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  • 3 Ways to Spend Less Time at the Gym and Get Better Results

    by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK

    As a personal trainer, I am constantly approached by people at their wits end, complaining that while they are watching what they eat and exercising like crazy - yet they still can't lose weight.

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    I have also watched these same people exercise at the gym - "exercising like crazy" means clocking in 60 minutes of cardio most days. They choose the same cardio machine, plunk down on it, and pull out their favorite magazine to pass the time. They'll do 60 minutes, the same way, everyday. And guess what? Their bodies look the same. Why? If you never change, you'll never change.

    When it comes to putting together a fitness program, less really IS more.

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    Here are three helpful tips to keep your workouts efficient and effective:

    1. Think quality over quantity. A 20-minute interval workout can be as, if not more effective, than

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  • 5 Genius Organizing Tricks That Will Take 5 Minutes or Less

    by Jessica Smith, REDBOOK

    Want to do a spring-cleaning but can't find the time? No problem. Here are a a few simple things you can do today to help get (and stay) clutter-free all year round:

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    1) Manage your mail. This goes for electronic mail too! If your inboxes are overflowing, it's hard to tell what needs your attention first. Apply the 'deal with it once' rule - if you open it, deal with it right then and there.

    2) Designate a "catch-all clutter" basket. Spend 5 minutes or less every day doing a sweep up - and put all things that you don't have time to deal with in your 'catch-all' basket. Then, designate one day a week to empty out the basket and return everything to its proper place.

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    3) Make a "daily use" drawer. We tend to use the same certain items or objects every single day. Create an easy to access, organized, 'daily use' drawer full of such materials. Organize

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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Do Guys Think About Other Women During Sex?"

    by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    DEAR WHYS GUY: Do guys think about other women during sex? -- Redbook reader


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    DEAR REDBOOK READER:

    You'd be amazed at the bizarre things that go through a guy's mind while he's having sex. Everyone knows the "thinking about baseball to postpone the inevitable" cliché, but it isn't relegated to baseball. There's also: Clowns. Shark Week. Armored cars. An old episode of MTV Cribs. Recycling. And yes, it's possible your guy is thinking about other women, but it's not a reflection on you or your relationship. I don't know if you've noticed, but men's faculties become slightly compromised during sex. We can't conjure or dismiss particular mental images, which could be anything from a woman we saw earlier in the day to a geology exam from high school. It's like the lid on the trash can of our mind topples off and random garbage spills out. Trust me: Other women are the least of your concerns.

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  • It's Complicated Advice Q&A: Is My Husband Going to Cheat on Me?


    My husband and I are close with another couple whose friendship I value very much. However, my husband seems preoccupied with the female half of this couple. He texts her numerous times a day; he also responds to her requests for assistance rapidly, while my requests are forgotten. I don't think he is actually cheating on me, but I am upset that he seems more responsive to her. Am I being too sensitive? - K.G., 30, Marion, OH

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    No, but even if you were, don't fall into the trap that a lot of women do (I've been there, believe me) of blaming your feelings for the problem. Doing so is to reassure yourself that the conflict isn't really an issue - it's just you - and that if you could somehow talk yourself out of your sensitive feelings, everything would magically resolve itself.

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    But that's not how it works, especially within marriages. Regardless of whether your husband is on the path to

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  • It's Complicated Advice Q&A: He Doesn't Want Our Baby


    Recently, my boyfriend wanted to have sex without using condoms. I was afraid of pregnancy and told him so, knowing that we're not prepared now for a child. Finally, I went to my doctor and got on the Pill. I'd been taking it for a short time when my boyfriend and I spent the weekend together. He still didn't bring condoms - he always said he wanted a family with me, five kids! Two weeks later, I found out I was pregnant. Now, he is pressuring me to have an abortion. My religious upbringing and personal morals just won't allow me to let abortion be an option. He says I'm forcing him to be a father. I am heartbroken that the guy I thought was a "keeper" is a fake. What to do? - D.S., 34, Oceanside, CA

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    Your boyfriend is being a jerk, but I'm not sure he's a "fake." Bringing another human being into this world is scary business, and perhaps his bad behavior is evidence that deep inside he knows this. In some ways it's a good sign - guys who are

