You've heard of intuition, but what you may not realize is that it's a biological survival tool, and possibly a crucial get-ahead tool. And while animals often heed this sixth sense, humans tend to let "rational" thinking override it. Here's the thing: Intuition can guide us to make smarter, faster choices, says Gert Gigerenzer, PhD, author of Gut Feelings.
What Intuition Is
"Gut instincts are mental shortcuts used to make a snap judgment based on experience and environment," says David Myers, PhD, author of Intuition. Your unconscious picks up on clues below the surface of rational awareness - from body language to just an uneasy feeling that you may need to bust out the self-defense - and communicates the info to you via intuitive feelings. It's like a little covert operation in your head.
These messages are sparked by perceptual cues (e.g., people can tell when a smile is fake yet can't explain why) or by past situations. "Your brain has a database of knowledge that your
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You've heard of intuition, but what you may not realize is that it's a biological survival tool, and possibly a crucial get-ahead tool. And while animals often heed this sixth sense, humans tend to let "rational" thinking override it. Here's the thing: Intuition can guide us to make smarter, faster choices, says Gert Gigerenzer, PhD, author of Gut Feelings.Read More »from Learn How to Follow Your Intuition
Joining the Mile High Club might seem like a great idea...but only 4 percent of women have actually done it in a tiny airplane lavatory, according to a recent Cosmo poll. Here's how to pull off getting off in even the most awkward spaces.
Because sometimes the recipe for awesome sex calls for those three little words: Just add water. Want to know his favorite time of day to get it on? Read this!
If you think you may "dry up" in water, keep a silicone-based lube handy. Or just have your guy take a step forward so that the shower is hitting his back and not your lady parts. Bonus points if there's a mirror that lets you watch the wet and wild action!
Best sex position for this spot: Standing with him behind you, like Slippery When Wet
This sex spot combines need-it-now-ness with some reassuring, locked privacy.Read More »from 3 Sneaky Spots to Have Sex
Skip the backseat and recline the passenger side instead, which will give you maximum space and comfort. If your car has leather
According to our exclusive salon poll, certain styles are in crazy-high demand. Whether it's Blake's curls or Kristen's shag you want to clone, these cut and color secrets from Hollywood stylists are all you need. Of course, celebs haven't always had perfect strands. Want proof? Check out these celeb hair makeovers.
Blake Lively's High-Drama Curls
Hands down, Blake's do is the top celeb style requested day after day, say our experts. "She has it all: shine, fullness, and bounce," says Jennifer Johnson, head stylist on the set of Gossip Girl. Got a girl crush on Blake? Find out what it means. To get that luster, you have to keep hair healthy. "Fried strands look dull, so I spray on a heat protectant before picking up a blow-dryer or iron," says Johnson, who likes Aveda Brilliant Damage Control, $15. To score serious volume, use a paddle brush to lift up your roots from the scalp as you aim the blow-dryer directly at them. When roots are dry, switch to a medium-size round brush.Read More »from 5 Celeb Hairstyles You'll Want to Try
Sure, we love the steamy plot lines and hot guys of SATC, but we're really drooling over the fashion. We got a sneak peek at some of the scenes from the new film and searched through hundreds of shoes to find look-alikes that Carrie would approve of. (Warning: Read this and you'll want to go shopping right now.) Plus: Find out everything you've been dying to know about Sex and the City 2.
Splurge: As she steps out wearing a newsprint dress and open-toe floral ankle boots, it's obvious that Carrie hasn't abandoned her ballsy fashion sense just because she's a Mrs. Vote for your favorite outfits from SATC in this totally addictive game!
Steal: Black Tano Sandals, Dollhouse, $59.95
Splurge: We can't wait to find out what crazy plotline will bring Samantha and Miley Cyrus face-to-face in the same dress and killer strappy boots. Take this quiz to find out your seduction style.
Steal: Brown Downtown Strappy Boots, XOXO, $59.95
Splurge: CharlotteRead More »from Steal the Shoes from Sex and the City 2
- Cosmopolitan.com | Love + Sex – Wed, May 12, 2010 7:08 PM EDT
MacGruber star and Saturday Night Live's hilarious Will Forte brings to life good-on-paper dudes who are really just chumps in disguise. Don't say we didn't warn you.Read More »from An SNL Star's Advice: 4 Guys You Should Never EVER Date
This dude skydives, surfs, runs with the bulls - anything for that rush. And he has the sick abs and chiseled arms to prove it. But to keep him happy, you need to be in perpetual motion too. This guy does not like to sit on his ass ... and he doesn't like for you to sit on yours either. And it isn't just a phase. In his late 30s, he'll get into marathons, and they'll lead to triathlons and eventually to the Ironman competition. Yeah, that means a trip to Hawaii ... but instead of chilling on the beach, you'll be cheering him on from the sidelines. Having fun yet?
