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  • The 5 Ways You Meet People and What Each Says About You

    by Ben Kassoy

    David TsayDavid TsayMy friend goes to a bar, drinks himself blackout, and wakes up the next morning--disoriented, still drunk--in a stranger's bed, learning her name only when he spies it on a piece of mail while creeping out the door.

    Two years later, they're happily engaged.

    Maybe that's not a fairy-tale story of boy meets girl, but just ask those two: When it comes to love, we'll take it how we can get it.

    Where are you searching for love? And what does that say about you? To find out, recall the people you've dated. Place each person in one (and only one!) of the following five categories:

    1. School: Classmates and people you've met through classmates.

    2. Work: Coworkers and people you've met through coworkers.

    3. Online: All sites and apps.

    4. Bar: (Or club or "lounge," although I've never understood what that is.) This includes strangers--as in, not connections from School or Work--at one of these places.

    5. Miscellaneous: Anyone not in categories one through

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  • Well, This is Great: You Already Have the Secret Weapon to Finding a Lasting Relationship

    by Gena Kaufman

    Getty ImagesGetty ImagesFor all the self-help books and advice columns out there (um, keeping reading my advice anyway, please!), there's one tool we all already have in our arsenal for picking a partner that will keep us happy: our gut instincts.

    And according to a new study, your gut is the best indicator of whether your relationship will stay a happy one. Researchers at Florida State University studied 135 heterosexual couples who were married for less than six months and followed up with them every six months for a four-year period. What they found was interesting: How people reported feeling about their partner didn't always reflect how happy they stayed over time. But their automatic, or gut-level, responses did.

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    In an experiment, people were shown a one-third-of-a-second flash of a photo of their spouse, followed by a positive or negative word, and then they were asked to indicate whether the word was positive or negative. PeopleRead More »from Well, This is Great: You Already Have the Secret Weapon to Finding a Lasting Relationship
  • This Crazy Pair of Underwear Just May Be the Least Sexy EVER

    by Gena Kaufman

    Last year, we thought we'd found the least sexy pair of underwear ever, but today, I spotted a pair that might give them a run for their money. Please prepare your eyes and ensure your boss if not looking over your shoulder.



    Behold, the Baba Invisible Panties:

     Baba Invisible Panties Baba Invisible Panties

    So. Those exist. Well, sort of. The creator is currently seeking funding from Kickstarter to start producing them for the masses who want the feeling of going commando, combined with the ability to wear a pad if it's one of those days and the look that your entire pubic region is a moving box sealed up with clear packing tape. I do appreciate the consideration of our periods, at least.


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    But as a person who has no problem wearing regular underwear made of cloth and seams and general communal dressing-room decency, I might be biased in my opinion that these are ridiculous. However, they do bring up what I think is a fair

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  • The Online Dating Profile Category I Think We Can All Just Skip Answering

    by Gena Kaufman

    Getty ImagesAYI.com recently sent us over some survey results pertinent to curvy women and their chances of online dating success. It was sort of depressing (New York men practically never go for a curvy gal) and occasionally surprising (L.A. is in the top five cities for curvy women?!), but mostly, it got us thinking: Do you even need to label your body type according to some pre-set answer?

    Here are a few of the various answers you might be provided by an online dating forum to describe yourself: slender, big and beautiful, athletic/fit, average, overweight, and the aforementioned curvy. But even if given a decent amount of choices, isn't this all kind of subjective anyway? People have pretty different ideas of what constitutes an attractive body type. Especially when it comes to themselves--I know plenty of women with what I consider enviable figures who would never describe themselves as slender because they are too busy thinking their thighs are huge. (They're not.)

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  • Bad News: You Might Be More Likely to Get Stood Up on THIS Day of the Week

    by Gena Kaufman

    Kate PowersKate Powers

    Uh-oh--I hope I didn't make you nervous if you do have big plans for Monday night. I personally enjoy a Monday-night date--it's less pressure than a weekend date, and it gives you something to look forward to and a reason to get dressed up on what's usually the most miserable day of the week.

    But alas, I'm in the minority on this one. According to a Match.com survey, Mondays are the least popular day for a date. Weekend dates are not only much more popular than dates that are early in the week, but 81 percent of people said they are more likely to cancel a date on a weeknight. Also, the number one reason people cancel a Monday date is because they need a post-weekend gym visit. The gym! If someone canceled a date with me to go to the gym instead, I would be so mad. Other reasons some jerk might stand you up on a Monday: work commitments (fair), being too tired (suck it up), being unable to afford it (um, learn to budget on the weekends, people), and getting a

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  • Tall, Dark, and Drinks as Much (or as Little) as You: The New Relationship Requirement

    by Gena Kaufman

    Getty ImagesGetty Images

    If we're being honest, we here at Smitten think that drinking and dating go hand in hand in a lot of ways. But only in moderation! There has to come a point where drinking could actually interfere with your relationship, right?


