Blog Posts by BounceBack

  • Friends Don't Let Friends Suffer Heartbreak Alone: 10 Dos and Don'ts



    Ask any relationship expert, and they will tell you that it's important not to sacrifice your relationships with your friends in favor of your significant other. The reason becomes clear the minute your love life goes south.

    "My friend Claudia was my first phone call after my breakup," said Jamie, 25, of Sewell, NJ, who recently split from her boyfriend of two years. "I needed someone who would let me cry and get angry and just vent."


    Jamie's case was different from most. Ideally, your friend lives within driving distance and is readily available for long phone conversations, in-person venting sessions and, if necessary, a trip to the local club. Claudia, also 25 and a friend of Jamie's since high school, lived thousands of miles away in California. But that didn't stop her from fulfilling her role in the weeks that followed Jamie's breakup.


    "I'm sure her phone bill was pretty bad that month," Jamie admitted. "But she never complained about it to me. And a few weeks after my

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  • Don't Hibernate, Vacate: 5 Essential Items for a Warm Winter Getaway

    Written by BounceBack Fashion & Style Expert Terry Lyons

    It's late winter, the time of year when cold weather blues envelop us in warm coats and oversized scarves, smothering our motivation to do, well, almost anything. This feeling can be even worse if you've gone through a breakup or divorce, as many BounceBack members have told us. Our apartments have become caves, and we, slumbering bears. Lady Winter has turned our skin to paste and worn holes in the soles of our salt-stained boots. Layered clothing, a fashion that we welcomed and adored in November, is our newest nemesis, and unlike the friendly bear, we haven't been sleeping away the winter pounds. Yes, it's officially late winter, and who isn't ready for it to be over?

    There is one bit of saving grace in that abysmal picture...it's time for Spring Fashion. At some point, someone in the Fashion Industry decided that it would be a brilliant idea to fill stores with cotton sundresses and teeny bikinis in the middle

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  • Don't Get TOO Comfortable: 4 Ways to Stay on Track Until Spring

    Written by BounceBack Nutrition Expert Marissa Lippert

    Get ready to kiss February goodbye. We're that much closer to the last push through a long, cold, frost-bitten winter. By this point, most of us are trying to figure out how exactly to get through it all until Spring hits, and how to make the resolutions you made back in January actually stick. It's not always easy when all you really want to do is lay bundled on the couch beneath a heap of blankets with a big bowl of mac n' cheese and a massive glass of red wine. Motivating to hunker down and blast through the next few weeks until warmer weather officially hits without gaining excess "winter-comfort food weight" may sound painful, but it's definitely doable when you're focused on small, scalable steps.

    Start simple and build on these 4 ways to stay smart until spring:

    • Write your top 3 to 5 goals down on paper. Concrete accountability works every time. Keep your goals around where you can actually see them (on
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  • Need a fresh start? 6 tips to get over the past and find love again

    A recent article in Psychology Today, Heartbreak and Home Runs: The Power of First Experiences, outlined just how important is for all of us to "get past the past." The reason? Former relationships, particularly those from your late teens to early 20's, have an everlasting effect on your outlook on future romances.

    So, after a relationship ends, it's not only important to bounce back, it's equally important to move forward, which means putting the past behind you, releasing harmful patterns and negative feelings, and allowing yourself to truly start fresh. BounceBack has a few tips on how to help put and keep this in motion:

    1. Stop the comparisons. Don't compare future relationships to past loves: avoid setting and holding expectations for one person based on what you remember about another.

    2. Don't be a copycat. Try not to spend all your time and effort attempting to replicate exactly what you had before. Everything and everyone is different - no two relationships will

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  • When the Ex is Still Around: 6 Ways to Keep Your Cool

    Ask any relationship expert and they'll tell you that after a breakup, one of the most important things to make sure you have plenty of is space. But what do you do when your ex is still around and it's beyond your control? It's not uncommon. Recent studies have shown that more than 10 million couples work together. A survey by American Greetings found that more couples meet through friends than via any other avenue. Work and social obligations may force you to maintain contact with your ex - even when it's the last thing on Earth you want to do - but there are classy ways to handle the inevitable run-ins, from both sides of the table. Here are 6 tips for handling yourself with style, maturity, and grace - whether you're the heartbreaker or the heartbroken:


    As The Heartbreaker:

    1. Give your ex space - If you are determined to go through with this breakup, the last thing you want to do is give your ex hope that there is a chance for a reconciliation. Give your former

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  • Feeling Bummed? Put Up An Online Profile for Some No-Strings-Attached Ego-Boosting

    When you're feeling down -- either from post-breakup blues or from that persistently dark cloud that's been haunting you lately -- it's nice to have a pick-me-up. And it's even better if it's in the form of positive attention from total strangers. The normal path would be to put on your hottest outfit and go out with the girls for a night of ego-boosting free drinks and well-meaning, albeit cliched compliments. But what happens if you're not ready for actual human-to-human contact and you still want the attention? Fortunately, you have options.

    Online dating.

    Pick your favorite site -- I like the free ones like okcupid.com -- and put up a profile. Select your top five favorite pictures from the last couple years where you look your most smoldering hot (bonus points for pictures on the beach that show off your killer physique). Pick and choose the questions you want to answer and respond in your wittiest fashion, but feel no pressure to answer all or even most of them. A

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  • Can a broken heart cause actual heart damage? A new study says YES.

    There's a saying that no one ever died from a broken heart, but findings from a new study at Johns Hopkins (published in The New England Journal of Medicine) suggest it can do a lot more damage than you think.

    The clinical research showed that some people may respond to sudden, overwhelming emotional stress such as unexpected breakup or severe grief by releasing large amounts of catecholamines into the blood stream, along with their breakdown products and the small proteins produced by an over-excited nervous system. These chemicals can be temporarily toxic to the heart, effectively stunning the muscle and producing symptoms similar to a typical heart attack, including chest pain, fluid in the lungs, shortness of breath and heart failure.

    In other words, these broken heart syndrome (BHS) symptoms can cause a seemingly healthy heart to stop working normally--all due to the emotional stress brought on by something like an unexpected breakup. (This is not really a surprise to us, the

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