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  • By Anna Davies, REDBOOK.

    Gwyneth Paltrow's recent announcement that she and husband Chris Martin are "consciously uncoupling" sparked a lot of scrutiny--and even more confusion. What does that phrase even mean? Are they really over? And isn't it just a nice way to say "divorce?" The answer is yes--and no. Although many family therapists and divorce mediators are unfamiliar with the term "conscious uncoupling," they agree that the concept is one that more couples are adopting as they try to untangle their lives together, and that it can be the best way to approach a looming divorce. Here, the five things you need to know about the phrase.

    Related: 7 Signs Divorced Couples Say They Missed

    1. Technically, it's a "good divorce"… and they do exist. Constance Ahrons, Ph.D., professor emirita at the University of Southern California and author of The Good Divorce, who coined the term in 1990, says that in the 25 years since she's written her book, she's seen an increasing number of

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  • Here's the Ultimate Proof that Chic Comes in Every Size

    Impossibly cool designer Isabel Toledo has a gorgeous new plus-size line for Lane Bryant--and some ingenious tips we can all use.

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    50 Delicate Jewelery Finds Under $100
    30 Cutest Short Hairstyles Anyone Can Pull Off
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  • Exactly How to Save $2,255

    Trying just one of these smart tricks will net you a good chunk of change. But if you do them all, you'll keep thousands in your pocket this year. By Melody Warnick, REDBOOK.

    Get on auto-pay already.
    "I used to procrastinate on paying bills and kept getting socked with late fees. Finally, I set up every bill for automatic payment, and I'm saving a ton. Plus, when I put my monthly student loan payments on auto-pay, my loan company dropped my interest rate half a percentage point, which boosts my savings into triple digits every year." -Jenna Rose Robbins, Playa del Rey, CA. Yearly savings: $300

    Related: 9 Sneaky Things Everyone Leaves Out of Their Budget

    Sell old gadgets. "Last summer, when my family did a household cleanup, we were surprised to realize how many devices--an old tablet, some phones--we had lying around the house. So we sold them on You get an online quote, ship your stuff with a prepaid mailer, and get paid by PayPal, check, or Amazon gift card. Even a

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  • The Top 10 Complaints from Unhappy Husbands

    And how you can attack the issues together. By Cathy Garrard, REDBOOK.

    1. "I wish she'd appreciate me a little more, like by being affectionate when I come home instead of greeting me with the list of stuff I didn't take care of and the things I didn't do right. I know it's tough for her dealing with the house and kids, but there's never an acknowledgement that I just spent all day working and took a crowded train home." - Jim Jim B., 46, married 21 years

    The expert says: Whether you work in an office, run a household, or some combination of the two, you're both likely frustrated with your heaping plates of responsibility. And although it's a natural reaction, piling on more the second your partner steps through the door is not the best way to get him to hear or help you. "Instead of leading with a list, understand that he may need a few minutes to unwind," says Kara Thompson, a licensed family and marriage therapist in Lenexa, KS. You'll both listen better when you've

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  • Why Kourtney Kardashian Practices Attachment Parenting

    By Lisa Arcella, REDBOOK.

    Things just keep getting busier for this reality TV star and mom of two. In addition to filming Keeping Up With the Kardashians and running after Mason, 4, and Penelope, 19 months, Kourtney's joining her sisters to launch a Kardashian Kids line, available exclusively at Babies "R" Us. We sat down with Kourtney to discuss parenting, the biggest lesson her mom taught her, and what's next for the Kardashian klan.

    The clothes are adorable. Why did you decide to do the line?

    I've always loved children's clothes---my grandmother actually owned a children's boutique in La Jolla, CA, for 30 years. I grew up visiting her and working in her store, and then my mom and I had a children's boutique together for five or six years. I did all the buying for the store, and I really miss it. I stopped before I even had kids.

    Related: The 5 Most Annoying People You Encounter When You're Pregnant

    I remember when I first found out I was having a boy, I became

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  • The Makeup Routine that Wakes Up Tired Eyes

    "Every woman wants big, beautiful eyes that make her look younger and more rested," says makeup artist Mally Roncal. Her easy tips get you there, even in the morning rush. REDBOOK.

