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  • The Perfect Gifts for Your Cheese-Obsessed Boyfriend or Girlfriend

    By Julia Pizza for HowAboutWe

    Congratulations! You have scored yourself a significant other with impeccable taste. And what better way to honor your beloved than by giving him or her a gift that celebrates all things fromage? The problem with picking out gifts for a bona fide cheese lover, however, is that they probably already have the basics covered. So rather than giving them yet another slate cheese board (seriously, I had 6 at one point), here are some out-of-the-ordinary gifts for the turophile in your life.

    Plus: The Ultimate Holiday Dating & Relationships Guide

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  • What to Get: The Person You’re Casually Dating

    By: Caroline Jarvis for HowAboutWe

    So, here come the holidays and you haven't had The Talk yet. Are you more than friends? Are you seeing other people? It's not entirely clear right now. But that's ok! If your "we're not into labels" relationship is in the uncategorizable stage, you can still find something to give your significant whatever. Here are a few gift ideas, inspired by the "are we or aren't we" phase.

    Plus: The Ultimate Holiday Dating & Relationships Survival Guide

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  • Love ActuallyLove ActuallyBy Jena Kingsley for HowAboutWe

    Admit it: Deep down, we all have a soft spot for at least a few rom-coms. Of course, that doesn't mean we think they're realistic. Here are a few examples of where the movies get it wrong when it comes to love:

    Plus: 7 Types of Guys Who Won't Make You Happy

    1. Yes, You Actually Do Have to Say You're Sorry

    Ah, Love Story. We all loved that movie. We all cried. Hard. And the most famous line…we all know it, and we all love it. When Ryan O'Neal, or should I call him Oliver Barrett? - when he apologizes, and Jenny, played by a very hot, young, Ali MacGraw says, "Love means never having to say you're sorry."
    Yes! Yes! We all cheered and smiled through our tears and our swollen eyes. That is what love means.

    WHAT? No.

    Clearly the person who wrote that line has never actually been in love. Or in a relationship, for that matter. Because love doesn't mean that. Let's see how we would apply that to everyday life:
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  • Couple's YouTube Breakup Video Goes Viral (and It's Actually Really Sweet)

    by Lilit Marcus for HowAboutWe

    When a friend forwarded me a link this morning for a "YouTube song breakup announcement," I was ready to hate it. The video features musician Jonathan Mann - who has a project where he records a new song every day and posts the product online - announcing that he and his girlfriend of five years, Ivory King, are breaking up. I was expecting something self-indulgent and cheesy. Instead, I found something beautiful, heartbreaking, and all too relatable.

    "Jonathan and Ivory have been together for five years," reads the text at the beginning of the video. "This is their final song as a couple." Watch it here:

    By the end of the video, I was crying. Ivory and Jonathan aren't breaking up because someone cheated or they got sick of each other or because they couldn't stop fighting. Ultimately, their breakup had to do with a disagreement about what they wanted from life - Jonathan wants to have kids, but Ivory doesn't. As they sing at the end of the

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  • Arguing Makes Women Feel Better and Men Feel Worse, Says Science

    ArguingArguingby Yelena Shuster for HowAboutWe

    The next time you hear the dreaded "We need to talk," blame it on science. Fighting helps women destress, according to a Penn State study. (Shocker: the men didn't feel the same way.)

    About 140 couples expecting their first baby answered questions about their relationship. Saliva samples were measured before, during, and after the interview to determine the prevalence of the stress hormone cortisol.

    Plus: 10 Things You Can Stop Worrying About in a New Relationship

    As you could expect, "hostility" elevated the men's stress levels. Surprisingly, though, hostility had the opposite effect on women, who experienced stress when there was little arguing:

    "For generally anxious men, more expressed hostility was also linked to more persistence of this elevated stress," Penn State researcher Mark Feinberg said in a statement. "On the other hand, generally anxious women experienced relatively more prolonged stress when there were lower

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  • Science Finally Explains the Appeal of the Not-So-Nice Partner


    by Nikki Metzgar for HowAboutWe

    How many times have you wondered why your friend (or, uh, you) keeps going back to someone who rarely ever treats her right? New York Times writer Richard Friedman explains that part of the reason we're attracted to bad boys and girls might be the very fact that the good moments come so unexpectedly.