Red Flags That Should Freak You Out on the First Date
Nice Guy with a Chip on His Shoulder
He'll ridicule the "tools who are trying too hard" with bold clothing choices to seem down-to- earth, but here's his dirty little secret: He spends
You've probably heard people talk about being addicted to tanning, or maybe even experienced it yourself, but is tanorexia a real thing? According to researchers, it's very real...and surprisingly common.
The study, conducted by Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center and the University of Albany, found that 27 percent of those surveyed (college students) have a psychological dependence on tanning in UV-light beds and booths. And scientists say that addiction includes symptoms that are similar to those that alcoholics or smokers experience. As in, they tan with increasing frequency, deal with withdrawal issues or discomfort, and have trouble stopping the habit even though they know it's bad for them. Yikes.
Along with the new tan tax, this study could give researchers major clues as to how to get young women to stop baking. We sure hope so, considering going in a bed or a booth before age 30 increases your skin-cancer risk by 75 percent.
Know the Facts About UV Exposure:
Most guys love to hate on SATC, but we found out the truth: they admire Samantha's sexual bravado and Carrie's clever puns almost as much as we do. We asked guys (yes, straight ones) what turned them on to the hit show, so the next time he rolls his eyes when a rerun comes on, you know he's faking it. Find out everything you want to know about SATC 2.
"I actually love the show and am not afraid to tell people. I think the dialogue is the best part. One of my favorite scenes was when Samantha threw the lemons at the young chicks sleeping with her "man" at his posh house in the Hamptons. You wouldn't see such ballsiness anywhere else." -Dima, 25
"I watch SATC for the same reason I read Cosmo, actually - to gain insight into the other side. It's like being invited to a secret meeting where women reveal what they really think about what guys do. Also, I know what a Manolo Blahnik is now, so I can nod knowingly whenRead More »from What Men Secretly Love About Sex And the City
Partying is most likely a big aspect of your social life, although it's not fun (or pretty) to be a big ol' drunken mess. Some of the best among us, however, have been there: The night starts with promise and ends with a vow whispered into the toilet to never, ever get that smashed again. Once you know how much you can handle, you can use these tricks to keep from getting totally trashed.
1) Pacing is key. If you drink too much too fast, your self-control will be shot before you know it. So try to linger over your drink. Find out the sexiest drink you can order- according to bartenders. One ploy to cut back your consumption is to begin imbibing later in the evening. Start your night with a glass or two of sparkling water and you'll have less time to toss back the hard stuff. If you have trouble remembering how many drinks you've had, save the bottle caps from your beer or straws from your cocktails to keep track.Read More »from How to Drink Without Getting a Hangover
2) Another trick is to use "spacers" - alternating a glass of
Thanks to 16 and Pregnant many women think of getting knocked up outside of marriage as something that might happen in high school, but is unlikely once we become adults and are more responsible and educated about condoms and the Pill. (And yet how educated are we really? Read on to learn what your gyno hasn't told you about birth control.)Read More »from Is the Birth Control Pill Enough?
But a report from The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancies says otherwise. More than one-third of unplanned pregnancies are to unmarried women in their 20s. And seven in 10 pregnancies that happen to 20somethings are unplanned.
And don't think that just having a Pill prescription or bringing condoms along when you hook up will keep you in the clear; you have to use these correctly each and every time. Almost half of all unplanned pregnancies among young, sexually active women are due to birth-control lapses and screw-ups, according to a report by the Guttmacher Institute, a reproductive-health organization.
The SATC chicks have endured the good, the bad, and the totally bizarre when it came to dating. Cosmo studied some of their most memorable relationships to find out what we could learn from the fabulous foursome. Find out everything you want to know about SATC 2.
Case study: Miranda and Steve
When Miranda met bartender Steve Brady, she was skeptical as usual. He was nice (and easy on the eyes) but clearly not relationship material. Not surprisingly, their divergent careers created problems: conflicting schedules, fights about money, and different outlooks on life. Miranda could have deleted his number from her BlackBerry, but ultimately, his laid-back personality and devotion won her over. The unlikely pair started a family and eventually tied the knot.
Lesson #1: Date against your type.
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Case study: Carrie and Mr. Big
Sure, Carrie might have done some of the chasing, but in the end it was Mr. Big who showed up at her door the