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  • The Average American Gets Married at This Age…

    By Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

    The Average American Gets Married at This Age…The Average American Gets Married at This Age…The New York Times ran an interesting story on the "disestablishment" of marriage this weekend, which unpacks the state of marital unions in this country - which is not as bleak as you might think! People are still getting married - just a little bit later than what used to be the norm.

    And whereas anyone who's seen Our Town or played the board game Life can tell you that marriage used to be the biggest decision a person makes in their lifetime, one that defined their time on earth more than any other, these days, marriage is just.

    An important decision still? But one of many, many you will make over the course of your life, and no more life altering than deciding what college to go to, whether to take that new job at a smaller company, or move to Paris for a year, or go back for your Master's, etc., etc.

    Plus: 25 Pickup Lines for Kale Lovers

    By the time the average American is getting married, they've probably made a bunch of important decisions

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  • 15 Bridesmaid Dresses You’ll Actually Want to Wear Again (And Again)

    By Samantha Lim for HowAboutWe

    So you've received and graciously accepted your friend's request to be her bridesmaid. While you're happy to share in her big day, you're probably wondering what tulle'd, taffeta'd and laced monstrosity she'll be forcing you to wear. In front of people. Luckily, the 80s are over and you can now find bridesmaid dresses you'd actually want to wear - again and again. Here are 15 of our favorites.

    Marisa Knee-Length Halter Dress


    Marisa Knee-Length Halter DressMarisa Knee-Length Halter Dress
    $248, BCBG Maxazria

    Arlena On-Shoulder Lace Cocktail Dress

    Arlena On-Shoulder Lace Cocktail DressArlena On-Shoulder Lace Cocktail Dress
    $298, BCBG Maxazria

    Plus: 20 WTF Engagement Photos

    Catherine Malandrino Strapless Tulip-Hem Dress

    Catherine Malandrino Strapless Tulip-Hem DressCatherine Malandrino Strapless Tulip-Hem Dress
    $168.75, Saks Fifth Avenue

    Seanas Embellished Washed-Silk Gown

    Seanas Embellished Washed-Silk GownSeanas Embellished Washed-Silk Gown
    $945, Net-a-Porter

    Pinko Wedding Short Dress

    Pinko Wedding Short DressPinko Wedding Short Dress
    $125, Yoox

    Plus: 8 Bridesmaids Photos That Make You Want To Get Married Just For The Bridesmaids

    Kerensa Printed Maxi Dress

    Kerensa Printed Maxi DressKerensa Printed Maxi Dress
    $330, Reiss

    Ain't We Haute Fun? Dress in Floral Flourish

    Ain't We Haute Fun? Dress in Floral FlourishAin't We Haute Fun? Dress in Floral Flourish
    $75, Modcloth

    Plus: Tips for Single Women from 1938

    Aidan Mattox Printed Long

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  • What It’s like to Waitress at an Erotic Supper Club

    by Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

    What It's Like to Waitress at an Erotic Supper ClubWhat It's Like to Waitress at an Erotic Supper ClubHave you ever been fork-fed "by means of sheer pelvic fortitude?" No, me neither, but if that's an experience you'd like to add to your arsenal of icebreakers, there's an erotic supper club in San Francisco that provides just that experience. Scantily clad waitstaff act as both servers and platters, and are encouraged to kiss, cuddle, flirt, and "massage" as they see fit.

    One such waitress recounted her adventures in erotic dining for NYMag's The Cut, and her story is fascinating:

    "Generally, guests are a bit older than those hot twentysomethings feeding them. They're mostly couples, some single men, and the occasional ambiguous triad. Between courses, servers are directed to dance, kiss, and touch. Gradually, we dramatically remove each other's clothing. Like our degree of undress, flirtation with patrons is measured to the menu's progress: Running appetizers, we may barely touch the guests. In the end, we're in their laps, feeding them chocolate mousse.

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  • Love Lessons to Learn from Tony Soprano

    by Jo Piazza for HowAboutWe

    Love Lessons to Learn from Tony SopranoLove Lessons to Learn from Tony Soprano When you think of Tony Soprano, you don't typically think of love. You do think of a man who may have had more mistresses than Tiger Woods.

    How can we hold his character (so geniously portrayed by the late and great actor James Gandolfini) in any esteem when it comes to relationships or marriage?

    Plus: Love Advice from James Gandolfini in His Most Underrated Movie, 'The Mexican'

    Gandolfini's monster of a mobster may have been flawed, but there was nothing he loved more than his family. He may not have known how to express that love, but the audience felt it and I personally think that is what made the character so relatable to millions of fans of the series.There are lessons to be learned from Mr. Soprano, some of them firmly tongue in cheek and others less so.

    1. Marriage is work. Sure, Ben Affleck may have popularized the phrase at this year's Oscars, but: did any couple truly live the maxim that marriage - and staying together through thick and thin -

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  • Do Men Need to ‘Lean In’ Too?

    By Amit Wehle for HowAboutWe
    Do men need to lean in too>Rest assured the debate and cultural ripple effects from Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In are still alive and kicking - and now men have leapt into the discussion, as evidenced by NY Mag's "Can Men Worry About 'Having It All' Too?" and Esquire's, "Why Men Still Can't Have It All Maybe."

    Plus:
    "Anti-Pervert Stockings For Young Girls Going Out"

    Not to discredit the interpretation and analysis of each response, but there is something funny when a book promoting equality for women in the workforce turns into a discussion by twenty-something Williamsburg dudes over what schools their future children will attend.

