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  • Are All 3-Year-Olds Pathological Liars??

    I love my daughter and after reading this post I don't want you to think she is a demon child or the spawn of Satan. She really is an incredibly well-behaved, sweet child, except that she lies. Like, a lot.

    Last week, she told her babysitter I was pregnant. I'm not, nor do I have any plans to be in the near future. She just completely made it up. Over the weekend, she started crying for no apparent reason. When I asked her what had happened, she said my boyfriend screamed at her. But I was in the room--and football was on--so I know for a fact he didn't say a word to her.

    Yesterday, when she had an accident, she told me it was because grandpa told her she couldn't go to the bathroom. Except that her grandfather lives in Connecticut and she hasn't seen him in over a week. This morning when I asked her who messed up all the shoes on the shoe rack, she blamed it on her father. But he's not even allowed in my apartment. What gives?

    I know it's probably normal for kids her

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  • The 10 Best Places to Score Holiday Cards that Don't Suck..

    Finally ready to get down to business and order this year's holiday card? Well I'm here to help. I spent years scouting the best wedding stationery for a wedding magazine, so I totally have a thing for paper. As lame as it sounds, I've ordered samples and reviewed every minute detail of tons of stationery sites.

    Despite my obsession, I got burned last year when I decided to order my holiday cards from a site I'd never used before--bad idea. I had to have new cards reprinted at the absolute last minute and I literally had to throw the original cards (and my money!) in the trash.

    So take it from me--if you're going to order holiday cards this year, order them from one of these 10 sites. I've felt the stationery with my own hands and seen the printing quality with my own eyes. You won't be disappointed and your beloved holiday card won't end up in someone's junk bin. These truly are the best places to buy holiday cards.

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  • 5 Lies I Refuse to Tell My Kid... Does This Make Me a Bad Mom??

    It's no secret that I have a very close relationship with my 3-year-old daughter so it shouldn't come as that big of a surprise that I'm typically very open and honest with her. Yes, of course, I do sometimes lie--but for the most part, I like to give it to her straight.

    But that means when other kids spout off the lies their parents told them about Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy, my little girl is right there correcting them. Whoops.

    I've never considered myself an active non-conformist, but I just can't bring myself to tell my daughter these ridiculous lies.

    1. Santa brings your Christmas presents. I go with the whole Santa thing up until a point. My daughter believes I have access to this mysterious man and I can tell him whether or not she's been good. But she also believes that Santa just gives the okay and I'm the one who actually provides the gifts on Christmas morning.

    2. You came out of my stomach. This kind of happened by accident when my daughter saw a

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  • How Many Kids is Too Many?

    Growing up, I always said I wanted six kids. I dreamed of being a stay at home mom and having a huge family. But then I had my first kid and now I'm not so sure I even want two children. I know lots of moms with multiple kids say they love their children equally and that your love multiplies with subsequent children, but I'd hate to have a second child and have that kid feel like he/she could never have as close of a relationship as I have with my daughter.

    At the other end of the spectrum, of course, is Michelle Duggar. A lot of people have come out to criticize her and her husband for choosing to have their 20th child. And rightfully so, if you ask me. I'm not convinced I could show enough love to two kids, so I have my doubts that she could devote enough time and attention to 20 plus her husband.

    But that being said, I'm not so sure her decision to have 20 kids makes her a "bad mom." Yes, it's a little freakish that someone would opt to deliver a baby, whether

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  • 10 Things Suburban Moms Probably Take for Granted..

    Despite my complaints (wait for them, they're coming), I wouldn't trade living in the city for anything. I love that my daughter has such easy access to all the city has to offer and raising her in such a diverse environment is really important to me.

    That being said, raising a kid in a city seems much harder in a lot of ways than raising children in the suburbs. I'm sure being a suburban mom comes with its own challenges, but as a city mom I feel like suburban moms have it good. They have space, privacy and of course, there's all that money they're saving.

    The point of this post isn't to offend or insult suburban moms. Rather, think of it as my way of commiserating with other city moms. And in the process, maybe helping a few suburban moms who may be feeling down about their situation realize it isn't so bad.

    Here are 10 things that make being a city mom hard as hell...

    1. Space. And I'm not just talking about apartment space, although that is a problem, too.

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  • 10 Things It's Not Okay to Ask Other Moms At the Playground...

