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  • My stepdaughter has fought her weight for years and, since having kids, has become obese. She drinks a 12-pack of cola a day and keeps lots of candy at home. She has said, in front of her kids, "I don't like vegetables." The kids aren't overweight but are obsessed with having dessert, and the middle 7-year-old girl already says she is "dieting." The 9-year-old has been on laxatives since he was a baby (his doctor put him on them), but if he ate right, he wouldn't need them, as I see it. Suggesting a healthy diet for him, or telling his mother that she shouldn't drink so much soda, hasn't helped. I worry about her and her kids. What can her dad and I do or say to help them be healthier? - P.D., 51, Sylva, NC

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    I wish I could tell you that if you sat your step-daughter down and listed everything that was wrong with her diet and the way she's raising her kids to think about food, she'd see the light. But as you've observed, it doesn't work that way.

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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Why Do Guys Thinks Strip Clubs are OK?"

    By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    DEAR WHYS GUY:

    A few months ago, my fiance and his dad went to a bachelor party, and his dad paid for him to have two lap dances. We almost broke up because of this, and I think I was more frustrated and grossed out by the fact that his father paid for his lap dances, and the fact that he had to have two. Why does a guy feel that it's ok to go to a strip club or have lap dances if he's "happy" in his relationship?

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    DEAR REDBOOK READER:

    Okay, there are a couple of things I need to address in this letter. First, one woman's gross is another man's harmless $15 worth of fun. A lot of guys think of a strip club as an oasis: It's not real, but it ain't so bad to pretend every now and then. If it bothers you, and you let him know, and he still doesn't agree with you, then this is a boundary issue between the two of you that I can't help with.

    But to be honest, it sounds like you're

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  • 5 Things You Can Do Today for a Happier Marriage

    By Vered DeLeeuw, REDBOOK

    Check out these tried and true tips for a happy marriage.

    1. Accept each other. And I mean really accept. Because so many say they accept their partner for what they are, when in fact on a deeper, even unconscious level, they want to change them. Example? My husband is not exactly a social butterfly. Sometimes, over dinner with friends, I think to myself that it would be nice if he talked a little more, you know, so that not so much of the "keeping the conversation alive" burden was on me. But then I look at him, sitting there and listening quietly, only speaking when he feels he actually has something to say, and I smile. After all, this is exactly why I fell in love with him in the first place - this quiet, super intelligent man that does not talk unless he actually has something useful to add to the conversation.

    2. Aim for "good enough." This may sound blatantly unromantic to some of you younger readers, but "good enough" as a general goal in

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  • 5 Ways to Get Fit for Under $5

    by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK

    Think getting in shape has to cost a fortune? Think again! Here are 5 budget friendly ways to get fit for next-to-nothing:

    1) Download A Fitness App. (cost: $0.99 to $1.99 each) Get in a good workout -with or without the gym- with the workouts available with Deft fitness ($0.99). Or turn your world into your own treadmill with iTreadmill - it tracks your steps, distance and average speeds. This pedometer app even lets you set a pacer dial, which clicks to keep you up to speed ($1.99). Or check out PumpOne's fitness builder and fitness class apps (free!) for expert level training and group fitness class experience for your iPad. (All available on apple.com/itunes.)

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    2) Get a guest pass for a new gym. (cost: free) Most gyms offer guest passes to locals, and invite you to come and try them out for free. Some chains like 24 Hour Fitness even host events for guests - checkout their "Last Chance Workout

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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Does He Really Love Me or Is He Moving Too Fast?"

    By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    DEAR WHYS GUY:

    I have been seeing this guy for a month. We were on the phone recently, casually talking, when all of the sudden he says to me, "I gotta go. I love you." He hung up the phone, and I was in shock. Had he really just said that to me? I asked him later if he meant what he said, and he told me he didn't recall telling me that. He also said he'd spoken to his mother right before me. Should I believe him? Or is he moving too fast?

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    DEAR REDBOOK READER:

    I've told customer service reps from Sears that I love them while hanging up the phone... several times. I don't really love any of the good people at Sears, but, you see, I have a tremendous fear of death and I have few friends.

    Just bear with me for a second; I'll make everything clear and answer your question.

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  • What to Serve at Your Royal Wedding Party

    By Ava Feuer, REDBOOK

    If you're one of the wedding diehards who's going to have friend over at 4 a.m. to watch the festivities live, here are some breakfast ideas perfect for an early morning gathering.