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    Right. But it's not for couples who drink a lot. And couples who don't drink much also tend to be fine. The problem comes in when partners aren't on the same page where drinking is concerned. According to new research on 634 married couples for nine years after their weddings, the rate of divorce was much higher (50 percent) for couples with one heavy drinker than the rate of divorce for couples where both parties drank (30 percent). Interestingly, couples who were both heavy drinkers were no more likely to divorce than couples in which neither partner was much of a drinker.

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    This makes a lot of sense, no? Drinking isn't

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  • Men's Top 3 Sexual Regrets Are Extremely Different from Women's

    by Gena Kaufman

    Getty ImagesGetty ImagesAccording to a new study from the University of Texas and the University of California, Los Angeles, both men and women have regrets when it comes to sex, but the genders vary greatly when it comes to what they regret specifically.

    Men's top three regrets mostly had to do with not having sex...

    1. Not approaching a possible partner because he was too timid.
    2. Not being more sexually adventurous in his youth.
    3. Not being more sexually adventurous when he was single.

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    …whereas women seemed to feel the exact opposite.

    1. Losing her virginity to the wrong partner.
    2. Cheating on someone, in the present or past.
    3. Moving too fast sexually.

    As tends to get mentioned in practically every study on sexuality, researchers speculate that the higher consequences of casual sex for women are likely to have shaped our emotional reactions and regrets. Sigh. (Ladies, here's how I think we should all

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  • If You're Faking it in Bed, You're More Likely to Do This Other Unpleasant Thing Too

    by Gena Kaufman

    George HolzGeorge Holz
    Fake it till you make it? Not so much...

    In a study of male and female college students, scientists looked at couples' orgasm frequency to see if it affected their relationships. Interestingly, women who had more orgasms were no more or less faithful than women whose climaxes were more sporadic.


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    But women who faked more orgasms were more likely to have cheated previously, and they were more likely to do it again.


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    Researchers didn't say why, but it makes sense that if a woman isn't satisfied (physically, emotionally, or I'm guessing, a combo of both), she might continue looking elsewhere to meet her needs. Clearly, this doesn't mean that if you've ever faked an orgasm, you're on a path to cheat. But if you're finding yourself doing it often, you might want to take a look at your relationship satisfaction.


    Have you ever been in a relationship

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  • Guys Are Really Stepping Up Their Craigslist Missed Connections Lately, Huh?

    by Gena Kaufman

    Getty ImagesGetty ImagesI basically think all posted missed connections are romantic, but man oh man, guys are really taking their game to the next level lately. No more "I spotted you on the corner of 5th and Maple Streets. You were wearing a blue shirt and smiled. Call me." These days, if it doesn't inspire an epic love story, it's not worth pursuing the connection.


    First, there was this story about a not-quite-couple riding the Q train together for a lifetime that was lovely, fanciful, and, as commenter mevelas89 pointed out, just a touch Ted Mosby-esque. And yesterday, another long-lost tale of NYC romance was posted, although this one could be more than a fantasy.


    Here's the full text of the listing, which has since been taken down:


    Grand Central -- November 1973 -- m4w - 58 (Midtown)

    In the fall of 1973 I was studying as a freshman at NYU, and after failing to make my initial train home to Maine, I was rushing through Grand Central on the evening before Thanksgiving 1973 when

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  • 2 Super-Easy Ways to Save Money when You're Choosing Your Wedding Venue

    by Kim Fusaro

    It's cute 'til you realize he has to get all the guests to the wedding in the basket, too. (Getty Images)It's cute 'til you realize he has to get all the guests to the wedding in the basket, too. (Getty Images) When you first get engaged, you'll probably start daydreaming about all sorts of out-there wedding venues: a remote field of daisies, your childhood summer camp. But an unconventional wedding venue isn't in the cards for most brides and grooms, simply because the cost is SO prohibitive. Think about it: EVERYTHING you need for even a simple wedding in an empty loft space or your parents' backyard--every chair, every table, every for, every glass, every napkin, possibly every toilet--needs to be brought in from various rental companies. And the cost of all those rentals adds up quickly. Plus, if you consider the various licenses and permits you'll need to obtain to host a huge party (assuming you're having more than, say, 20 wedding guests) well, it's easy to see why most brides and grooms go the traditional route when it comes to a wedding venue.


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