Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

  • 6 Ways Living Together Can Kill the Romance

    Melissa Melms, Glamour magazine

    Moving in with your man is a major relationship milestone. J and I are just about to hit the 6-month mark and still feeling the butterflies. My single (and attached-but-not-yet-cohabiting) friends always ask, "How is it?" And, to be honest, I tell them that it's amazing. But it's also still work. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that this man you're living with is your love and not just your roommate. It's very possible to live together and keep the spark in your relationship, but there are six things to watch out for that can totally drain the romance if you let 'em.

    Thinking of moving in with your man or living with him already? Watch out! There are 6 ways living together can kill the romance:

    1. It's easier to neglect quality time.
    Since you technically see each other every day now, it's harder to remember to make that time together count for something. While just dating and living solo, J and I made the extra effort to cuddle

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  • The Easiest, Most Effective Way to Meet Guys

    Gena Kaufman, Glamour magazine

    We've debated the pros and cons of meeting guys at bars, but honestly, is there anything more disappointing then when you get all dolled up, spot some cute guys at the bar, and not a one of them talks to you? I have a solution for that.

    I spent the past weekend visiting with friends in New York, and in addition to getting some quality girl time with my best friends and losing my voice from a late night karaoke session, I stumbled upon an ingenius tip for going out those nights when you're on a mission to meet guys.

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    My friends Kelsey and Laura call it "Together, Alone" and it's a dating challenge they used to do when they were both single. Here's the gist of it: Two girls go out together, but they separate and go to two different bars (preferably on the same block or at least within walking distance). Each girl sits at the bar and orders a drink, and then just waits for the guys to come to her. Which they

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  • 5 Dating Tips from the Smartest Women in the World

    Gena Kaufman, Glamour magazine

    We like to think we can give some pretty smart advice here at Smitten (remember when Anna brought us Occam's razor...for the heart?), but today, I'm turning it over to some women whose brains are on another level. As in, a level above 98% of us. They should be able to figure out the dating scene, right?

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    Last night, it took me (and five of my friends) a solid half hour to figure out how to get the TV and cable to work (boo, we missed the first ten minutes of the Girls premiere), so it's safe to say I'm probably not a genius. Luckily, the Seattle Times recently talked to some of the smartest women in the world--Mensa members!--and got their tips for dating. The tips are coming from their world of being smarter than most men around them, but I think we of slightly less than superhuman intelligence can benefit from the wisdom of these genius ladies.

    1. Be proud of your strengths but don't throw them in guys'

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  • 6 Reasons to Take Yourself on a Date

    Gena Kaufman, Glamour magazine

    Especially when you're newly single, a major bummer about being on your own is that you don't have a built-in Saturday night companion. Sure, you've got plenty of friends and new guys to go out with, but learning to be your own companion is a good move for every woman.

    Single or in a relationship, I'm a huge advocate of an occasional night out by yourself. You may be thinking, "A night to myself? I do that every weekend with a package of Oreos, last week's episode of Smash, and sporadic tears. But thanks for reminding me, Gena." Oh yeah, I do those nights too. No shame in that. But what I mean is not a lazy night in, which is great, but an actual solo night OUT.

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    One of the nicest nights I ever had was last summer was a date with myself. I went to see Midnight in Paris (which I loved), strolled around Washington Square Park with a street vendor hot dog (dude, don't judge me. Hot dogs are delicious even if

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  • 4 Surprising Secrets About Men and Dating

    Ariane Marder, Glamour magazine

    Ultimate Wing Girl and leading female pick-up artist Marni Kinrys has spent nearly a decade coaching men on how to understand women "so that they can get everything they want WITHOUT being d-bags." In the process, she's picked up on a few details about men to help us gals better understand what's happening inside their heads.

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    Below are 4 of her secrets:

    1. Men are scared silly about approaching you.

    After spending time with more than 100,000 men, Marni has come to the conclusion that guys are stuck to their bar stools thinking about the best way to pick you up. That's where she comes in, offering advice to guys on how to read your signals. So, next time you're in a bar and you catch a cutie looking at you across the room, go ahead and walk on over. Most likely he's more nervous than you are.