    Cranberry and Pumpkin-Seed Scones
    It wouldn't be a British experience without what is perhaps our friends across the pond's greatest culinary gift to us: tea and scones. This delicious cranberry and pumpkin version packs extra-savory flavor.


    Caramel Pecan Sticky Buns
    Indulge your sugar craving bright and early with these warm, cinnamon-infused sticky buns. Let's just call it our way of wishing the bride and groom a sweet union.


    Curried Egg Salad
    Infuse the usual egg salad with cucumbers, apricot preserves and a dash of curry. Add whole grain bread, slice off the crusts, and cut into triangles for oh-so-British tea sandwiches.

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    For those gathering to watch the ceremony later in the day (thank you, DVR),

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  • The 8 Messiest Mom Duties (That No One Ever Warned You About)

    by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

    Diaper explosions. Spit up stains. Cradle cap. No parent goes into this job without expecting some icky moments but there a few mom chores that are so frustrating, gross or bizarre that you want to look around for the hidden camera or yell "This is not in my contract!!" because you just can't believe that this is your life. And yet someone has to look for the shiny penny in the diaper and, let's face it, unless you have a full-time baby nanny, then you're it.

    1. Changing the sheets on the top bunk bed. Oh sure that loft bed looks so adorable and functional in the Pottery Barn catalog... until the first time you spend 30 minutes with sweat rolling down your face trying to wrangle the fitted sheet over all four corners. Heaven help you if you put the bed in a corner. Tip: Take the vacuum up there - you might as well get all those cob webs out of the ceiling corners while you're up there.

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    2. Flossing your

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  • 4 Adorable Fascinators We'd Wear to William and Kate's Wedding

    by Molly Fergus, REDBOOK

    Amidst all the pomp, circumstance, and surprises (like that rumored Alexander McQueen wedding gown!) surrounding Kate Middleton and Prince William's upcoming nuptials, there's one royal fashion tradition we fully support: statement-making headgear. We've picked out four toppers fit for the regal ceremony - now we're just waiting on our invite...

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    The Dandelion
    A beaded, sequined center anchors this fantastically whimsical ivory hair comb; from Mayas Ideas' Etsy shop; $60 at Etsy.

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    ASOS Netted Corsage Fascinator
    The gunmetal hue and flyaway netting are reminiscent of creations by master milliner Philip Treacy - the official hat-maker for Kate and Will's I Dos. $44.83 at ASOS.

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    Cara Accessories Tropical Flower Hair Clip
    Towering fascinators can seem pretty intimidating, which is why

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  • Easter Basket Rehab: 5 Ways to Fix the Calorie Damage

    by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK

    Did you enjoy your Easter weekend? Maybe a little too much? Even if you found yourself staring at an emptied out basket with candy wrappers strewn everywhere - don't fret. "It takes eating 3,500 calories above and beyond your body's needs to equal a pound of weight gained," says Christen Cooper, a Registered Dietitian and owner of Cooper Education and Communication in Pleasantville, New York. So even if you ate a lot of sweet treats on Easter (and a few days after), you can probably still fit in your jeans. "In fact, you probably didn't even gain a full pound," says Cooper.

    But our experts did agree the average Easter basket can contain up to 1,500 to 2,000 calories (yikes!), so if you enjoyed the whole thing, here are 5 easy ways to get back on track:

    1) Estimate the actual calorie damage done and reverse it in small steps, recommends Cooper. For example, if you know you downed about 1,000 extra calories over the weekend, try cutting out your usual dessert

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  • My stepdaughter has fought her weight for years and, since having kids, has become obese. She drinks a 12-pack of cola a day and keeps lots of candy at home. She has said, in front of her kids, "I don't like vegetables." The kids aren't overweight but are obsessed with having dessert, and the middle 7-year-old girl already says she is "dieting." The 9-year-old has been on laxatives since he was a baby (his doctor put him on them), but if he ate right, he wouldn't need them, as I see it. Suggesting a healthy diet for him, or telling his mother that she shouldn't drink so much soda, hasn't helped. I worry about her and her kids. What can her dad and I do or say to help them be healthier? - P.D., 51, Sylva, NC

    Related: How to Handle a Mompetitor


    I wish I could tell you that if you sat your step-daughter down and listed everything that was wrong with her diet and the way she's raising her kids to think about food, she'd see the light. But as you've observed, it doesn't work that way.

    Read More »from It's Complicated Advice Q&A: "How Do I Help an Overweight Family Member Eat Better?"

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