Blog Posts by Smitten, Glamour Magazine

  • 6 Things Most Women Would Choose Over Sex (and One of Them is so Crazy Boring I Can't Believe It)

    by Gena Kaufman

    George HolzGeorge HolzThere are two types of people in the world: People who are obsessed with TV, and people I do not want to be friends with, because hello, what would we even talk about then??

    In a survey of 2,000 women, a mere six percent said they'd choose a night of sex when given the choice of a variety of ways to spend an evening. In contrast, 39 percent said they'd opt to spend the night curled up in front of their television.

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    Other things women chose in higher numbers over sex? Reading a book, watching a movie, cooking a nice dinner, pampering themselves, and…catching up on paperwork.

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    You guys. WHAT is going on here? When you combine this with the survey about "me" time we looked at earlier this month, it's like, is there anything women like less than sex? A night of TV, I get. You can do it for hours and eat snacks during without it

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  • 10 Celebrity Ex-Couples We Still Miss a Little

    by Gena Kaufman

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    I don't know whether the recent rumors that Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling are dating again have even a shred of truth behind them, but I know I kind of want them to be true. If you don't tearfully envision him saying, "It wasn't over. It still isn't over!" and then grabbing her for a rain-soaked kiss IRL, then you have a cold, cold heart, my friend.


    Here are nine other couples a tiny part of us can't help but feel nostalgic about in their glory days (even though we love their current significant others too and mean no disrespect to their happy relationships!)

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    Justin Timberlake and Britney Spears
    Anyone who grew up in the '90s/early 2000s is still secretly a little brokenhearted that this teenage dream didn't work out. However, we can all agree to be mildly pacified if Jessica Biel and Justin agree to appear on the red carpet only in matching denim for the rest of their lives together.


    Brad Pitt and Gwyneth Paltrow
    If it weren't for Angelina and the

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  • Heartache 101: 4 Breakup Rules for Dumpers and Dumpees

    by Glamour

    Katy Perry is doing just fine, and you will be, too. (Getty Images)Katy Perry is doing just fine, and you will be, too. (Getty Images)
    Rules for Dumpers
    You're over him. Here's how to deliver the news nicely:

    1. Never end a relationship via text message.
    You're better than Russell Brand! A breakup should be at least slightly harder to initiate than a game of Words With Friends.

    2. Don't say you "want space" when you really just want to break up. Actually, never say you "want space," period. If that's what you want, move to the country.

    3. In your actual breakup conversation, focus on the big picture.
    Pick the top two or three reasons things aren't working and stick to them. His playing air guitar in public doesn't need to come into this.

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    4. Be kind. Be honest. Be respectful. Be unavailable. As bad as you feel, you are the very last person your former beau should be leaning on to process this breakup--and you might have to be the one who enforces this rule.


    Rules for Dumpees
    So. The worst has happened. Here's what to do now:

    1. Write
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  • Dating Advice: What to Do when You Hook Up with Your Coworker, but He Has a Girlfriend

    by Gena Kaufman

    Getty ImagesGetty ImagesToday, I'm chatting with a reader in a situation that sounds soundly familiar to me. Help me discuss it with her.

    She writes...

    I'm a college student with two jobs. At one of them, we recently hired a new guy. At first, I just thought of him as a nice guy and for a while it was strictly professional, as it should be. One day we were texting and I told him how I was going to get a tattoo for my birthday, and he said it was sexy. I smiled when he said that but didn't reply because it was a little uncomfortable--he has a live-in girlfriend!

    The next day he told me he had a dream that we had sex all over the office. I was shocked and I didn't know what to say. Then my stupid self replied with "I've always wanted to have spontaneous sex at the office." And from there, we were flirting. Everyday. Then we slept together, and next thing I knew, we were co-workers with benefits. Last week, while in bed, I thought to myself how much of a bad person I am and how I can't

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  • The 8 Most Attractive Accents in North America

    by Gena Kaufman

    Paul Costello Paul Costello For most guys I date, I never even think about their accent as being a factor in their attractiveness. Because most guys I meet in New York have an accent I refer to as "Ugh, who even cares, it's not British." Zzzzz.


    But that's not fair. Being a U.S. born-and-raised citizen with my own native accent (that I insist is NOT an accent although I definitely notice differences between the way I speak in New York and the way I speak at home in Ohio), I should be more appreciative of our own locally-grown, North American accents.

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    And some people do enjoy many of the accents our continent has to offer, although frankly, people are not appreciative enough of my native drawl.


