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  • Vision Boards: See It, Feel It, Do It!

    What do you want to see every day?

















    By Patia Braithwaite for BounceBack.com

    Personal loss (divorce, death, breakup) sucks so badly because it causes our identities to shift in an effort to accommodate the change (at least that's what they books say). Our grief, and all the emotions that are wrapped up in that journey, is a reaction to the question: who am I without this person/relationship? Who is it that I hope to be?

    Related: Impossible or I'm Possible: What is Your Break-Up Attitude?

    These are tough questions we have to answer as we reform ourselves in a way that is healthy. We must be brave enough to look ourselves in the mirror and imagine a different life. Sounds like hard work, right? Well, one of the more light-hearted ways we can accomplish this is with vodka a vision board. Vision boards are crafty collages that allow us to fully engage the most fun part of our life goals: the part where we get to imagine and play!! And the vodka, well...that's just in case we get thirsty.


    Here are

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  • How to Cope when Everyone You Know is Getting Married

    When Everyone's Getting Married...But You





















    By James Lane for BounceBack.com

    It seems that every time I go to my mailbox, I have a new wedding invitation. Whether it be from close friends, cousins, or co-workers, wedding invites are ubiquitous in my life right now. I am 25 years old, and apparently this is only the beginning. Already in 2012, I have been invited to five weddings and asked to be part of the wedding party in three. I'm exhausted just thinking about that.

    I have been to a few weddings in my twenty five years, but the bride or groom were never the same age as me (or younger!) It is surprising to me how many people are getting married and just rubbing it into the single person's face. Plus one? Is that sarcasm?

    Not only are weddings annoying, they are also extremely expensive. I will spend over $3,000 dollars this year alone just traveling to different locations, tux rentals, and don't forget the engagement and wedding gifts. I wonder if there is a place we can write all of this off on our taxes?

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  • Sometimes the Line "It's Not You, It's Me" is the Truth

    It's Not You...It's Me
















    By Alysia Stern for BounceBack.com

    If you have ever dated, I am sure you have heard (or perhaps spoken) the phrase "It's not you...it's me." You may have used this yourself or had an ex end your relationship with this line. It is simple for a person to identify character defects in their partners. But it is extremely difficult for people to see problems in themselves. So if we can see issues mu...

    If you have ever dated, I am sure you have heard (or perhaps spoken) the phrase "It's not you...it's me."

    You may have used this yourself or had an ex end your relationship with this line. It is simple for a person to identify character defects in their partners. But it is extremely difficult for people to see problems in themselves. So if we can see issues much easier in someone else… what exactly does this confusing statement mean?

    "It's not you, it's me" can be seen as the ultimate cop-out, relationship breakup line. It usually means it is you. It is probably not

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  • The 4 biggest obstacles social networking brings to relationships

    Should we "like" Social Media?













    Posted by: Erica Conte for BounceBack.com

    Hardships in relationships are something we cannot avoid; however, when couples are challenged with an issue and communicate and work together toward a solution, it can potentially result in a stronger bond. Jealousy and other fears that come with the dating territory are natural and understandable, but with the arrival of the digital age, these emotions now run the risk of escalating more than ever.

    Thanks to social networks, the lives of friends you love, like, and even dislike are on display awaiting comments and sharing with just about everyone. As convenient and entertaining as these networks can be, they can also contribute to, if not increase, trust issues in a romantic relationship.

    Related: Is Online Dating a Must-Do These Days?

    For a relationship to succeed, both partners have to trust one another. Social networking brings a whole slew of communication tactics into play in relationships that weren't there before, and all

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  • Is the Fear of Being Alone Keeping You in a Bad Relationship?

    Are You Afraid of Being Single?













    By Kelli Cooper for BounceBack.com

    It is natural to want to share your life with someone. Romantic relationships contain unique elements that you really cannot get from those with your family or friends. You build a life with this person in a way that you just do not with other people. Being single is often thought of as a fate worse than death and the thought of not being able to find someone to spend your life with can be a te...

    It is natural to want to share your life with someone. Romantic relationships contain unique elements that you really cannot get from those with your family or friends. You build a life with this person in a way that you just do not with other people. Being single is often thought of as a fate worse than death and the thought of not being able to find someone to spend your life with can be a terrifying prospect for many. Women especially feel the pressure because their fertility has a much shorter shelf life than men, who have the luxury of

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  • How Are You Feeling After a Break-Up? 7 Ways to Check-in with Yourself

    How to see yourself more clearly










    By Patia Braithwaite for BounceBack.com

    So your relationship is over and, tragic as it is, you still have to go to work and be social. So in the midst of all the smiling and putting on your brave face, how can you be sure what you really feel? Take the following 7 tips to heart and you'll be more in touch with yourself - and that much closer to recovering and moving on. What does ...

