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  • Real Guys Confess: "I Married Up!"

    That's what President Obama has said about snagging Michelle, and it turns out that plenty of other husbands feel the same way. Here, 7 real guys reveal what it is about their wives that makes them feel so superlucky.

    She's Got Game
    By Steve Rushin

    My wife is an Olympic gold medalist, WNBA All-Star, Jeopardy! champion, and Rhodes Scholarship finalist who was sung to by President Clinton, sung about by Ludacris, and serenaded on Sesame Street by a chorus of Muppets. But it wasn't until I saw her basketball jersey in the Smithsonian - opposite Dorothy's ruby slippers from The Wizard of Oz - that it finally hit me: I, without a doubt, married up.

    My wife's name, Rebecca Lobo, is on sandwiches and street signs in New England. It adorns the arena rafters at the University of Connecticut, where she first became a basketball star. Her high school in Massachusetts is on Rebecca Lobo Way, a nice trump card to play at reunions. So people naturally assume that I took her name when we tied the

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  • It's Complicated Advice Q&A: My Husband is Putting Us Into Debt

    I've been married to my husband for two years. Early on, we decided to rent-to-own a beautiful home and, for the most part, everything's been wonderful. We decided I would be responsible for paying the mortgage and insurance and he would take care of the bills and house repairs. Lately, though, I've noticed that he's no longer paying the bills. We are now over a grand behind, and I'm starting to feel like I have to take care of everything, including housework. When I asked if he was going to help with payments, I got, "I'll put some toward them, but I need something to live on." I never have money for myself. I'm starting to think very hard about leaving him. What's your advice? - B.S., 29, Regina, Saskatchewan
    Read more: Stress from Debt - Get Out of Debt - Redbook

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    Does your husband know that if he doesn't start participating more in the nuts and bolts of the marriage that you're going to leave? If not, he needs to be told and deserves an

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  • 10 Things You Should Never Say to the Parent of a Toddler

    by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

    Infants are adorable with their funny faces, downy hair and oh-so-pattable bums. They're even adorable when they pass gas - "look he's smiling!" (We'll conveniently forget about colic, middle-of-the-night parties and diaper explosions on Great Grandma's white couch for now.) But toddler-hood is a whole new game and parents quickly discover that they're not the only ones setting the rules anymore. Mis-characterized as "the terrible twos," this stage of defiant independence punctuated with extreme neediness can last up until kindergarten. Oh for the days when I could confine my son to a car seat in the grocery store!

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    So in an effort to support those moms and dads of toddler terrorists, here are 10 things you shouldn't say to the parent of a toddler:

    1. "I hope he's not going on this flight." Yeah me too but I'd also like a flight without loud people on cell phones, overhead bin hogs and

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  • Are You Having an Emotional Affair?

    By Heather Johnson Durocher

    I'll call him John. The first time we met, he actually struck me as a bit arrogant. He irritated me enough that I mentioned him to my husband in a "Can you believe this guy?" kind of way. But I interacted with John only occasionally, always through work and mostly over e-mail, so it wasn't a huge deal. He's just one of those people who gets under my skin, I told myself.

    But a little over a year into our working relationship, something changed. One day, John let down his guard with me and I responded, I suppose in part because I couldn't help but be curious about his mostly hidden soft side. Our conversations turned to easy banter and later - I have a hard time admitting this even now - flirtation. Our e-mails, which could number several in one day, never included outright expressions of affection toward each other. Instead, our notes were mostly business peppered with friendly sparring. We shared a similar sense of humor. I felt that he got me.

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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Why Do Grown Men Think Fart Jokes Are Funny?"

    By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    DEAR WHYS GUY:

    Why are fart and penis jokes so damn funny? Why are my guy and his friends telling the same fart and penis jokes they've told for the last 20 years?

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    DEAR REDBOOK READER:

    Allow me to answer your question with a question: Why can't women see the hilarity in penis and fart jokes? They're hilarious! The reason we're telling these jokes 20 years after we learned them is because a) We're perfecting our timing, and b) You can't go wrong with the classics.

