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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Can a Man and a Woman Really Be Just Friends?"

    By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK


    Can a guy truly be "just friends" with a girl? I get along quite well with a guy as friends, but every now and again, I get the feeling that he is testing the waters, so to speak (which would rock my socks). He brings up topics like marriage and asks my opinion, then in the next sentence makes a definite "just not into you that way" statement. Then the next day, he'll compliment me on how I look, smell, etc. Is he checking out my reaction and then back-peddling when he thinks he's gone too far? Or is this just the male mind trying to establish the fact that he is attractive and wanted by a woman that he respects (that would be me), regardless of whether or not he wants to actually date her?

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    Okay firstly, guys and girls can be friends... after a guy stops going through puberty. But here's the deal, I'm not sure that people are right to assume that guys

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  • How to Streamline a Jam-Packed Schedule

    If you feel too busy even to breathe, follow organizing guru Julie Morgenstern's four d's to free you up for what's really important: time for you and your family.

    1. Delete. People constantly burden themselves with unnecessary tasks - like organizing the kitchen cabinets or everyday dusting - that take up too much time. For every task on your to-do list, ask if it really affects the quality of your life. If it doesn't, delete it.

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    2. Delay. Does laundry honestly need to be done tonight, or will the family get by if you wait until Monday morning? Delaying a task - and setting a specific time to do it - can keep you from feeling overwhelmed in the moment.

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    3. Delegate. Who says you have to do it all? Asking a neighbor to carpool or hiring a teen to mow your lawn is a simple way to clear your schedule for what really matters to you.

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  • How to Plan a Last-Minute Vacation

    by Chantal Martineau, REDBOOK

    Everyone's buzzing about the summer plans they made... in February. You remain silent (and scream inside). But it's okay - just pretend you held off on purpose, because planning a trip late is the best way to find deals!

    First, Think Beyond Disney
    Remember, it's summertime not only for your family but for every family in America, which means the classic popular spots will be packed. "Brainstorm destinations that aren't on everyone else's list," says Jaime Samuels, publisher of the Travelzoo Top 20 newsletter and Newsflash email alerts. Cancún is always a hot spot, but the nearby Riviera Maya is quieter, with lots of great deals on family-friendly and all-inclusive resorts, many of which offer promotions allowing up to two kids to stay for free. Paris and other major European cities can be expensive in peak summer months, but prices tend to drop in late August and early September. "Ski destinations in summer are also a fun, less expensive twist," says

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  • 3 Ways to Get Promoted By Being Yourself

    Boost your career and make a good impression at work with these tips from nice girls and straight-talkers.

    The new get-ahead career book, Nice Girls Just Don't Get It, totally contradicts the advice in the work bible The Power of Nice. So which approach is best: good girl or straight-talker? Our verdict: They both rock. Just pick the one that's the most natural for you.

    • Nice Girls: "To establish a friendly connection, lead in with a compliment, such as, 'I love your earrings,' or a personal comment like, 'Is that a picture of your daughter?'" says Robin Koval, coauthor of The Power of Nice.
    • Straight-Talkers: "People are attracted to those who are most like them. If the person you've just met gets right down to business, skip the small talk and do the same," say Nice Girls Just Don't Get It authors Lois Frankel, Ph.D., and Carol Frohlinger, Esq.
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  • 10 Ways to Reduce Your Family's Exposure to Chemicals

    by Brian Alexander, REDBOOK

    The jury is still out about these substances' effects on human health. But if you want to reduce your family's exposure, this is how.1. Use fresh or frozen foods instead of canned, when possible.

    2. Use soy infant formula only if there is a medical reason for it, such as lactose intolerance or milk allergy, says Heather Patisaul, Ph.D. Genistein - a natural estrogen found in soy plants - is present in large amounts in soy-based baby formulas. (Some countries require a prescription for it.)

    3. Don't microwave food in plastic containers or covered with plastic wrap. When plastic is heated, the chemicals in it can more easily migrate to food.

    4. Use BPA-free baby bottles. Check labels - the biggest manufacturers of baby bottles in the United States (including Disney, Gerber, and Playtex) stopped using BPA in 2009.

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    5. Avoid storing food or drink in plastics with the recycling numbers 3, 6, and 7 on the bottom - or

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  • How to Shop Like a Chef at the Seafood Counter

    by Nicole Yorio, REDBOOK

    How to get past the slime, scales, and fish eyes to shop like a chef.

