Is it ever okay to tell someone you love they need to lose weight?"I'd ask him how much he weighs, and then I'd shed him!" exclaims Aileen Zsenyuk, a woman who recently lost 115-pounds. While her partner wasn't the catalyst for her weight loss, for some women, it's one of the worst things you could ever imagine coming out of a loved one's mouth: the words "you're fat."
Hurtful, maybe, but in some cases, absolutely necessary for the person's own health and well-being. In cases where one is morbidly obese, it could even save their life. But for some people, excess weight serves as a shield, one that they aren't quite ready to shed. According to certified health coach Holly Stokes, "Weight can be a way of hiding who we really are from others so they don't reject us or get too close, and often, it's a way of insulating yourself from a partner's criticism."
So instead of coming off as critical, try a more positive approach. Caryl Ehrlich, a weight-loss coach who helps people beat food addiction says that if you decide to tell someone they
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Is it ever okay to tell someone you love they need to lose weight?"I'd ask him how much he weighs, and then I'd shed him!" exclaims Aileen Zsenyuk, a woman who recently lost 115-pounds. While her partner wasn't the catalyst for her weight loss, for some women, it's one of the worst things you could ever imagine coming out of a loved one's mouth: the words "you're fat."Read More »from Can You Tell Someone You Love to Lose Weight?
By Kate Rope
Are you a germaphobe?My name is Kate, and I'm a germaphobe. I won't shake your hand if you look a little peaked, and I'll discreetly move away if you cough on the subway. I'm an expert at elbowing open a swinging door, as well as knuckling my way through an ATM transaction. The arrival of my daughter four years ago seems to have shifted my functional phobia into overdrive. One afternoon, as I sanitized every page of a children's board book from the library, I began to worry that I'd crossed a line.
It was time for professional help. I met with Philip Tierno, Ph.D., the director of clinical microbiology and immunology at the NYU Langone Medical Center. Teirno told me that, "germs are everywhere-but only 1 to 2 percent of the known microbes can do us harm." Plus, most of these germs are beneficial. So how can you protect yourself from the bad guys without sterilizing everything in sight?
It's possible with some smart strategies. Since some 80 percent of all illnesses are passed byRead More »from Are You a Germaphobe?
delicious brunch recipesThinking of hosting Sunday brunch this weekend? Treat your guests to some of these delicious recipes!Read More »from 7 Low-Calorie Brunch Recipes
1. Steamed eggs: This high-protein , low-calorie recipe will keep your guests feeling satisfied for hours-for less than 300 calories. Serve the eggs sans English muffins , and you'll cut 135 calories and 422 mg of sodium per serving. Get the steamed eggs with vinegar and herbs recipe.
2. Cinnamon-wheat pancakes: These low-calorie pancakes are packed with nutrients and flavor. In other words, they're the perfect way kick off your day. Get the easy recipe for cinnamon-wheat pancakes with hot boysenberry compote.
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3. Pumpkin-gingerbread waffles: From the name to the taste , everything about these waffles screams indulgence. But it's all a façade. You can enjoy these pumpkin-gingerbread waffles without guilt . Get the low calorie recipe here.
4. Frittata muffins: Perfect for Sunday brunch or a light supper, this savory treat can be served
get more from your coffee and teaBy Cynthia Sass, MPH, RD
You may start your day with a hot or iced latte or 'medicine in a mug' (my nickname for tea), but how about folding a little into your meals? Here's why they're so beneficial and some healthy ways to eat them:
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In moderation, I consider coffee to be a pretty potent health food. Coffee beans are actually the seeds inside a bright red berry, which is sometimes called a coffee cherry. Like nearly all plant based foods, both the berries and the seeds are rich in antioxidants . In fact a recent study found that java is the No. 1 source of antioxidants in the American diet. That may be one of the reasons its consumption is linked to a lower rate of a number of diseases. A recent study that followed a Native American population for more than seven years, where the prevalence of diabetes was between 40 and 70 percent, found that people with the highest coffee intakes had a 67 percent lower risk of developing diabetes compared to non coffee drinkers
quick and healthy breakfast recipes on the goHere at SHAPE, we love breakfast (after all, it is the most important meal of the day). What we don't love? Scrambling to grab something to eat on the way out the door. That's why we love these recipes provided by SHAPE's Diet Doctor, Mike Roussell, PhD. They're easy to make, portable, and best of all, healthy, so they'll keep you full and satisfied until lunchtime.
1. Almond spice apple muffins (pictured left): These high-protein muffins are made with almond flour instead of the higher-glycemic wheat flour. They're perfect for reduced-carbohydrate diets, easy to eat on the go, and will keep you feeling full and energized all morning.