    2. Men are looking for permission.

    Whether it's the first kiss or second base, men are

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  • Top 10 Biggest Dating Pet Peeves, According to Guys

    Melissa Melms, Glamour magazine

    You meet a nice, attractive guy (read: H O T). He asks you out. You pick out the perfect date night outfit. You return that for a hotter date night outfit (and splurge for the shoes to match). You get your hair did, you're rocking a serious mani and your smoky eye is blended to perfection. Yes, you're all ready for the big night out… but did you know that one false move could totally kill the whole thing? Yes, my dears, guys have some real pet peeves when it comes to the ole dating game, and I've compiled the best to steer clear of from my buds.

    Before you go on your next date, take note of the biggest pet peeves of some of my best dude friends:

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    1. "Don't be rude to the wait staff at a restaurant."-Kyle, 25

    2. "Don't TwitPic the entrée you just ordered on a dinner date. And, with that same entrée, don't look at it, take one bite and say something about being full or carb conscious."-Andrew, 30

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  • What a Guy's Underwear Says About Him

    Anna Breslaw, Glamour magazine

    Your man's undies indicate a lot about who he is! For example, diapers equal baby or extremely old person.

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    I, for one, certainly give a lot of thought to the ol' thong vs. boyshort vs. bikini-cut when it comes to lingerie, even though the guy I'm seeing might not even notice. We've asked about your preference between boxers and briefs, but this morning I got to thinking about dudes' underthings (which sounds way pervier than it actually was) and decided that to truly know who you're dating, you gotta get into their pants-y'know, literally. Because I am an anthropologist. You're welcome.

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    He's either Christian Bale in American Psycho ("I have to go return some videotapes") or someone's dad. Or a Calvin Klein model. In which case, go for it, and ask him to do Blue Steel for you.

    Some girls think this is just right, but I dunno. Does

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  • 4 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

    Ariane Marder, Glamour magazine

    Despite the fact that I've never had a coregasm (and I'm still waiting for it), going to the gym has done wonders for my sex life.

    Lately, I've been sluggish and felt out of shape so I've been hitting the gym harder to make myself feel better. And, ooh boy, the payoff has been more amazing than I could have imagined. Here are four ways exercise has improved my sexy time.

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    I feel sexier.

    I love to be naked, but in the last few months, let's just say I haven't been so psyched about the texture of certain body parts. There's nothing worse than being in the middle of hooking up and being distracted by a dimple of fat you swore wasn't there last year. For those of you who know what I'm talking about, I have one word for you: Yoga. I'm not sure what it is about this ancient discipline that produces immediate results, but it's a freakin' miracle as far as I'm concerned.

    I've got moves.

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  • The Secret to a Lasting Relationship

    Photo courtesy of imdb.comPhoto courtesy of imdb.comGena Kaufman, Glamour magazine

    It's a proven fact that in any delicious dish, the secret to what makes it taste so yummy is basically always butter (this fact was proven in my mouth). For relationships, the secret ingredient is not so clear, but one psychologist has a wise and pretty reasonable answer that's a lot healthier for your heart.

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    Over at Psychology Today, Ph.D. Thomas Plante is lamenting the fact that people are boneheaded about their choices in partners. For some reason, the word "boneheaded" is making me giggle like a sixth-grade boy, but I get what he's saying: People are obsessed with chemistry, attraction and love at first sight (thanks, romantic comedies!), when what they should really be seeking is compatibility. Similar interests, world views, parenting styles, and goals in life can be the true keys to a lasting relationship.

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  • Pros and Cons of a Rebound Relationship

    Photo courtesy of amazon.comPhoto courtesy of amazon.comGena Kaufman, Glamour magazine

    Yesterday we talked a little about dating after a breakup, and a few commenters wisely stressed the importance of a dating detox. I agree that giving yourself a break can be therapeutic in the healing process, but taking the other approach and rebounding into a new relationship can't be all bad, right? I mean, my girl-crush Katy Perry seems like she's having fun with that hot model guy she's supposedly dating.

    Let's consider some of the advantages and disadvantages of the rebound relationship:

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    You aren't sitting at home moping, which is boring. Related: This also means you aren't numbing your pain with an endless supply of French bread pizzas. No breakup weight gain here!

    You're avoiding dealing with your sadness, and all that repression might lead to a breakdown of epic proportions later.


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    Jumping into a relationship too

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