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  • The Little Dating Tip that Works for Everyone

    Marilyn MonroeMarilyn MonroeBy Chiara Atik for

    You know how bullfighters will use a bright red flag to attract the attention of a bull? Apparently, men have a similar reaction to the primary color. And because both men and women have been proven to have psychological and physiological reactions to the color, wearing red might be the simplest, most universal piece of dating advice ever.

    Related: How To Make Yourself Attractive To Anyone

    Not that you can simply slip on a red sweater and become the most sought after person in the room: your personality is still going to have to do the majority of the work. But for people who live in metropolitan areas, a huge part of the dating game is simply etting up at bat. If you want to ensure that you get noticed in a crowd, might as well use Mother Nature to your benefit.

    Related: How To Find The One: A Math Formula That Can Help

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  • 6 Very Attractive Things You're Already Doing

    Why it's perfectly fine that you're not marriedWhy it's perfectly fine that you're not marriedBeing attractive isn't as difficult as you'd think. Seriously. When asked what it is that they're looking for in a partner, hardly anyone says a perfect body, an unshakable confidence and a million dollars in the bank. In fact, most of the things that people say they find attractive are probably things you're already doing. Such as...

    1. Smiling

    You probably smile all the time without even thinking about it. In a recent survey, AskMen found that a woman's smile was rated her second most attractive trait -- right below sexual chemistry.

    Smiling shows confidence and kindness -- two other highly rated qualities -- without having to say a word.

    Related: The Top 10 Traits That Attract Men

    2. Telling the Truth

    Telling the truth is easy. We do it all the time. People ask us where we grew up, what time it is, where we got our shoes and we just tell them, without a second thought.

    Seriously, though, honesty is not only respectable -- it's attractive.

    Telling the

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  • How to Find "The One": The Math Formula that Can Help

    By Chiara Atik for

    The Internet is full of dating theories, and it seems like every day there's a new study which might impact your dating life.

    But this theory might really, really change your approach to dating.

    One of the major issues that modern daters who are looking for a permanent relationship (and not everyone is) face is trying to determine who is "the one." An active dater will go on numerous dates a year, and will probably have a few relationships under his or her belt by the time they hit 30 years old.

    Related: The Little Dating Tip That Works For Everyone

    So at what point do you stop looking and start settling down? How do you know if you're being too picky, or if you should keep searching for the right person?

    Peter Todd, a professor of informatics and cognitive science, answered this question in the December issue of Wired Magazine.

    "In the face of this conundrum, the best strategy for picking a mate is to date enough people to establish some

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  • "Pulling a Perry": 5 Ways to Fix a First Date Gaffe

    Rick Perry in 2004Rick Perry in 2004by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe

    Being on a date can feel a lot like taking part in a nationally televised presidential campaign debate: one wrong move might blow the whole thing for you.

    Take, for example, Rick Perry's monumental gaffe on Wednesday. Perry stated that he would cut three agencies from the federal government -- "Commerce, Education and the - what's the third one there? Let's see..."

    But, forgetting one of the major agencies that you intend to cut from the federal government is the kind of thing that happens all the time during presidential debates, right? It's not that big a deal. At least, that's what Perry would like us to think.

    Related: How To Order At An Italian Restaurant Without Sounding Dumb (Or Pretentious)

    "Any time you're standing in front of however many million people we were and you have a loss of train of thought, sure. It impacts you," Perry told CBS, "But the fact is one error is not going to make or break a campaign."

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  • Does a Short Courtship Mean a Short Marriage?

    By Chiara Atik for

    Right on the heels of Kim Kardashian's divorce bombshell, The New Girl actress Zooey Deschanel announced her split from her husband of two years, Death Cab For Cutie frontman Ben Gibbard. While Deschanel's marriage did manage to outlast Kardashian's by a good, oh, 23 months, the two divorces can be linked back to a common trend among celebrity couples: a very brief courtship.

    Deschanel and Gibbard dated only a year before becoming engaged; Kim Kardashian and her husband, Kris Humphries dated only 6 months before he proposed in May. Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony, who also announced their separation this year, married less than a week after his divorce was finalized, and after only a year of dating. None of the couples dated for more than a year: does this mean their marriages were doomed from the start?
    Related: 17 Ways You Know You've Found "The One"

    "The less time a couple spends together, getting to know each other's abilities, fears, habits and

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  • New Celebrity Dating Trend: Getting Fake Married

    by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe

    The institution of marriage is under attack.

