Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

  • 5 Problem Foods To Avoid Ordering on a Date

    By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    As far as dates go, the dinner date seems to be on the endangered list. More often than not, it gets replaced by "grabbing a drink" or "grabbing a coffee." If, however, you get so lucky as to sit across from a guy and be able to look him in the eye over a candlelit meal, peruse this list of food categories that can derail your confidence (or your entire date!):

    1. Foods that are awkward to eat
    Remember the three "S"s: salad, sushi, and spaghetti. Salads that aren't chopped are a messy mouthful (beware giant leaves and cherry tomatoes that squirt). Sushi rolls can be so huge that they're awkward to eat. Spaghetti is also a problem (disregard this if you're good at twirling your pasta, but do remember that tomato sauce tends to splash, particularly when you're wearing white).

    Related: 25 First-Date Dos and Don'ts

    2. Foods with odors that hang around-or revisit you later
    If you read the menu and see the words garlic, onion, marinated, truffle

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  • 7 Reasons To Embrace Your Guy’s Man Cave

    This man cave transforms a tandem garage. Two TVs are the focal points of the space. Salvaged inspirational posters, antique flags, and team jerseys enhance the spirited, rah-rah atmosphere. The Astroturf provides texture and blends in seamlessly with the wood-like furniture palette, yet juxtaposes nicely with sleeker, more artificial elements, like the neon signs and fiberglass surfboards. Not pictured: a full-size kegerator, leather couches, maps, bikes, etc. Interior design by Matt and Rob.This man cave transforms a tandem garage. Two TVs are the focal points of the space. Salvaged inspirational posters, antique flags, and team jerseys enhance the spirited, rah-rah atmosphere. The Astroturf provides texture and blends in seamlessly with the wood-like furniture palette, yet juxtaposes nicely with sleeker, more artificial elements, like the neon signs and fiberglass surfboards. Not pictured: a full-size kegerator, leather couches, maps, bikes, etc. Interior design by Matt and Rob.By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    I visited the most pimped out man cave the other week. Upon crossing the threshold, I just couldn't believe someone had taken the time to decorate so thoroughly with beer signs, jerseys, sports memorabilia, and trophies. He had also built a kegerator from scratch.

    Immediately, I detected threateningly high levels of testosterone in the air, and it caused me to feel uneasy-like when you step out on a humid day after spending an hour straightening your hair. It made me think this person was not relationship-ready since he was nesting in what looked like Sigma Chi 2.0. But slowly-with his help, no less-I have begun to see the overwhelming benefits of dating a boy with a man cave…and here they are, in no particular order:

    1. It keeps him from ogling, meeting, and/or talking to girls.
    If something female wanders into the man cave, it's either you, your cat, or like, a housekeeper.

    Related: 3 Cheap Double Date Ideas

    2. It keeps him from drunk driving

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  • 7 Guys You Should Never Date (Seriously)

    By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    My friend is dating a guy who is bad news. It makes me cringe to hear about him. And while it's fine if you just want to have a fling, it's not a recipe for long-term happiness. I never put up with crappy behavior-it's a waste of my time-and I especially wouldn't get into a relationship with any of the tools I've outlined below. Read on to find out which guys you should never date.

    1. The loafer-dreamer. It's fine if a guy is unemployed. That's pretty common these days. But is he at least looking? Don't nag, but do ask. You may be the breadwinner in the relationship, which is great, but will he pull his weight with other ventures, like planning dates? Or will everything always be on you? Don't date a guy you're going to resent one day.

    2. The negative Ned. Some guys are glass-is-half-empty people, which is fine. But shouldn't a guy feel a little more positive than normal around a woman he wants to impress? If your guy doesn't make an effort to

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  • Do Men Want a Porn Star in the Bedroom?

    By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    I was at a bridal shower in Bel Air this weekend when the hostess mentioned that her neighbor was a well-known adult entertainment star but looked like your everyday mom and was quite a nice neighbor. In fact, the adult actress was so-ahem-hospitable that she'd even had them over to her house for a bite to eat.

    The hostess also told us she'd recently been to the salon and mentioned the name of her neighbor to her hairdresser. A woman in the chair next to her had been eavesdropping and said, "I'm in porn. Everyone hates her-she's dirty." The hostess made a mental note: "I have to stop getting my hair done in the Valley." Ha.

    Related: 15 Things Men Don't Want You to Know About Them

    Anyway, the story reminded me of something I heard long ago…that men want a good girl to marry but a porn star in the bedroom.

    Anyway, I'm making some huge jumps here, but given that the porn star neighbor has a daughter and hosts dinner parties...is it

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  • Relationship Advice: Want Something From Your Guy? Here’s When To Ask!

    By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    Ladies, I've got a little tip for ya. If you want your guy to do you a favor, like taking out the trash, or you want him to grant you a wish, like taking you on a Vegas weekender, there's an optimal time of day to ask him-and it's after 6 p.m. A recent survey of over 1,000 adults found that men, because of their mood swings (or natural biorhythms!), are most likely to say "yes" in the evening.

