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  • The Secret to Getting Him to Commit

    by Terri Trespicio for HowAboutWe

    The Secret to Getting Him to CommitThe Secret to Getting Him to Commit So you think that the man (or woman) you're dating will never commit to you, because he can't or won't, or both. And that you'll never, ever be able to find a man who will commit to you, because men suck and then you die. Ok. Rewind.

    A woman I know from Miami told me about a brief affair she had with a gentleman. They had delicious chemistry and kissed with their mouths open and all kinds of lovely, sexy stuff happened. "But it won't work out because he's noncommittal."

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    They had just met. How does she know this? She doesn't. She made up a story that no one would want just her, and then blamed him for it. How would you know someone is or isn't or could be committed to you after knowing them a week? You can't.

    This persistent idea here - that some people JUST CAN'T commit - is bullshit. Why? Because anyone can commit. It's a decision, not a personality trait-it involves a specific set

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  • by Marla Pachter for HowAboutWe

    We all have exes; it's a valuable part of growing up. As my mom always said, "You have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince." It's good to have those experiences, because dating the wrong person helps you figure out when you've found the right person. Sometimes we're bitter about our experiences, and sometimes we're able to stay friends. 'He's like Sour Patch Kids: Sour, Sweet, Gone': Redditors Describe Their Exes as Food'He's like Sour Patch Kids: Sour, Sweet, Gone': Redditors Describe Their Exes as Food

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    In responding to the question, "If You Could Describe Your Ex as a Piece of Food, What Would it Be?", Reddit commenters channeled however they were feeling about their exes into creative expression. The responses are thoughtful, cathartic, and largely hilarious. Here are the best of the bunch:

    "As an oatmeal raisin cookie. At first, you think it's a chocolate chip cookie and you're so fucking excited to eat it. Then you take a huge bite and realize it's not what you thought it was, and isn't nearly as good as you hoped it would be. You find that

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  • 5 Couples Torn Apart by Government Scandals

    By Melissa Wall for HowAboutWe

    When Edward Snowden blew the whistle on the NSA surveillance scandal, he was prepared. After telling his longterm girlfriend that he would "have to be away for a few weeks for work," he left for Hong Kong and has been holing up in a hotel room ever since. Snowden doesn't know what will happen next, and he may never see his girlfriend again.

    Whether you think Snowden is a champion of democracy or a narcissist who took the law into his own hands, his was a relationship that was torn apart by a government scandal. His girlfriend, an innocent party, may never have her life be the same. And she will not be the first woman to find herself and her relationship embroiled in political turmoil. Here are 5 other tragic tales of love and/or relationships torn apart by government intervention.

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    1. Aung San Suu Kyi

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    Under house arrest in her home country of Burma, imprisoned by a hostile and oppressive regime, she was

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  • 10 Ways Your Wedding Videographer Can Tell If Your Marriage Will Last

    by Andrea Duchon for HowAboutWe

    10 Ways Your Wedding Videographer Can Tell If Your Marriage Will Last10 Ways Your Wedding Videographer Can Tell If Your Marriage Will Last In a perfect world, everyone would find their soul mate, recite a set of heartfelt vows, and ride away into the sunset on the path to happily ever after. In the real world, however, the numbers tell us that around 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. What gives? How is it that so many people could be so wrong about something so important?

    The truth is, there are definite warning signs to whether or not your relationship is destined for marital bliss or for divorce court. And the fact of the matter is that while you may not be able to recognize trouble, the people you've brought in to help with your big day can often see it loud and clear.

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    I'm talking about your hair stylist, your florist, and yes - your wedding videographer. Not only have they watched you interact before, during, and sometimes after your "I do's," but they also see countless successful and failed couples go through the same

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  • Are Your Roommates Keeping You Single?

    by Rachel Dickens for HowAboutWe

    I'll be the first to admit that romance and friendship comprise about 75% of my brain's real estate. But until a few days ago, I didn't realize those two things were connected. HowAboutWeHowAboutWe
    My best friends and I have lived together since our freshman year of college, and during that time, we've seen each other through dozens of relationships, hundreds of dates, and enough weird hookups that I've repressed most of them. We dispersed after graduation to exotic places like Spain, Tel Aviv and Cincinnati. But while most of my friends moved to cities where they knew next to no one, a lucky few of us landed in Chicago.