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  • Charlie Sheen: Mid-Life Crisis Cautionary Tale for Men?

    charlie sheencharlie sheenby Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    A lot of ink has been spilled on Charlie Sheen in the last few weeks, so consider this my obligatory blog post on the subject. Most of that ink has been dedicated to questioning his sobriety and sanity, and wondering if we should laugh at, cry for, or wag our finger at the man. Many have wondered if he's bi-polar, or suffering brain damage from a life of hard drug abuse, or whether he is just playing a game with the media. I'm not qualified to answer any of those questions, but I can acknowledge what I do recognize in the midst of this bizarre public spectacle:

    Among many other things, the man is struggling through the mother of all mid-life crises.

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    Let's just run down a mid-life crisis check list here:

    1. Constant references to his age (incidentally, it's 45)? Check.
    2. Raging at his father for continuing to treat him like a child? Check.
    3. Lashing out at his boss for undervaluing his talent and importance?

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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Is It Okay to Be Facebook Friends with Your Ex?"

    by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    DEAR WHYS GUY:

    I recently read what you had to say about a guy watching porn is not a big deal, and I agree with you. Here's my question: Is it okay for your husband to look up the women he works with on Facebook? What about his exes? Is it okay for your husband to look up the women he works with on Facebook? What about his exes? -Sara

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    DEAR SARA: It's interesting that you're equating porn with Facebook, but I guess I understand where you're coming from. Both porn and Facebook are about on-line voyeurism, since Facebook can be as much about sneaking a peek into someone life as it is about staying in touch.

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    Do you think your husband is trying to stay in touch with these women? Does he want to interact with them online? And if so, would you be okay with that? Or, is he lurking on his female co-workers' and exes' FB pages for a bit of an illicit thrill- getting a kick out of

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  • by Charlotte Hilton Andersen, REDBOOK

    Raise your hand if you knew Charlie Sheen has five kids? Yeah, me neither. I can tell you about his love life (cohabiting with two "goddesses"/porn stars) and his alcoholism ("cured" with the power of his mind) and his work (um, fired) and even his ex-wives (remember when Denise Richards looked like the crazy one?) but something is getting lost in his media-saturated circle around the drain. What's going on with the kids?

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    His toddler twins with ex Brooke Mueller made the news recently but only in the context of him losing custody of them and how well the goddesses are bonding with them. His daughters with ex Denise Richards are living with their mother and even farther from the limelight. And what of his other child? Apparently he has a 26-year-old daughter with ex Paula Speers. Who knew?


    So how are his kids doing? People magazine has an article on stands today to answer this question with vaguely

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  • Dear Whys Guy: "Does He Love the Dog More Than Me?"

    by Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

    DEAR WHYS GUY:

    I have a dilemma. My husband and I have a Novia Scotia Duck Toller. He's 3 years old, and his name is Bosco.

    My husband absolutely refuses to leave the dog home when we go out. On the rare occasion when we go shopping and leave the dog at home, it's like "beat the clock." My husband says that Bosco is a pack animal and he needs to be with the pack. The last time I checked, I don't pee outside, so I don't know what pack he's talking about. Bosco sleeps in our bedroom, and if I should get up to go to the bathroom (indoors) I'll come back to find Bosco with his head on my pillow sleeping next to my husband. "Do you want room service? Maybe a Mimosa?!"

    Am I crazy?


    -Vicki

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    DEAR VICKI:

    I used to have a weird animal thing. Every time my wife Karel went out of town in the spring she would come back to find a crate full of stray kittens in our small bedroom. It's not hard to find packs of stray kittens

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  • If You Feel Loved, You Value Your Stuff Less

    by Ava Feuer, REDBOOK

    Those who are convinced that their good dishes, throw pillows, and stationary are worth a fortune may be suffering loneliness and insecurity.

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    Say what? A new study appearing in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that the stronger a person's sense that she is loved and accepted by others, the lower the monetary value she places on material goods. When researchers gave participants simple items like a pen or a blanket, those with weaker interpersonal relationships assigned the objects values up to five times greater than those with stronger bonds.


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    Researchers suggest that their study could be useful in understand people with hoarding disorders, and on a lesser scale, classic packrats.

    It makes sense because to some degree, we all take comfort in their possessions. But, in your experience, do the findings hold true?


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