    As much as I love seeing my daughter have a blast at our local playground, I also secretly dread going there. I'm sure the other moms are well-intentioned, but they ask the most inappropriate questions sometimes. Maybe I'm just a private person--or overly sensitive--but I just met you and I don't think it's any of your business whether or not I have a husband and if we're trying to have another baby.

    So before you plan another playdate or make small talk at the swings, consider the ways in which you're probably stepping way over the TMI line.

    1. Are you trying for baby #2? Because what your're basically asking is whether or not I'm having sex. And that is very freaking weird. I don't even talk to my mother about having sex, let alone a complete stranger. If you must know, ask whether or not I'd like another child.

    2. Are you married? I will admit I am extra sensitive about this because I am a single mom, but even still, if there's no ring, you probably have your

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  • 10 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming A Single Parent...

    Although I've admitted that there are some positives to being a single parent, it also comes with its obvious downsides. I feel like a lot of celebrity moms make it seem not-so-bad (I'm looking at you, Padma Lakshmi), but it definitely is not ideal.

    I feel like I've found my footing as a single mom, but that doesn't mean there aren't hiccups and growing pains. Here are just 10 of the things I never thought about--or thought through--when I decided to separate from my daughter's father:

    1. Dating. Part of me genuinely believed I would never date again because I had a child. And what man wants a woman with a child? But there are guys out there who don't automatically rule out dating single moms--for real! The problem, of course, is coordinating these dates. Finding a babysitter, sometimes at the absolute last minute isn't always easy. Answering panicked phone calls from said babysitter during your date is even harder.

    2. Relationships. The complexities of getting into

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  • Is It Possible to Love Your Second Kid As Much As Your First?

    Even though I'm not convinced it's a good idea to try to be "friends" with your kids, in a lot of ways my daughter is like my best friend. I look forward to seeing her every day, celebrating milestones with her and simply talking to her. Sure, I've been called codependent, but I just think my daughter and I are very close.

    That being said, when people ask if I want to have more children I always hesitate. And not because I don't love being a mother. I do. But that's just it. I love my daughter so much, I'm not sure it's possible for me to love another kid as much as I love her.

    I can already see the strain now that I'm in a relationship. I sometimes put my daughter's feelings before my boyfriend's; I even sometimes ask for time off with him so I can spend alone time with my little girl. If I were to add another kid into the mix, I hate to say it but he/she might get the short end of the stick because I'm already so attached to my daughter.

    Closeness aside, though, I

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  • And The Worst Dad Award Goes to...Judge William Adams

    The internet is blowing up with a disturbing YouTube video of Texas-based Judge William Adams allegedly beating his 16-year old daughter, and it is simply horrifying. The footage taken in 2004 shows him cursing at and brutally whipping her more than a dozen times with a belt.

    To make things worse, the girl has cerebral palsy, and her mother who's present the entire time does nothing about the abuse. At one point, she even joins in to deliver a lashing.

    The girl's offense? She was downloading music from the web. You know what? I don't care what she was doing. It is never ok to beat your child. It's called child abuse, and it's against the law. Period. Watch the video, and judge for yourself. Warning: it's graphic.

    When asked if he thought his actions in the video were excessive, Judge Adams said to news reporters, "It's not as bad as it looks on tape." Sorry, buddy, it looks terrible on tape. So terrible that I couldn't bring myself to watch the entire clip. What

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  • Would You Ever Be a Surrogate?

    Last night I was watching Parenthood and one of the characters, Julia, had a super awkward exchange with her surrogate. As it always seems to be portrayed on TV, the surrogate was some young girl who didn't know anything about being pregnant. When Julia caught her surrogate eating sushi, she tried to explain that pregnant women shouldn't eat sushi and it all came out wrong. But it turns out, the surrogate didn't know any of this. It was an uncomfortable convo, but it needed to happen.

    So I started thinking, wouldn't women who've already been pregnant make the best surrogates? I mean, they already know what not to do, what not to eat, etc.

    I also ask because, crazy as it sounds, I've actually considered the idea of being a surrogate. Yes, the money is amazing (and it would totally cover my daughter's schooling for a year), but that's not the real reason I'm open to surrogacy.

    Someone very close to me has suffered several miscarriages. Most recently, she made it to

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