2 cup almond meal
5 scoops vanilla protein powder
4 whole eggs
1 cup unsweetened apple sauce
½ stick butter
1 TBSP cinnamon
1 tsp all spice
1 tsp cloves
How to Prepare: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Melt butter in microwave (~30 seconds on low heat ). Throughly mix all the ingredients in a bowl. Spray muffin tin
delicious ways to cook eggsEggs are the breakfast, lunch, and dinner of champions. Rich in protein but low in calories, they make the perfect base for countless healthy meals or snacks. And since eggs are so versatile, you can get creative and whip them into savory entrees, brunch dishes, desserts, or even healthy cocktails. Read on for our favorite fast and easy ways to enjoy eggs.Read More »from Quick and Delicious Ways to Eat Eggs
1. Soft-boiled eggs: Sliced hard-boiled eggs are great on salads or in sandwiches, but a soft-boiled egg in the morning is a treat! Make sure to boil them for only a few minutes if you want a yolk that's still runny.
2. Breakfast burrito: Stuffed with scrambled eggs, lean turkey sausage , and diced tomatoes, a whole-wheat breakfast burrito is actually a healthy, filling lunch option. Add some low-cal guacamole for an extra flavor boost.
3. Egg salad: This good-for-you egg salad cuts out the fatty mayonnaise used in typical recipes. Layer the salad between two slices of bread for a hassle-free lunch.
4. Egg-white omelet: If you're
How an active sex life leads to better healthSHAPE magDo you really need an excuse to have more sex? Just in case you do, here's a legitimate one for you: An active sex life could lead to better overall health. Since Healthy Women, a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering women to make smart and healthy choices, recently released a survey that indicates the majority of women are having sex more out of obligation than enjoyment, it means a lot of us are missing out on the health benefits of an active sex life. Here are five reasons why you should sex yourself to a healthier life today:
1. Sex decreases stress. "Sex releases endorphins, which are natural 'feel good' hormones," Dr. Naomi Greenblatt, MD, and medical director at The Rocking Chair in New Jersey, says. For anybody who's ever had sex, that probably won't come as a huge surprise, but it's consistent with multiple studies that suggest the same thing. For example, in 2002, researchers at the State University of New York in Albany studied female students who wereRead More »from 5 Ways Sex Leads to Better Overall Health
SHAPEThis abs workout, created by fitness expert Jessica Smith, combines the best of kickboxing and Pilates to challenge your abs in new ways-without a single crunch. For best results, perform each move back to back without rest, and depending on how much time (and energy) you have, repeat the full circuit up to three times total.
And remember, great abs start in the kitchen, so make sure to pair this routine with a healthy diet.
Move 1: Cross Knee Strike (pictured below): The twisting motion of this abs exercise is a great way to functionally strengthen your core , since we're constantly twisting and turning our upper body during daily activities. Performing this move on one leg is also a great way to develop balance and coordination. It's a great 'warm up' for this circuit.
How to do it: Start standing with your knees slightly bent, arms bent into your body, and your hands in fists by your chin (this is called "on guard" position). Shift your weight onto your right leg,Read More »from 5 Crunch-Free Moves for Killer Abs
- SHAPE magazine | Healthy Living – Mon, Dec 5, 2011 9:59 AM EST
skinny peppermint mochaNothing tastes better on a bone-chilling day than a piping hot beverage . The problem is many popular coffee shop concoctions hide loads of calories in whipped cream, fatty flavored syrups, and sugary toppings. These warm bevvies, stripped of unnecessary calories and saturated fats, offer deliciously healthy alternatives made with good-for-you ingredients.
1. Skinny peppermint mocha (pictured left): Slash calories by replacing sugary syrup with peppermint extract and skipping the whipped cream on top. The boost of intense minty flavor in this mocha is balanced out by dark chocolate syrup and nonfat milk.
1/2 c. coffee
2 drops peppermint extract
1/3 c. nonfat milk
2 tbsp. dark chocolate syrup
Brew coffee of your choice (or use one package of instant coffee) and pour into a mug. Stir peppermint extract and chocolate syrup into the coffee. Taste and adjust to your liking. Stir in nonfat milk.
Makes one serving.
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Addicted to diet soda?Cracking open a can of diet soda instead of regular pop may seem like a good idea at first, but research continues to show a disturbing link between diet soda consumption and weight gain. And though the sweet, effervescent drinks may taste good, they're certainly not good for your body. "Diet soda may not have the sugar or calories of regular soda , but it's chock-full of other health-draining chemicals, including caffeine, artificial sweeteners, sodium, and phosphoric acid," says Marcelle Pick, member of the American Nurses Association and co-founder of Women To Women. It is possible to ditch your diet soda dependency, however. Read on to find out how!
1.Get your fizz on elsewhere. It tastes good. We get it. With its bubbly fizz and sweet flavor, soda makes for one lip-smacking beverage. But you can trick your mind-and taste buds-into thinking the same thing about a number of different drinks such as sparkling water or naturally carbonated, sugar-free fruit beverages . Keri M.Read More »from Are You Addicted to Diet Soda?