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Back in the days of yore, my dad called his parenting technique "the carrot and the stick." This metaphor probably had something to do with his own childhood, spent on a ranch raising sheep. The "carrot" part occurred when he'd offer me jelly beans in order to get me to do something I didn't want to do-for example, wash his truck or keep hiking up a steep mountain trail.
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The "stick" part occurred when he'd yell at me in the world's deepest and most booming voice, also to get me to do something I didn't want to do-for example, wash his truck or keep hiking up a steep mountain trail. He switched between the two methods at whim and to great success, at least in my book. As a child, I did what my dad said.
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Now we're all our own parents, and there are so many things we don't want to do. Like wake up at 6 in the morning and pay the bills we ignored the
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Master 3 New Dishes So You Can Make Them in Your Sleep
The perfect back-pocket recipe has a short ingredient list and major possibilities. We found three easy-to-memorize ones from new cookbooks, that we promise you won't get tired of.
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Making carnitas entails roasting cubes of pork, lamb or even goat with spices until they're crispy. From there, you can toss the meat with pasta, fold it into a tortilla, serve it over creamy polenta or mashed sweet potatoes, or with cornbread. Make this recipe once, and you'll never need to look at it again. Roast beef is another workhorse, and Parisian chef Stéphane Reynaud says it should not be relegated to Sundays. To prove it, he presents this seven-ingredient recipe, which you can make in about 45 minutes. And then there's risotto. The creamy Italian rice dish can go in any direction based on the vegetables you have, whether you fancy asparagus or winter squash.
- Oprah.com | Work + Money – Fri, Jan 6, 2012 7:13 PM EST
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In 1989 Pamela Weiss quit her office job to spend a summer at a Buddhist monastery outside Carmel, California. That summer turned into two years and, eventually, a new title: Zen Buddhist monk.
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Now Weiss offers mindfulness workshops to corporations like Genentech and Twitter through her company, Appropriate Response. Weiss, 49, believes that "bringing your whole self to work-mind, heart, and body-helps you find the best response to a situation." (Better than, say, firing off an angry e-mail after a heated meeting or stressing out before a big deadline.) Here, she shares four ways to infuse your cubicle with calm.
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Find your footing: Next time you're feeling overwhelmed, press your feet against the floor. "By establishing a strong physical foundation, you bring a sense of balance to the body," says Weiss.
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Golden Rule #1
The right-size bra can rectify a multitude of fashion faux pas. A fitting at a good lingerie store costs nothing-and will instantly make you look better.
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Golden Rule #2
Build a good look from the inside out. Because of new technology and fabrics, shapewear is more effective and comfortable than ever.
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Golden Rule #3
Your mother was right: Stand up straight. It will counteract muffin top, pooch, mom butt, and even turkey neck faster than you can snap on the Spanx.
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Golden Rule #4
When in doubt, choose clothing made in thicker fabrics and dark colors. Jersey may be comfortable, but it will also cling to every lump and bump.
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Laura Berman, PhD, host of OWN's In the Bedroom, shares some advice on having much more of a great thing.
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"Sex is not only beneficial for your relationship. People who enjoy it twice a week may get a boost to their immune system, according to a Wilkes University study.
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And women who are less satisfied sexually are more likely to have plaque buildup in their arteries. The most common roadblock people complain about is a busy schedule. Get around that by picking a time and date with your partner.
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The buildup will compensate for the lack of spontaneity. And remember: No partner doesn't mean no sex. This is about health and happiness, so don't be afraid to take care of yourself."
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If You've Got 5 Minutes for the Environment...
Reset the schedule on your automatic sprinklers so your lawn is irrigated in the early morning or late evening. Evaporation during daytime hours means as much as 30 percent of water never makes it into the soil, which can amount to 126 gallons of water wasted each week at your house alone.
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Older toilets use as much as seven gallons of water with each flush-when less than a gallon can do the trick. Not ready to replace a gallon guzzler? Fill a plastic bottle with water and a bit of sand or gravel and submerge it in the tank (careful to keep clear of the stopper) for a do-it-yourself low-flow throne.
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Switch from decaf to caffeinated coffee.
Caffeine can actually inhibit the growth of cancer cells-and may lower your risk for the disease. (Click here to learn what your morning brew can do for your brain.)
Photo: ThinkstockEat a snack postworkout instead of waiting for your next meal.
The moment you drop the hand weights or step off the treadmill, you enter a 45-minute metabolic phase; refueling with protein and carbs during this period (say, a glass of chocolate milk or yogurt and fruit) is crucial for repairing muscle tissue.
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Makeup artist Derrick Rutledge's advice to make the problem disappear...
The Tool Kit
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Soft Brown Eyeshadow (likfe Illamasqua Powder Eye Shadow in Heroine, $20, Sephora.com): Look for matte shadows; shimmer can accentuate fine lines or crepiness.
Volumizing Mascara (like CoverGirl LashPerfection Mascara, $6, drugstores): Lush lashes distract from swelling beneath the eyes.
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Directions1. Fill in gaps in your brows with short, feathery strokes of a pencil. Strong brows draw attention up and away from bags under the eyes.
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- Oprah.com | Parenting – Thu, Dec 22, 2011 3:08 PM EST
By Corrie Pikul Read More »from 5 Things You Never Thought of Doing in Your Hometown
Most trips home are spent seeing who needs to be seen (grandmothers, nephews, brothers-in-law), avoiding those who need to be avoided (ex-boyfriends, the mean girl from seventh grade, brothers-in-law) and doing our best to stay out of fights (with all of the above). Experts say we can get a lot more out of our trip. Here are seven ways to make the most of your visit.
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1. Cue up videos of your younger, less self-conscious, more exuberant self.
Dig out the recordings of you doing those things you just loved as a kid: twirling the baton, playing the flute, acting in living room theater. Even if these videos contain mortifying moments of flop sweat and botched lines, they'll still make you flush with pleasure, says Tim Wildschut, PhD, an associate professor at the University of Southampton in England, who researches nostalgia. You'll unconsciously emphasize the aspects you loved about this activity-the exhilaration of performing, the
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To write his book, Thrive: Finding Happiness the Blue Zones Way, Dan Buettner teamed with psychologists and scientists to seek out the world's happiest people. We asked him to apply the lessons he's learned to the search for workaday bliss-whether you've already found your dream job or you're still dreaming:
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1. Get away from the grind: Studies show that leisure time can mitigate job-related stress, reduce the risk of depression, and improve self-esteem. No wonder, then, that Denmark, where employers are required to give five to six weeks of paid time off each year, is one of the happiest places on Earth. Contrast that with the United States, where the average American worker receives only about 16 paid vacation days each year-and more than a third of us don't even take them all. The first rule: Never leave vacation days on the table. Even if you don't have the money to splurge on an exotic trip, a "staycation"