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  • “How Affairs Make My Marriage Stronger”

    It's not only happening on House of Cards. This woman considers a don't-ask-don't-tell rule the secret to her marital bliss. Anonymous, as told to Anna Davies, REDBOOK.

    It's a Wednesday night, and my boyfriend and I are drinking wine and making out in the back booth of a dimly lit bar. It feels like nothing else in the world exists… until my phone vibrates.

    "It's my husband. The kids are in bed," I say, then put my phone in my purse and pull my boyfriend toward me. I spend half a second staring at the diamond on my engagement ring before hiding my hand from my sight line. It's not a secret that I'm married, but it's also not something I want to think about right now.

    Am I a horrible person? Without context, I know I sound horrible. But in my marriage, having affairs works. My husband and I don't talk about it. But I'm certain our don't-ask-don't-tell rule is what has allowed our marriage to last as long as it has.

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  • 7 Signs Divorced Couples Say They Missed

    Every relationship has its own special dynamic, but experts say these signals suggest that you or your partner have stopped dealing with stuff that you probably need to address. By Nicole Yorio Jurick, REDBOOK.

    "My husband stopped going places with me--family functions, work events, dinner parties." - Meredith T., Philadelphia
    "If your spouse skips out when you want him by your side, it's easy to feel like he doesn't care about your needs or interests," says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., author of Finding Love Again. But don't assume the slight was intentional. "Couples often have different expectations about what they should and shouldn't do together," she says. So if attending family parties as a duo is important to you, make that clear, and if he'd rather stay behind, find out why. It may be that your uncle hits him up for cash, or your weeknight work events leave him exhausted the next day, meaning his desire to stay home has to do with the people or the situation--not you or your

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  • 5 Ways Instagram Can Save Your Marriage and Sanity

    By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK.

    A Traister family selfieIt's Twitter's eighth birthday, and to "celebrate" the platform is helping you "discover your first tweet." First of all, I don't want to celebrate Twitter, and second, I know what my first tweet was because it's from about a month and half ago. It reads: "I'm on twitter again. I'm betting I make it two weeks this time." That was six weeks ago, so like most things on Twitter, my first tweet was factually incorrect. Finding your first tweet is dumb. It's okay to admit that you don't care what your first tweet was--or even what your most recent tweet said.

    Why? Because social media is bad. It's like a river of sewage filled with partially digested ideas and information flowing outside your family's front window. My wife Karel hates when I try to "do social media" I get weird and obsessively myopic. Checking messages and looking for updates turns into a weird tick, and I get incredibly grumpy because my faith in humanity and the people I know takes a

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  • By Sarah Smith, REDBOOK.

    There's a fairly happy ending to the story of the boy who got bullied for carrying a My Little Pony backpack. First, he was told by his school that it was a "trigger" and he should leave it at home, but now the school says he can bring it after all, and they'll help him transition back to school safely. Victim-blaming being not so pretty as a pony.

    Related: The 9 Types of Moms You See on Facebook

    But I have my eye on even happier endings for this kid. Here's what I hope happens to him next, and down the road:

    This month: I hope he goes back to school and no one snickers quietly behind his back about the backpack, the fuss his mom caused, and how much attention the adults are paying him. This might be unrealistic. I remember being 9--there's more than one way to ostracize another kid. But still, I hope.

    Related: The 5 Most Annoying People You Encounter When You're Pregnant

    This year: I hope that whatever his next great love is--"Let it Go,"

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  • The 10 Best New Nude Polishes

    So long, boring beige! We've got an array of spring neutrals, so you can pick your perfect, hand-flattering hue. Polish your toes with one of these barely-there shades, too, for a super-clean, elegant look. By Marissa Oliva, REDBOOK.

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    50 Spring Flats Under $100
    30 Cutest Short Hairstyles Anyone Can Pull Off
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  • 9 Creative Ways You Could Save Thousands on Your Taxes

    Overwhelmed by that April 15 deadline? Us too. But you'll feel a whole lot better knowing how much of your hard-earned money you can keep. By Holly Mascaro, REDBOOK.

    The first piece of good news: 2013's American Taxpayer Relief Act solidified tax brackets for anyone making under $400K, meaning you don't have to worry about congress doing something funky, and your having to unexpectedly pay more income taxes. And that's not all.