    Don't get me wrong, important topics promote important discussion. Kurt Soller's NY Mag piece brings up a legitimate concern: namely that men should be as vested and informed about their non-work lives as women are. But somehow his overall premise - that he, and most men, are painfully untrained (emotionally and logistically) for this sort of involvement -

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  • The Classic Couples Fight Reenacted by Angry Legos

    By Marla Pachter for HowAboutWe

    Recently, The Guardian reported that Lego faces have been getting angrier. Legos used to all be happy, but the increasing number of character minifigures created since the 90s has resulted in more variety. The article speculated that these angry faces lead children to play with their toys in a different way.

    We agree. We also happen to be kids at heart. Without further ado, we give you "The Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)."

    1. You're just chillin', having a good time together.

    Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)

    Plus: The 5 Biggest Myths You've Been Told About Sex

    2. When one of you says something slightly offensive…

    Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)

    3. And the other one over-reacts a little.

    Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)

    Plus: How Do I Know When the Relationship's Worth Fighting For?

    4. You're immediately petrified…

    Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)

    5. But that passes quickly, and now you're ready for a fight.

    Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)

    6. Before you can get a word in, your partner is already coming at you with an insult.

    Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)Anatomy of a Relationship Fight (as Told by Angry Legos)
    Plus: What Your Favorite TV Show Says About You on a Date

    7.

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  • The 7 Steps to Letting Inner Happiness Guide Your Relationships

    The 7 Steps to Letting Inner Happiness Guide Your RelationshipsThe 7 Steps to Letting Inner Happiness Guide Your RelationshipsBy Corinna Fales for HowAboutWe

    I've finally developed clarity about dating and relationships in my mid-60s, after 23 years with my husband, a divorce 16 years ago, and a long string of relationships since. Over the years, I've built an honest and intimate relationship with myself that enables me to answer many of the relationship questions I used to agonize over. Most importantly, I always know that no matter what happens with a man, no matter what the circumstances, I will be just fine.

    Plus: The 5 Biggest Myths You've Been Told About Sex

    Here's the trick: regardless of your age, if you're willing to really get to know yourself, you can develop the same ability. But it takes effort, care, and mindfulness. Here are the 7 steps to getting there.

    1. Spend real time-in silence
    In nature, whatever works for you-quietly learning to listen to yourself. Detach from any distractions, especially technology.

    Plus: How Do I Know When the Relationship's Worth Fighting For?

    2. Listen to what

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  • What is Arranged Marriage Really Like?

    by Marla Pachter for HowAboutWe

    What Is Arranged Marriage Really Like?What Is Arranged Marriage Really Like?In our culture, arranged marriages are discussed with a negative slant - we tend to equate "arranged" with "forced," and look at the practice as some sort of barbaric ritual. Still, regardless of Western culture's distaste, thousands of people around the world enter into arranged marriages each year.

    Plus: The 7 Steps to Letting Inner Happiness Guide Your Relationships

    When one Reddit user asked the question, "Reddit users in arranged marriages, what has it been like?" the responded showed that arranged marriage isn't wrong - it's just different. And just like marriage in our culture, the comments range from couples who have been together for ages and are really in love, to couples for whom it just didn't work out. Here are a few of the best comments:

    "My parents' marriage was arranged. My maternal grandfather (major general in the Indian Army) served under my paternal great-grandfather (Chief of Army Staff). So the families had known each other for

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  • 9 Pieces of Love Advice from Our Favorite TV Dads

    9 Pieces of Love Advice From Our Favorite TV Dads9 Pieces of Love Advice From Our Favorite TV DadsBy Marla Pachter for HowAboutWe

    "If you can't talk to your dad, then who can you talk to?" - Sandy Cohen, "The OC"

    Our thoughts exactly, Sandy. So we picked out some of our favorite quotes from TV dads offering love advice to their children. It's not all the best advice ever, but they mean well, you know?

    Happy Father's Day!

    1. On Meeting the right person:
    "There are dreamers and there are realists in this world, you think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists, but more often than not the opposite is true. See the dreamers need the realists to keep the dreamers from soaring too close to the sun. And the realists? Well without the dreamers, they might not ever get off the ground." - Cam, "Modern Family"

    9 Pieces of Love Advice From Our Favorite TV Dads9 Pieces of Love Advice From Our Favorite TV Dads

    Plus: How Do I Know When the Relationship's Worth Fighting For?

    2. On impressing your date:
    Uncle Jesse: [D.J. wants to learn to drive with Danny] Hey, Danny, come on. I'm sure when you were 15 you were dyin' to get behind the wheel of your

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  • Can Couples Be Roommates with Other Couples?

    by Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

    Can Couples Be Roommates With Other Couples?Can Couples Be Roommates With Other Couples?Last week, the New York Times published an article on how couples in New York often live together to save money on rent. (And how this, in the case of breakups, leads to complications.)

    But some attached (and broke) New Yorkers have gone to even more extreme lengths in order to cohabitate and save money: living with another couple. Because why divide the rent by two when you can divide by four?

    Plus: How Do I Know When the Relationship's Worth Fighting For?

    Though the idea of being in a relationship and sharing quarters with another romantic duo might seem stifling to some, rising rents are forcing more and more couples to cohabitate with each other - and for the most part, the situation seems to work out just fine.

    In fact, living with another couple can be a useful first step in the path toward full cohabitation. Julie and Mike, 25 and 26, have been dating since college, but when they decided to move in together last month, they signed a lease in

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