Blog Posts by Cosmopolitan.com

  • The 13 Best Pieces of Career Advice for Young Women

    Follow these tips to snag your dream job. The staff at Cosmopolitan shared the No. 1 piece of advice they'd give to young women starting their careers.

    By the Editors

    1. "Don't be too sensitive or precious about your work. Learn to see criticism, comments and notes from your bosses as ways to grow and understand your field better. Even if something stings, move on from it tomorrow and come to work with a smile on your face.Having a thicker skin is for the best: No one has time to hold your hand and give you a cookie over every assignment that comes your way." - Michelle Ruiz, Senior Editor

    2. "Don't be a dick. But be assertive and make the connections you feel you need to make, and don't be afraid to reach out to people who have careers you idolize - I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing now if I had not sent one panicked email when I was 22 to three thirtysomething women who were killing it in the NYC journalism/blogging industry. But don't push so hard that you forget to have fun with your job - when it's something like

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  • 10 Terrifying Truths About Blow-Dry Bars

    There's a lot you need to know.Yes, you can get a $40 blowout wrong, unless you consider walking out day-drunk and looking like Lisa Vanderpump right.

    By Anna Breslaw

    1. The inside of blow-dry bars look like a saloon in Candyland, and this plus the high volume of people and running blow-dryers can be overwhelming.
    Unless you are one of those super girly-girls who loves spending a good hour and a half inside Malibu Barbie's Dream House (more power to you!), the all-white, splashes-of-pink, consistent-Carly-Rae-Jepsen-blaring ambiance of the blow-dry bar might make your right eyelid start to twitch a little. Just keep breathing, and it helps if you listened to the Doors on the way there. Just to keep it balanced.

    2. Even with an appointment, you'll wait longer than you'd like to.
    You walk in, give them your name, which they've inevitably spelled wrong ("Beardslaw at 2:00?"), and sit on a couch by the window with four other women with messy Day 4 unwashed topknots who are all on their iPhones. Engage them

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  • 10 Breakup Myths, Debunked

    Sometimes, eating that pint of ice cream isn't actually going to make you feel better.Before you fall into a pop-culture-inspired spiral of booze, ice cream and gross spiky-haired rebound men you'd otherwise never have sex with, read this.

    By Anna Breslaw

    Myth #1: "It takes half as long as you went out with someone to get over them."
    Did you know that the "sell-by" dates on food actually have nothing to do with safety at all, and we toss out perfectly decent cans of sustenance just because a number tells us to? That's because our weird human brains need concrete deadlines on everything-especially when we've just been dumped and we feel terrible. But there's no deadline for crawling out of the depths of heartbreak. It could be quicker than you imagined, or it could be years, or (sorry) it could be never.


    Related: 10 Things You Must Do After A Breakup

    Myth #2: "If you were never officially going out, you shouldn't be as sad as you'd be if you were official."
    Woman A has a boyfriend for two months and then he dumps her. Woman B hooks up with someone she

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  • 11 Flirting Fails Made by All Twentysomethings

    Don't make these flirting mistakes!Somewhere in between pushing each other on the schoolyard and starting a joint bank account, there's us, mostly drunk-texting with no idea what we are doing. We've all been guilty of giving or getting one of these doozies.

    By Anna Breslaw

    1. Relying on alcohol as a mating/dating technique.
    Yes, after that magic first kiss with a crush after a few glasses of champagne, it occurs to us that drinking makes dating more ~*~mAgiCaL.~**~ Cut to three years later, when you are on the worst, most uncomfortable online date of all time, and wind up sleeping with the guy because you're drunk.

    2. Negging as a pickup technique.
    There is a (hopefully) small window of time in the lives of many twentysomethings during which they're attracted to people who, subtly or less subtly, make them feel worthless. Dude, walking up to a girl you think is pretty and telling her her butt looks big in those pants doesn't make you Don Draper.


    Related:
    20 Mistakes Everyone Makes in Their Twenties

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  • 9 Reasons Women Are Funnier Than Men

    Self-explanatory. By Anna Breslaw


    1. Historical oppression, w00t.

    In other words, the reason that black, Latino, Jewish and LGBT people have a rich history in comedy. Oppression's not funny, but we've learned to find humor in the worst situations - and it's a more sophisticated kind, the sort of jokes that sting a little. (See Sarah Silverman's joke: "I was raped by a doctor... which is so bittersweet for a Jewish girl.")

    2. Our grossness is funnier.
    Sure, men are the stereotypically "gross" ones with their pizza box-strewn bachelor pads and dirty bathrooms. But female grossness is an often-overlooked gold mine of comedy. Three A.M. drunk burrito eating while you're still in your body-con going out dress? Hilarious. Running out of tampons and toilet paper and using the toilet paper roll wrapper as a makeshift pad? Slaying me. Oh, you've never done that? Yeah, I've totally also never done that and gotten a rash.