    Based on a survey of over 2,000 people by Cupid.com, here are the eight most attractive accents in North America--along with the percentage of people who chose them and the male/female split in opinion:

    1st Southern - 36.5% (45/28)
    2nd

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  • Sorry, Boyfriends: 1 in 10 Women Love THIS More Than Their Partner

    by Gena Kaufman

    David Tsay David Tsay Man's best friend might have just become his mortal enemy due to stealing his woman.

    According to a survey by a British animal charity, one in 10 women admitted to loving her pet more than her partner. Another third said they have equal feelings for their pet and their partner. So just FYI, only about 60 percent of women actually love their significant other more than their dog/cat/ferret/pet rock.* I still think pet people are kind of weird, but after those kind of numbers, maybe I should just give up this whole boyfriend search and get myself a furry little companion of the canine variety, huh?

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    Even if they don't place their pet above their man in the rankings of their heart, pets still play a major role in relationships. More than half of women said they would seek comfort from their pet after a fight with their husband. And if ignored by their guy, another 39 percent would seek affection from their pet.

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  • Would You Rather Give Up Sex or "Me" Time?

    by Gena Kaufman

    George HolzGeorge HolzA tricky question about two various stress-relievers: If you had to give up either sex or "me" time, which would you sacrifice?

    In a new survey of 500 commissioned by Celestial Seasonings (as in the many teas, an excellent accompaniment to "me" time), guess what an overwhelming majority chose. Buh-bye, sex! A whopping 76 percent said it would be worse to do without "me" time.


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    And where do women like to spend their quality time with themselves? In bed (44 percent), in the bathroom (37 percent), and even the garage (6 percent). I don't really know what people do in the garage because I live in New York City, so what even is a garage, you guys? It sounds like a magical place where you can store crap that doesn't fit in your house, and I want one. Ahem, as for the other places, I'm always in the mood for a nap or a nice long bath, and if I'm doing them alone, I don't have to think about whether or not I shaved my

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  • How Much Would You Pay Someone to Manage Your Online Dating Profile?

    by Gena Kaufman

    George Holz George Holz There's a reason we all complain about online dating even if we do it (and even though we all know someone who met their spouse through it!): It's a major hassle, and sometimes it feels like it's all for very little payoff. You've got to sift through dozens of generic, aggressively sexy, or insulting messages. You have to read profiles with long lists of "favorite" obscure French directors and indie bands, rate potential matches, and keep your own profile up-to-date. And half the time, this is all before you've even gotten to the stage of actually messaging another person. I'm tired just from talking about it.

    Which is why it kind of makes sense that eHarmony is launching a personal matchmaking service for its online dating site. The service, which will cost $5,000, will entail speaking with a personal counselor, who will then sift through profiles and approach matches on your behalf.

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    There are some obvious

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  • 3 Guy-Approved Ways to Turn Down a Date Without Hurting His Feelings

    by Gena Kaufman

    Kate Powers Kate Powers A reader recently wrote to ask me if she should turn down a guy she thought was really great but wasn't physically attracted to, and if so, how should she do it without being too harsh? For the first part of her question, I'm including links to past discussions of the issue at the end of this post.


    But I've contemplated the dilemma of how to turn a guy down without being awkward or plain old cruel a few times myself, so I consulted some men in my circle of acquaintances for their take on the issue. If they have to be rejected--sorry guys!--what's the way they'd prefer it to happen? Here are three ways to do it:


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    Just say no. Not to bring up '80s anti-drug slogans into the conversation, but sometimes, the simplest answer is the easiest to stick to. In fact, it was the most common response from the guys I informally surveyed. It's hard to come right out and say it, and sure, it probably doesn't feel great to

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  • The Other Thing 25 Percent of Guys Are Faking in Bed

    by Gena Kaufman

    Kate Powers Kate Powers

    We've established that guys do in fact fake orgasms on occasion. We're less clear about how. But guess what else they're pretending to do?


    Love, you guys. Instead of making love, they're faking love. You'll note what I did there, because it's a very substandard joke.

    According to an Australian survey, a quarter of men admitted to lying about their feelings and declaring their love during sex. Only 6.1 percent of women said the same.

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    (Interestingly, both sexes were equal in the amount of people--6.25 percent--who have faked tears during sex, which, WHAT? I don't even understand why you would ever do that. Isn't crying during sex a turn-OFF? Are you faking tears to get the other person to want to leave immediately? Oh. Maybe I do get it.)


    Anyway, why do you think men are more likely to say an insincere "I love you" during sex? Some theories (from my head) that could fit the bill:

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