    Just weeks after publicly admitting that they are actually dating, Twilight stars Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson admitted that they're actually married. Sort of. It was an accident.

    Related: 9 Signs It's Time To Admit That You're Actually Dating

    Pattinson told reporters at a recent press conference that the wedding scene in "Breaking Dawn" was "technically" the real thing.

    "The wedding scene's funny because we used a real priest. So technically we are already married because he did all the things you would do in a normal ceremony," joked Pattinson.

    Although the couple is not legally married, they are, in fact married according to the church. Because a real priest conducted the ceremony. In a vampire movie for teenagers. Whoops.

    Related: Do You Believe In The 7 Year Itch (or 3 Year Glitch)?

    In opposite news, it appears that the most recent Kardashian wedding was actually on

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  • Being Awkward Makes You Better At Relationships, Says Science

    by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe

    Happy Opposite Day, everyone. A new study has found that people with no game are actually better at relationships.

    The study, which was conducted by the University of California-Berkeley, revealed that people who are more easily embarrassed are more likely to stay in monogamous relationships and are considered to be generally more trustworthy, loyal, relatable and cooperative.

    Related: 5 Common First Date Fears That You Really Don't Need To Worry About

    The study makes no claim as to whether or not the Liz Lemons of the world are more likely to find love -- only that once they have it, they're good at hanging on to it.

    Related: 15 Tips For Easing The First Date Jitters

    But wait! Before you go handing out your number to every guy with a trail of toilet paper stuck to his shoe -- there's more. The researchers found that only people with "moderate" embarrassment levels exhibit the favorable qualities. So that girl who can't talk to you

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  • By Lauren Passell for

    Two years ago, I wasn't looking for a boyfriend but had a huge crush on Justin, a friend from high school who had just moved to NYC. Since he was new here, he had fewer friends than I did, so I was able to kidnap him and force him to go places with me -- bars, comedy shows, and in October, Blood Manor, a haunted house so un-scary you forgot to cry. (I am from Ohio, where they haunt you on hayrides. Now that's scary.)

    I planned to make a night of it, inviting twenty other people on a huge group email. I didn't pay attention to who had RSVPed, and when Justin and I met at Blood Manor we realized nobody else was coming. Looks like it was just the two of us! How awkwardly romantic.

    Related: The Science Behind Why Haunted Houses Make the Perfect First Date I thought it was going to be really scary, so I was freaking out in line (which, thanks to the chain saw-wielding man at the entrance, was the scariest part of Blood Manor), and Justin reached over

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  • 5 Reasons Why Funny Women Are Sexy

    by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe

    Ask any woman what qualities they're looking for in a partner and you'll find that a sense of humor is almost always in the top five. But, is the same true of men who date women?

    According YourTango's poll of 200,000 men, a sense of humor ranked as the fourth most important trait that men look for in a woman -- above general body type. Men. Rated a sense of humor. As more important. Than what a woman's body looks like. Really.

    So, maybe these men were lying. (It's been known to happen.) Or, maybe there really is something incredibly attractive about a woman who cracks you up.

    Here are five possible reasons that men place laughing above looks.

    1. It's Disarming

    Being put off your game can be a huge turn on -- especially if you're not used to it. If a woman is matching a guy quip for quip, it means his regular routine isn't working. Which means he'll have to work harder. Which makes him really want to have sex with that hilarious woman.

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  • Women Only Want Men They Can't Have, Says Science

    by Scott Alden for HowAboutWe

    A recent University of Virginia study that proves once and for all that women only want what they can't have. (Not really.)

    According to the study, "college women viewed the Facebook profiles of four male students who had previously seen their profiles. They were told that the men (a) liked them a lot, (b) liked them only an average amount, or (c) liked them either a lot or an average amount (uncertain condition)."

    If you had to guess which group was most attracted to the same exact guys, right now, what would you say? A, B or C?

    Did you guess C: "the uncertain condition?" Gold star!

    "Participants in the uncertain condition were most attracted to the men - even more attracted than were participants who were told that the men liked them a lot. Uncertain participants reported thinking about the men the most, and this increased their attraction toward the men."

    Related: 6 Really Unattractive Things That Women Do When They're

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