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    We now live together. And also, we're the only ones in the group who aren't in serious relationships.
    After this reality dawned on us, my roommates and I had a requisite "WHY US?!" moment. But after about five seconds of melodrama, both sides of the situation became clear. We have a fun and

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  • What to Do If Your Boyfriend is the NSA Whistleblower: A Step-by-Step Guide

    by Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

    What to Do If Your Boyfriend Is the NSA Whistleblower: a Step-by-Step GuideWhat to Do If Your Boyfriend Is the NSA Whistleblower: a Step-by-Step Guide"He has had 'a very comfortable life' that included a salary of roughly $200,000, a girlfriend with whom he shared a home in Hawaii, a stable career, and a family he loves…As he packed his bags, he told his girlfriend that he had to be away for a few weeks, though he said he was vague about the reason." - The Guardian, "Edward Snowden: The Whistleblower"



    1. Totally freak out.

    2. Consider flying to Hong Kong to find him. Decide you are too angry.

    3. Consider flying to Hong Kong to murder him for doing this to you.

    4. Consider the possibility that someone else, someone scarier and deadlier than you, will fly to Hong Kong to murder him.

    5. Repeat Step 1.

    6. Take a break from hysterically crying to mull over the full implications of the NSA leak.

    7. Realize, with horror, that your boyfriend, unbeknownst to you, has had unprecedented access to all of your emails.

    8. Facebook messages, too.

    9. Probably your entire Google Search History, come to think of

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  • 9 Signs Your Date is Going Downhill Before it Starts

    by Maggie Parker for HowAboutWe

    9 Signs Your Date Is Going Downhill Before It Starts9 Signs Your Date Is Going Downhill Before It Starts We've all been there; sitting across from someone during a first date, wishing there were a way you could have known before you left your house on a rainy Sunday night that you were going to regret it.

    There may not be a foolproof method for determining a date's success in advance. But the few hours before a first date could offer some very clear red flags.

    If you see one of said red flags, stop and take notice. We aren't saying you should cancel the date then and there, but if more than one flag gets waved, be sure you're paying attention. Here are the biggest signs to watch out for.

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    1. You ask where to meet and he says, "I don't know but I only have $(15 or less) in my bank account so somewhere cheap."
    Why is he bringing up his financial problems before your first date? And come on, why does he have so little money in his bank account?! You may not care about his financial status at this moment, but a

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  • 10 Unconventional TV Couples Who Really Love Each Other

    by Marla Pachter for HowAboutWe

    1. April and Andy, "Parks and Recreation"

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    He's a lovable oaf, who loves everyone and is always up to help (though… you may just want to do it yourself). She's a sharp-as-tacks sarcastic lady whose complete disinterest in anything is astounding. But there is one thing April Ludgate is interested in - her husband, Andy Dwyer. You know that saying, "Opposites attract?" These two balance each other out in perfect harmony, and to extremely funny results. But there's also something pure and genuine about their relationship. Two peas in a weirdly shaped pod.

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    2. Jenna and Paul, "30 Rock"

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    She's the famous Jenna Maroney, and he's a well-known Jenna Maroney impersonator. What they have most in common is their intense love of Jenna Maroney. But they also both love unimaginably kinky sex, playing mind games with people, and all things alt culture. Basically, if anyone is going to those clubs that Stefon

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  • Why I Would Swallow an ‘Anti-Viagra’ Pill (If it Existed)

    by Ryan Dodge for HowAboutWe

    Why I Would Swallow an 'Anti-Viagra' Pill (If It Existed)Why I Would Swallow an 'Anti-Viagra' Pill (If It Existed)From the birth control pill to Viagra, the pharmaceutical industry long ago figured out that there's serious money to be made in making sex safer, more convenient, and more pleasurable. As The New York Times Magazine recently chronicled in a fascinating article, another potentially revolutionary drug is on the horizon: Lybrido, which enhances female sexual desire.

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    This is great news for the countless couples whose otherwise healthy relationships have gone off track as their sex drives diverged. But as the piece points out, Lybrido is sure to spark bedroom arguments between women who are reluctant to take the drug and men who are convinced they're only a doctor's signature away from achieving a teenage fantasy of as much sex as they can handle.

    Which made me wonder: Why isn't anyone tackling the problem from the opposite side, and investing millions in developing a mass-market drug to

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  • New Study: Men Think You Want Them More when They're Tired

    by Chiara Atik for HowAboutWe

    Is She Into You? Nah, Bro. You're Probably just TiredIs She Into You? Nah, Bro. You're Probably just TiredA fun new study from Hendrix College in Arkansas asked a co-ed group of college students about their general interest in sex, and their perception of other people's interest in sex. (By answering questions such as, "When a man [or woman] goes out to a bar, how likely is it that he [or she] is interested in finding someone to have sex with that night?" Aka, which gender wants it more?)

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    Then, the researchers kept the subjects up all night (chastely! obviously) and asked the same round of questions to the now sleep-deprived students.
    It turns out that, in general, people agree that men are more interested in having sex. BUT, sleep-deprived male college students rated female sexual intent as just as high or higher than that of men. In other words, when men are tired, they're way more likely to assume a woman is sexually interested.

    So, men! Don't go to a bar when you've gone too long

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