    If you haven't signed up for a healthcare plan
    No doubt you've heard a lot about the Affordable Care Act, sometimes referred to as Obamacare, but you may not know that if you don't register for a healthcare plan by March 31, you'll face a tax penalty in 2015. According to, it'll cost you $95 per adult and $47.50 for children under 18, or one percent of your income--whichever amount is higher. "Begin by researching your options, and go in knowing that it will take some time and patience to select the appropriate policy," said Howard Hook, a CPA at

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  • The 9 Best Money Apps Out There

    You know how the ultra-rich have "private bankers" to handle their money? Well, these apps will do that for you--soon you'll need "wealth management" too. By MP Dunleavey, REDBOOK.

    1. Billguard is like having your own fraud-protection department. This reliable service flags suspicious charges on up to 10 accounts. (Free)

    2. Simple. Ditch your bank (and its fees and charges) for a free debit card account with no minimum balance; the app enables you to pay bills, track spending, and budget. (Free)

    Related: 9 Sneaky Things Everyone Leaves Out of Their Budget

    3. Square Cash is the easiest way to send money from a debit card to a friend, babysitter, bookie (kidding!). Link up and pay in about 90 seconds--we tested it. (Free)

    4. Level Money is like a gas gauge for your bank account. It tracks your cash and bills, then does the math to let you know how much spending money is left over daily. (Free)

    Related: 25 Lazy Ways to Save Money

    5. Manilla
    offers the delicious

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  • The 9 Emotional Stages of Spring Cleaning

    By Lauren Le Vine, REDBOOK.

    Adorable creatures will celebrate my progress, too.It's officially the first day of spring, and you know what that means: Let the annual foray into decluttering officially commence! As usual, you start with the best of intentions: This is the year you're going to give the house a complete cleaning from top to bottom. It's warming up outside, and you know you stashed away some lightweight sweaters 10 years ago that could definitely pass as retro at this point. You're finally going to find them! And it's not just going to be a physical cleaning, either. No, this is the year you cleanse your entire life. Now let's get to it!

    Related: The 15 Best Budget-Friendly Design Secrets

    Stage 1: Motivation
    Okay, what needs to get done here. I should probably make a list-lists help people stay on track, right? Wait, maybe there's an app for total spring cleaning domination. If there isn't, someone should really invent one. Wait, am I onto something here?

    [Checks the app store]

    Fine, so a ton of other

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  • 6 Signs You're an Emotional Eater

    Got a craving for something sweet or crunchy? It may be feelings you're feeding--not your belly. But you can break the habit. By Nicole Yorio Jurick, REDBOOK.

    You crave the same foods at specific times
    Does wanting for sweets after meals, cookies at 3 p.m., or chips when you sit by the TV sound like your MO? Next time you find yourself rushing to the vending machine mid-afternoon, put that dollar back in your wallet and ask yourself why you're there. "Whether it's your snack-time sweet tooth or a 9 p.m. desire to eat anything, figuring out what your body is asking for--whether that's energy, a means to de-stress, or a way to end boredom--is key to squashing the habit," says Nadya Andreeva, author of Happy Belly. "Once you know what you're truly craving, replace eating with a new habit to satisfy that need." Take an energizing 10-minute walk near your office, write in a journal to unwind, or call or email a friend to end boredom. "Once you meet that need without food, cravings

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  • 6 Things Doctors Tell Their Friends About Preventing Cancer

    These specialists get cornered everywhere from family reunions to Facebook by people feeling spooked by the C word. Here's the real and reassuring advice they pass along--use it to take control of your health. By Lisa Mulcahy, REDBOOK.

    You don't have to give up sweets
    "Lots of people I know think that sugar causes cancer so you should avoid it at all costs. It's true that cancer cells do utilize sugar to grow, but when friends tell me proudly, 'I've cut sweets out of my diet completely,' I tell them, 'You don't need to do that.' Now, that's not to say you should indulge in all the soda and cupcakes you want, because data shows that a diet packed with empty calories from sugar-filled processed foods or soft drinks can up your cancer risk. But if you're eating right, filling your plate with healthy food, it's fine to have the occasional sweet treat. A close friend was recently diagnosed with brain cancer, and even in her situation, enjoying, say, a cookie or slice of pie is more

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