    Related: Christmas Movie Lies Explained


    3. We're underestimated when it

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  • Why Being Single During the Holidays is Secretly the Bomb

    Being single during the holidays might actually be the best.So your friends in relationships go for romantic ice skating dates at Rockefeller Center with their cloddish, monosyllabic boyfriends. Love Actually seems to be on all the time, interspersed with jewelry store commercials that advertise Putting a Ring On It this holiday season. But actually, you are in a prime position to have the best holiday season ever - solo.

    By Anna Breslaw

    1. You're not getting dragged to holiday parties you don't want to go to.
    In the winter months, Facebook offers the paradox of choice. Matt your old roommate's Christmas party? Alexandra your old co-worker's Christmas party? There are enough options for just one person, let alone a couple with two entirely separate groups of friends. Come February, your friends in relationships will be baggy-eyed puddles of latkes and rum.

    Related: What Guys Think About Women, by Age


    2. At any parties you're less than amped to attend (or parties at which your exes might be present), you can leave whenever you

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  • 15 Holiday Makeup Looks to Wear This Season

    You can look as stunning as this anytime!You've figured out your party dress and how you're going towear your hair, but how the eff are you going to do your makeup?! Need a little inspiration? These celebs looks will give you an idea of what you should flaunt to all of the festive cocktail parties you've been invited to.

    By Carly Cardellino

    1. An icy blue eyeshadow and a heavily lined eye, like Nicole Richie's.

    To steal Nicole's shimmery shadow look, swipe a baby blue cream eyeshadow, like Shiseido Shimmering Cream Eye Color in Ice, over your eyelid, work a soft bronze powder into the crease of your eye using a blending brush, line your entire eyes with black liner, and finish with a few coats of mascara. Pair the entire look with a nude lip and go!

    2. Megan Fox's bombshell bronze smoky eye and dusty rose lip.
    Switch up your look from a dark smoky eye to a softer version by swapping your usual black or gray shade for a bronze one, like Avon True Color Eyeshadow Single in Bronze Luster. Need a smoky eye tutorial?

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  • 7 Things You Do that Are Ruining Your Hair

    Are you making these hair mistakes?Are you making these hair mistakes?Here's a complete guide to common hair moves you should avoid.

    By Carly Cardellino

    "There are a lot of things you do on a daily basis that can wreak havoc on your hair," says celebrity stylist Harry Josh, who tends to the hair of Gisele, Rose Byrne, and a ton of other A-listers.

    According to Josh, here's what you might be doing that is totally trashing your hair:

    1. Trying to bleach your hair yourself.
    "If you're trying to do ombré look or give yourself highlights at home, and your hair comes out looking more yellow than what you were going for, call your stylist," he says. "If you go out and buy another box, thinking you're going to give it another go, think again. You could end up frying off your hair and making it fall out in the end, which would be terrbile and unfixable."

    Related: The Hairstyle That's Sweeping Hollywood Right Now

    2. Using a hair tie that rips your hair out.
    "You might still be using an elastic with the metal fasteners that hold the hair tie

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  • 18 Movies Every Woman Must See

    Every twentysomething needs to see these classics. Like, yesterday. And if you finish this list early, an optional #19 is the seminal Love and Basketball.

    By Anna Breslaw

    1. Now and Then
    Four best girlfriends who came of age in the 1970s reunite in the 1990s when one of them is about to have a baby. Features the incomprehensible morph of Christina Ricci (young Roberta) into Rosie O'Donnell (old Roberta) and a chain-smoking, black-clad Demi Moore. Pre-Ashton, obviously. Important because Friendship, and also because Brendan Fraser has a cameo as an almost-too-sexy Vietnam War vet.

    2. The Way We Were
    Robert Redford/Barbra Streisand classic that enjoyed a resurgence in popularity after Sex and The City famously referenced it at the end of Season 2. But it stands on its own because it tells a story we've all heard (or lived): High-strung, conscientious, a-little-too-intense not-quite-pretty girl falls for somewhat lazy, entitled, extremely handsome boy. She straightens her hair. He falls for her back. Then it inevitably falls

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  • 9 Signs He's Terrible and You Should Dump Him

    Some guys are just not worth sticking with. By David Ingber

    1. He answers your text questions in a way that intentionally does not lead to more conversation.
    If "hey, wanna get some ice cream on Saturday?" is met with "ok," you're not off to a great start. Who doesn't want to talk more about ice cream?

    2. His body language is very withdrawn right after sex.
    He can, and damn well should, snuggle with you while giving you a tour of the refractory factory.

    3. He looks annoyed that he "has to" pay for food and drinks.
    Look, it's 2013. I don't care if the man or the woman picks up the tab, or if you go halfsies, or your thruple goes thirdsies. But paying for a woman you like or love is a privilege, not a burden, no matter how broke you are/I was.

    Related: Expiration Dating: When to Ditch 10 Placeholders

    4. He doesn't care if you catch him looking at other women.
    Every straight man checks out the attractive women in a bar. Whatever. If, however, he's trying to be super sneaky about it, he respects your

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