    You want to approach them when they're least likely to be cranky, which is later in the day.

    Related: 15 Things Men Don't Want You to Know About Them

    Years ago, I was writing an article about PMS and I asked an author and M.D. if there was such a thing as guy PMS. She said that women have a monthly cycle and men have a daily cycle. She went on to explain that a man's testosterone is highest in the morning, so it's best to ask for a favor after 4 p.m.

    Who knows, it could be hocus pocus, but anyway-try manipulating your guy tonight and tell me how

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  • Dating Advice “Straight From Your Gay Best Friend”

    By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    Today we're talking with Terrance Dean, author of a new book called Straight From Your Gay Best Friend: The Straight-Up Truth About Relationships, Work, and Having a Fabulous Life! According to Terrance, gay men are a woman's best ally. "We know how men think," he explains, "yet we also relate to our BFFs because we're in touch with our emotions…We are not trying to sleep with our good girlfriends, and we certainly won't borrow your best fashions and not return them." Read on to find out what your gay best friend knows, after the jump!

    Related: 15 Things Men Don't Want You to Know About Them

    Erin: Since you know men so well, which ones should we stay away from?

    Terrance: If a man tells you he is not interested in being in a relationship, then guess what? That means not with you. If a man tells you that he has a girlfriend but is always looking for more female friends, run, run, run! If a man calls you after midnight to come over to his house,

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  • Have You Ever Stayed In a Relationship Just Because It Was Comfortable?

    By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    I've always been fascinated by couples who stay together because it is easy or it's comfortable. I once knew a couple that was together 9 years but they never got married. They just split-the relationship had run its course. I can't imagine what that's like, since my longest relationship was two years. Certainly it never got boring or dull-just hard. And I've never experienced what Jenny McCarthy tells Oprah on her (pre-taped) show today…

    Jenny claims her relationship with Jim Carrey stopped being fun, according to People. While that can happen in a 5-month or 5-year relationship, I think the odds of the fun ending probably increase with time. Something changes, or you're just with the wrong person.

    I'm scared of this! You put in all that time, and it just peters out? I mean, even dating a crazy comedian like Jim Carrey can stop being fun? How does a relationship just run out of gas? I get how someone cheating could end a relationship, but to

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  • Keeping Up With the Kardashians: Kim Goes on a Blind Date!

    By Kaitlin Menza, Glamour magazine

    When I think of Kim Kardashian, I do not think "unlucky in love." Maybe body-con dresses, flowing locks and that famous tush, but certainly not unlucky in love. But from the sounds of her family members on last night's episode, you'd think she was some kind of sixty-something spinster. The day I find myself pitying Kim K. is a weird one indeed:

    While it was tough fighting the urge to check her out at the Emmy Awards at the same time, the episode was a juicy one. We had the Kardashian-Jenners battling it out for Lakers tickets--and finally deciding to just watch together as one big, happy fam in a big, purple PERSONAL theater. Plus, there was some random laser hair removal with Khloe and Kim (and more discussion of their nether regions).

    But the big storyline was Kim's romantic life, or lack thereof. Fresh off her break-up with dreamboat Reggie Bush, she is surrounded by sisters hell-bent on popping out babies. While Kim seems OK with being single,

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  • Would You Trust Your Friends with Your Love Life?

    I would trust Cheryl with my life love life.I would trust Cheryl with my life love life.By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    Has anyone else been feeling stressed out by online dating lately? There is so much emailing and scheduling just to find out what one guy is like in person. I've been really busy and overwhelmed this month, so I've been having my BFF Cheryl read through the emails and filter for me. If she gets a skeevy feeling, delete! I don't even bother to open the emails first or to glance at what she's reading.

    Related: Relationship Advice: 12 Things Smart Women Know About Men

    The other day, after she gasped at someone in my inbox, her husband asked me, "What if Cheryl just deleted the love of your life?" HA! I say, if she deletes someone, then it wasn't meant to be. If there's a good egg within 20 miles of me and he's on Match.com-and he expresses interest-then she will catch it.

    Cheryl knows what's best for me and what's a waste of my time. She knows my taste in looks, maturity, spirituality, personality, neighborhoods, lifestyle, sense of humor,

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  • Poll: If a Guy Splits the Bill on the First Date, Is He Un-Dateable?

    By Erin Meanley, Glamour magazine

    What do we think about this, ladies? My friend went on a first date last night with a guy and it went really well…

    But when the bill came, she did the wallet reach and said, "We can split," and he was like, "Okay!"

    This morning, she asked me if this is deal-breaker territory. I think splitting the check is very unromantic. I am not into it. I'm pretty old-fashioned, though. Seems like a guy on a first date should want to make a good impression, and if you're not generous in the beginning, when will you be? (We believe he's interested because he initiated contact after the date last night and again this morning.) A few extra dollars is a small price to pay for winning the woman of your dreams! But that's my impractical way of thinking.

    Related: 25 First-Date Dos and Don'ts

    The situation is slightly complicated because she suggested splitting. What would he have done if she hadn't said anything? Since she likes him, I think she should go

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