    1. Check for freshness. Whole fish are usually cheapest and freshest, so have one filleted instead of buying pre-cut pieces. When selecting a swimmer, look for bright, clear, protruding eyes and shiny skin. On fish fillets, the skin should also be glistening and metallic. And all seafood should smell of the ocean or clean water. At home, wrap it tightly in plastic wrap and set it on ice in the fridge until you cook it.

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    2. Make smart swaps. Is the fish you came for looking a little past its prime? Don't derail your dinner; just get something with a similar texture and flavor. Arctic char, salmon, and tuna are interchangeable, as are catfish and tilapia. Ditto swordfish, halibut, and monkfish. If there's no striped bass, you can sub in red snapper, sea bass, or mahimahi.

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  • How I Kept My Kids Calm During the Tornado

    by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

    "This tornado's been on the ground for more than 10 minutes! This is quite the storm!" I looked down at my son's pale face, his arms wrapped around my waist as the newsman on the radio continued, "I repeat, seek shelter immediately. Don't look for it first because it's 'rain wrapped' so you won't see it. Don't wait, go to the most interior place in your house now." His eyes found mine. I knew my son's tight anxious expression well. First because he's had the same wrinkly eyebrowed expression of uncertainty since he was an infant and second because, well, it mirrors my own.

    "Are we going to be ok?" he whispered. Thankfully we were. While the two tornadoes near us on Sunday in Minneapolis did a lot of damage only 1 person died, unlike the tornado that ravaged Joplin, Missouri, at almost the same time where 116 are reported dead with that number expected to rise. Knowing how scary things were here, my heart goes out to the people of

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  • 10 Oprah Moments Even Your Guy Will Remember

    by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    I haven't watched much Oprah-my daytime TV preferences tend to veer toward the endangered species called the soap opera. But because Oprah is Oprah, it's been hard to completely avoid the show, and while I don't think I've ever watched an episode in its entirety, it still seeped into my life. So here are ten moments from the show that left an impression on me, a guy who wasn't paying attention at all (some of them are probably very different from everyone else's):

    10. Tom Cruise acts like Tom Cruise. The man stood on a couch and acted like a schmuck. It wasn't exciting enough to warrant the hundred million times I saw the clip. Let's move on.

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    9. Gail looks for a good hamburger. I think I saw this episode at my mother-in-law's house during a holiday visit one year. I don't know what drew me into this episode-maybe Gail, maybe the hamburgers-all I know is it captured my imagination.

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  • The New Money Rules for Couples

    by Virginia Sole-Smith, REDBOOK

    Postnups, financial three-ways, paying your spouse for doing laundry…. More and more couples are devising their own, sometimes wacky money systems. How does yours compare?

    Nothing makes me feel more overtly "married" than when I open up my wallet to pay at Home Depot and pull out the shiny blue debit card labeled, in big block type, SHARED. My husband, Dan, broke out the label maker two months after we got married to distinguish the cards linked to our joint account from the identical blue debit cards we use for our separate personal checking accounts. (And in the rush of newlywed excitement, it didn't occur to him to use a more discreet font size.)

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    We've decided not to pool all of our money the way our parents did. Instead, we subscribe to what Manisha Thakor, founder of the Women's Financial Literacy Initiative, dubs "The Financial Three-Way: Yours, Mine, and Ours." For Dan and me, the logistics workRead More »from The New Money Rules for Couples
  • Oprah Final Episode Drinking Game

    by Marissa Gold, REDBOOK

    You watched her go from ambitious TV host to total world domination. You were there when she put the kibbosh on eating beef, wheeled out a wagon full of fat, and (how could we forget?) gave every last audience member A NEEEEEEEEEW CAAAAAAAAR. Now it's time to celebrate Oprah's farewell episode with a drinking game... one that everyone from the casual watcher to the Oprah aficionado can appreciate. It's the way she would have wanted it. Bottoms up!

    1. Sips...

    -Take one sip anytime Oprah tells you to remember your spirit.
    -If Oprah mentions her 'favorite things' buy yourself a new pair of shoes or lipstick this week. Hey, it's not like YOU got a car!
    -If Oprah mentions the word 'diet' you can either take a sip of your drink or a bite of a cookie. You decide.
    -If Oprah mentions her BFF Gayle, your BFF has to take a sip of her drink.

    2. Shots...
    -If an audience member cries, do one shot.
    -If Oprah cries,

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