I have a very hard time being criticized, corrected, or accused - even of the smallest mistakes - and I react very angrily. I've wrestled this instinct under control in a professional context, more or less, but I have more trouble with it at home. All it takes is for the Big Girl to say something like, "You forgot to remind me to bring my library book," to send me into a tirade. "What do you mean…it's not my responsibility…I didn't know Wednesday was Library Day…" etc., etc.
More and more, I see the connection between perfectionism, control, and anger. Zoikes, how I try to be more mild-mannered and easy-going! Here are some of the strategies that I try to use to accept criticism. If I manage to use them, they never fail me, but it can be hard to have the mindfulness needed to apply them.
1. Listen to what a critic is saying. Really listen, try to understand that point of view, don't just nod while you formulate your retorts.
2. Don't be defensive. This is the toughestRead More »from 8 tips for dealing with criticism