    In a study cited in the article, subjects were given water and juice at either consistent or random intervals. M.R.I.s showed that subjects who couldn't anticipate when they'd get the juice showed "greater activation in the brain's reward circuit." In dating terms, sex, cuddling and romantic gestures are the juice - and apparently we like it when we don't know it's coming.

    Plus: The Problem With Saying "He's Just Not That Into You"

    I used to date this guy who routinely stood me up when better plans came along, pretended like he didn't know me when I ran into him public and ultimately cheated on me. The two times he was sweet to me-once he

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  • What If Ross & Rachel Hadn’t Ended Up Together? Turns Out, They Almost Didn’t

    FriendsFriendsBy Jillian Lucas for HowAboutWe

    It's hard to believe that there are people on this earth who have not seen Friends episodes that aren't reruns they catch on TBS late at night. The iconic and game-changing sitcom defined the 90's and continues to bleed relevance into many current issues. It debuted September 22, 1994, and brought new life to the sitcom world, representing an unabashed and honest look into the lives of six friends - Ross, Phoebe, Chandler, Monica, Rachel and Joey - living in New York City.

    Plus: 23 Reasons to Date a Midwesterner

    A reoccurring love story between Ross and Rachel spanned most all of the 236 episodes and 10 seasons. When the finale finally aired, the two happily and satisfyingly ended up together. But would you have guessed that this solution could've been cut from the finale? "Well that just seems so expected," says David Crane, the show's producer, "Maybe not, maybe we do some kind of vague, they're not together but there's hope for the future. And then

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  • 7 Important Relationship Truths I Learned from John Hughes Movies

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    By Whitney Collins by HowAboutWe

    Everyone knows that writer/director/generational guru John Hughes nailed the idiosyncrasies and psyche of the 1980s through spot-on screenplays and casting. But his genius was more than just knowing what songs to put on a soundtrack and how to strategically place a neckbrace. Even better, the man knew everything there was to know about LOVE. He knew men and women, young and old, flings and marriages, wooing and fighting. He was both a sappy sentimentalist and a harsh realist, and just watching his films made you want to pair off with the first "sporto, motorhead, geek, slut, blood, waistoid, dweeb, or dickhead" you could find. Simply put, John Hughes was a "righteous dude," and he taught many of us everything we ever needed to know about relationships.

    1. Open The Yearbook

    What's one of the best ways to get to know someone? REALLY, TRULY know someone? Find out what their high school experience was like. For some, this can be wistful (it'll

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  • How to Compliment a Woman: 7 Things Every Guy Should Know

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    By Scott Alden for HowAboutWe

    "Just say something nice! Compliment her!" This is the kind of dating advice that guys get from their grandparents. In the complex, often frustrating world of modern dating, however, it's not quite that simple.

    Guys today know that it's not enough to compliment a woman- you have to compliment a woman correctly. But it's not always clear how.

    Here are 7 things that we've heard from the fairer sex regarding exactly how to show your appreciation for them.

    1. Tell the truth.

    The most important quality shared by all meaningful compliments is sincerity.

    If you don't think actually she's the "most radiant vision you have ever seen," then stick with "You look really pretty." If you don't think she looks "really pretty," then just say "pretty."

    If you don't believe it, then don't expect her to.

    Plus: 7 Ways To Tell If You Can Handle Dating a Democrat

    2. Surprise her.

    Don't always just compliment her when she comes to the

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  • Serria SaysSerria SaysYou might remember Serria Tawan from her stint as Playboy's Miss November 2002. Now the former playmate is in her 30s, recently married, and ready to dish out some love advice. She says, "I want you to win and I'm going to give it to you straight." Read more from her at, and check back each Friday for her latest Dating Advice from a Playboy Bunny post.


    I hear this advice over and over again of how women should hold back in a relationship, for example: "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free." But how do you show them it all and not give them it all? It's confusing. And how do you know when you're giving too much?

    Plus: How to Compliment a Woman: 7 Things Every Guy Should Know


    Brace yourself, because what I am going to tell you will sound a like a game - but it's not. Or is it?
    No, seriously, I'm asking a question.

    In real life there are promotions. Promotions are a reward for doing a good job, and as a result of your

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