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    Need help decoding odd male behavior? Redbook columnist Aaron Traister, who lives in Philadelphia with his wife and two kids, is our resident male who is happy to answer any questions you might have about the mind of a man. Either leave your questions in the comments or email him at redbook@hearst.comwith Whys Guy in the subject. Letters, emails, and

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  • 4 Former Bullies Apologize to Their Victims

    by Jessica Press, REDBOOK
    To: My second-grade classmates at Jefferson Elementary school in Wisconsin
    I was mean-spirited and confused when I was 6. If I close my eyes, I can still picture one of my cruelest days perfectly: It was a snowy winter afternoon in Wisconsin, and my second-grade classmates and I were running around the playground during recess when I spotted a piece of frozen dog poop on the ground. I went right for it and threw it at someone I had cornered, picked it back up, and flung it at the next poor target. I thought it was hilarious, but it was a disgusting thing to do - and I got away with it. I always did.

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    Like the time I persuaded my two best friends to fill a book of Mad Libs with swear words and let them take the fall when the teacher confiscated it. I can still feel the hole I'd get in my stomach as I watched others get in trouble for my stunts; I was too much of a coward to 'fess up.

    I didn't realize it then, but

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  • It's Complicated: Why Can't My Mom Be Happy for Me?

    The guy I've been dating for a year now is everything I could have wished for. We met while I was going through a divorce, and he has been incredibly supportive. (He is also divorced and knew what I was experiencing.) The only problem is my mother. She's always making snide comments. For example, she recently said that she doesn't call me as much because I am "always" with my boyfriend. He and I do spend weekends together, but that is far from "all the time." My mom has a lot she's dealing with: She isn't happy with her job, she has a tumultuous relationship with my sister, and my brother is getting married next year. I've tried to be sensitive to all that. I've also told her that her comments bother me. After being married to a cheater, liar, and emotional abuser, I deserve better. So why can't Mom just be happy for me?

    - J.W., 30, Pittsburgh
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    The simple answer is: Because you're your mother's child and she's worried, and because her personality

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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Why Do Men Sit with Their Legs Wide Open?"

    By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    DEAR WHYS GUY:
    Why do men sit with their legs splayed at a 100-degree angle?

    DEAR REDBOOK READER:

    It's very hard to explain how uncomfortable it is to keep your legs closed to a group of people who don't have penises.

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    Need help decoding odd male behavior? Redbook columnist Aaron Traister, who lives in Philadelphia with his wife and two kids, is our resident male who is happy to answer any questions you might have about the mind of a man. Either leave your questions in the comments or email him at redbook@hearst.comwith Whys Guy in the subject. Letters, emails, and comments may be edited for clarity and length.

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  • 3 Ways to Feel Closer to Your Partner

    by Lindsey Palmer, REDBOOK

    You know the feeling: You're introduced to someone new and - boom! - you're instant pals, or you meet a man and - sigh - it's love at first sight. That mysterious experience we call "hitting it off" is what psychologist Rom Brafman and his brother, Ori, explore in their new book, Click: The Magic of Instant Connections.

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    The Brafmans' research uncovers the "accelerators," such as complementary body language and letting down your guard, that lead to instant bonds and also strengthen long-term relationships. "These accelerators generate 'click' because they boost intimacy," Ori says. "Whether you're trying to connect with someone new or reignite the flames in a marriage, more intimacy is what you're aiming for, and the strategies to achieve it are the same."

    Here, he explains three easy ways to harness the power of "click" to feel closer to your guy:

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  • 7 Ways to Reduce Stress and Anxiety

    by Karen Asp, REDBOOK

    Feeling more stressed than ever? Join the club. Three quarters of adults have experienced moderate to high levels of stress in the past year, according to the American Psychological Association. These surprising strategies will go a long way toward taming tension - fast.

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    1. Tidy up a little. Here's a reason not to hate housecleaning: Doing 20 minutes a week of housework (or sports, gardening, or walking) could decrease your stress levels, according to a study from the British Journal of Sports Medicine. "If the activity is vigorous enough, stress-reducing endorphins will be released into the body," says Mark Hamer, Ph.D., the lead study author and a senior research fellow at University College London. (Not to mention the "yay, me!" boost you get from completing even one chore.)

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