy, have the time of your life figuring out the whole cohabitation thing and maybe even get engaged. Hey, it happened to me!

    Yeap, in October 2011, J moved into my one bedroom apartment in Hoboken. We had been dating for two years at the time and were both ready to take the next step in our relationship--a step neither of us had taken with anyone else before. And here I am, a little over a year later, engaged this past October and now I'm planning our wedding.

    I remember sitting down to write about "boyfriend-proofing" my apartment right before J moved in. I was so nervous about hiding my tampons and trying to make as much room for him as possible in the closet. Oh, how naive I was! You see, those boyfriend-proofing tips only last a couple months into living with your guy. You can primp and hide your feminine products, but when you're comfortable together you form brand new

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  • The Best and Worst Guy Gifts (According to James Van Der Beek!)

    by Glamour

    James Van Der Beek, the actor formerly known as Dawson, plays a jerky version of himself on Don't Trust the B---- in Apt. 23 and posts silly memes online--but here he gets serious about what guys want this time of year.

    1. Skydiving lessons. Ask, "Have you ever wanted to jump out of an airplane?" and then change the subject. A month later you can give him skydiving lessons, and he won't remember having said it.

    2. Socks. It's the worst present when we're eight; now that we're 28, it's a relief not to have to buy them ourselves. And socks can add a little rebelliousness to our buttoned-up wardrobe.

    3. Tools. But only if you've heard something like, "Man, that new Makita 12-volt drill really looks great." If we're that specific, we mean "Go get it."

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    4. Steak of the month, beer of the month… Food is great. I'm always happy with flavored popcorn.

    5. A personalized barbecue branding iron. That's cool. That's fun. [They actually exist!

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  • Sex on the First Date Might Have Consequences Down the Relationship Road

    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    The typical urban legend is that sex on a first date won't lead to a relationship, period. That's debatable, so a new study has examined what effects, if any, a couple may experience in their relationship as a result of hooking up right away.

    And well, it isn't great. In a study of 11,000 unmarried people in serious relationships, those who engaged in sex before or within the first few weeks of dating had lower levels of relationship satisfaction, communication and stability than those who waited longer. In case you're feeling doubtful about those results, it's in line with earlier research showing that couples who wait longer to have sex have higher marital satisfaction, and the researchers also accounted for other factors that could have affected the findings, such as religion, education, race and number of sexual partners. The results still held.

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    Scientists aren't exactly sure why delaying sex is linked to better

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  • 9 Sets of Crazy Ridiculous "Sexy" Christmas Bedroom Ensembles

    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    Attention all Santa Baby-style gift givers! If you're the type that likes to get your sexy on as a Christmas gift to your man, hey, do your thang! (Did I just say "thang"?) It's not my style, but I can see how some silky red lingerie and a Santa hat, or a strategically placed bow might make for a hot present.

    To help you out, I could have rounded up a selection of sexy, holiday-appropriate lingerie sets, orrrrrr I could show you guys the most utterly ridiculous "sexy" Christmas* get-ups I could find. Guess which I chose?

    You know me well, readers. Let's go for the totally bizarre, who-in-the-world-thought-this-would-be-a-sexy-idea ensembles! (NSFW warning: I didn't show the most racy options, but some of these are straight-up lingerie, so beware in a conservative environment. Though even the more costumey options should probably not be worn publicly. Or privately, unless you're a couple with a great sense of humor and some extra cash to burn.)

    My search

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  • 26 Milestones to Celebrate Passing After a Big Breakup

    by Gena Kaufman, Glamour

    Because girl, surviving a breakup is a marathon, not a sprint.

    After a devastating split, it's hard to get your groove back. What's even worse is that getting over it doesn't happen all at once. Just when you think you're over it, you get hit with another wave of sadness.

    It's taken me about a year to feel fully like myself after my big, life-changing breakup. Along the way, I spent a lot of time beating myself up for not moving on in a speedier fashion but looking back, I can see that only hurt my progress. What I should have done instead was to be proud of myself for every step I took, and when I felt discouraged and set back, looked forward to the next goal.

    Don't repeat my mistake. Pat yourself on the back for each of these little mile markers on your way to a full recovery.

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    1. The first morning he's not the first thing you think of when you wake up.
    2. The first night he's not what you're thinking about as you try

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