    1. Start with a neutral, gleamy eyeshadow
    Brush a sheer champagne shadow (which works on any skin tone) across your eyelids and at the inner corners, then sweep a little right under your lower lashes. You don't even need a mirror for this step.

    Related: 10 Facial Oils for Every Skin Type and Concern

    2. Line your upper lids

    I like to use navy liner--it makes the whites of your eyes look brighter. Work the pencil tip into your lash line, then sketch it back and forth just along the outer lashes. Penciling the entire length of your lid can actually make eyes look smaller.

    3. ...And a bit underneath

    Line the lower lids from the outside corner to about halfway across. Again, penciling all the way in--or inside the lower lid--can keep eyes from looking their biggest. Smudge both lines with a Q-tip.


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  • “How Affairs Make My Marriage Stronger”

    It's not only happening on House of Cards. This woman considers a don't-ask-don't-tell rule the secret to her marital bliss. Anonymous, as told to Anna Davies, REDBOOK.

    It's a Wednesday night, and my boyfriend and I are drinking wine and making out in the back booth of a dimly lit bar. It feels like nothing else in the world exists… until my phone vibrates.

    "It's my husband. The kids are in bed," I say, then put my phone in my purse and pull my boyfriend toward me. I spend half a second staring at the diamond on my engagement ring before hiding my hand from my sight line. It's not a secret that I'm married, but it's also not something I want to think about right now.

    Am I a horrible person? Without context, I know I sound horrible. But in my marriage, having affairs works. My husband and I don't talk about it. But I'm certain our don't-ask-don't-tell rule is what has allowed our marriage to last as long as it has.

    Related: What Dating a Man 20 Years Younger Taught Me About

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  • 7 Signs Divorced Couples Say They Missed

    Every relationship has its own special dynamic, but experts say these signals suggest that you or your partner have stopped dealing with stuff that you probably need to address. By Nicole Yorio Jurick, REDBOOK.

    "My husband stopped going places with me--family functions, work events, dinner parties." - Meredith T., Philadelphia
    "If your spouse skips out when you want him by your side, it's easy to feel like he doesn't care about your needs or interests," says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., author of Finding Love Again. But don't assume the slight was intentional. "Couples often have different expectations about what they should and shouldn't do together," she says. So if attending family parties as a duo is important to you, make that clear, and if he'd rather stay behind, find out why. It may be that your uncle hits him up for cash, or your weeknight work events leave him exhausted the next day, meaning his desire to stay home has to do with the people or the situation--not you or your

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  • 5 Ways Instagram Can Save Your Marriage and Sanity

    By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK.

    A Traister family selfieIt's Twitter's eighth birthday, and to "celebrate" the platform is helping you "discover your first tweet." First of all, I don't want to celebrate Twitter, and second, I know what my first tweet was because it's from about a month and half ago. It reads: "I'm on twitter again. I'm betting I make it two weeks this time." That was six weeks ago, so like most things on Twitter, my first tweet was factually incorrect. Finding your first tweet is dumb. It's okay to admit that you don't care what your first tweet was--or even what your most recent tweet said.

    Why? Because social media is bad. It's like a river of sewage filled with partially digested ideas and information flowing outside your family's front window. My wife Karel hates when I try to "do social media" I get weird and obsessively myopic. Checking messages and looking for updates turns into a weird tick, and I get incredibly grumpy because my faith in humanity and the people I know takes a

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  • By Sarah Smith, REDBOOK.

    There's a fairly happy ending to the story of the boy who got bullied for carrying a My Little Pony backpack. First, he was told by his school that it was a "trigger" and he should leave it at home, but now the school says he can bring it after all, and they'll help him transition back to school safely. Victim-blaming being not so pretty as a pony.

    Related: The 9 Types of Moms You See on Facebook

    But I have my eye on even happier endings for this kid. Here's what I hope happens to him next, and down the road:

    This month: I hope he goes back to school and no one snickers quietly behind his back about the backpack, the fuss his mom caused, and how much attention the adults are paying him. This might be unrealistic. I remember being 9--there's more than one way to ostracize another kid. But still, I hope.

    Related: The 5 Most Annoying People You Encounter When You're Pregnant

    This year: I hope that whatever his next great love is--"Let it Go,"

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