    So your relationship is over and, tragic as it is, you still have to go to work and be social. So in the midst of all the smiling and putting on your brave face, how can you be sure what you really feel?

    Take the following 7 tips to heart and you'll be more in touch with yourself - and that much closer to recovering and moving on.

    What does your body feel like?

    So many of us live our lives in our heads. We discuss, we ponder we ruminate, but how do we feel??? The sensations in your body (belly ache, tension in your neck), are indications of our inner state. Pay attention and

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  • 6 Rules of Thumb when You're the One Moving Out

    Moving Out and Moving OnMoving Out and Moving On



















    By Sarah Rae for BounceBack.com

    It doesn't matter whether you're the one who called it quits or not, moving out of a place you shared with your partner is a difficult task. A home is something you build together. Your lives were integrated, boundaries torn down. Having to dismantle that home after a break-up adds insult to injury. How do you remember what's even yours in the kitchen? Moving out is hard enough without frayed nerves, hurt feelings, and the prospect of leaving someone behind.

    Related: The Breakdown of a Break-up

    There are some rules of thumb that can make the process less painful. Keep reminding yourself that you never know what the future brings.

    1. Don't put it off. No matter how much emotional turmoil is sure to arise, you need to do it sooner rather than later. If you or your ex start dating again, you'll be sorry you put moving your things on the backburner. Whether you don't want to face the reality of moving or you aren't

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  • Would You Recycle a Former Romance?

    Reduce, Reuse, Recycle an Ex?





















    By Randi Newton for BounceBack.com

    Reduce, Reuse, Recycle! Sure it's great to help out the environment by recycling paper, plastic, etc., but when it comes to matters of the heart and peace of mind - it may not always be the best idea. It's easy to turn to recycling when you need to reuse an old outfit, shopping bag, or bottle…but when you delve into the dating bin of exes for "reuse" when thing...

    Reduce, Reuse, Recycle! Sure it's great to help out the environment by recycling paper, plastic, etc., but when it comes to matters of the heart and peace of mind - it may not always be the best idea.

    It's easy to turn to recycling when you need to reuse an old outfit, shopping bag, or bottle…but when you delve into the dating bin of exes for "reuse" when things get a little stagnant in your love life, that's where problems from the past may resurface.

    Related: Breakup Movie Rewind: What Can We Learn from Sliding Doors?

    Everyone's done it, and it's nothing to be

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  • Newly Single This Spring? 5 Reasons to Embrace It!

    Say Hello to a Single Spring!Say Hello to a Single Spring!
    By Penny Paige for BounceBack.com


    The vernal equinox has recently passed and we all know what that means - SPRING has sprung! Look around you - the flowers are in bloom, the leaves on the trees are budding, the days are getting longer, and all of the colors make you feel alive again!

    For some, spring may not signify a pocketful of sunshine. Maybe you've had a recent relationship change and you're not exactly "Little Miss Sunshine". Instead of embracing the new season you may feel like walking around clad in black (with those pair of extra sharp scissors your mother wouldn't let you use as a kid) to cut all the new blossoming flowers from their stems because they look a little too cheery. Maybe you wish you could personally wipe that annoying "I-don't-have-a-care-in-the-world-because-I'm-in-love" smile off of all the faces around you.

    Related: Can Working Out Increase Your Chances of a Better Love Life?

    That's ok - I've been there, we've ALL been there. However,

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  • Why You Shouldn't Look to Others for Validation in Your Relationships

    Let yourself know you're important!Let yourself know you're important!
    By Kelli Cooper for BounceBack.com

    We all have our insecurities about different aspects of ourselves. I think those of us whose confidence about our beliefs and decisions in life permeates every fiber of our being are few and far between. Being human we are vulnerable to a host of emotions. What other people think about us, the decisions we have made or are thinking about making and how we live our life should not matter, but sometimes it does. Even the most confident of us like to hear others agree or encourage us on our path. It feels nice and there is nothing wrong with admitting that.

    This is especially true when it comes to relationships, the partners we choose, and the decisions we make as we experience love's ups and downs. We look to outside influences to validate our choices and sometimes stay in relationships longer than we should simply because everyone around us thinks this is "the one". Not only can the search for external validation steer you in the wrong

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