By Denise Schipani
Fight Fair to Improve Your Relationship
If you've been in a committed relationship for any length of time, you know that fighting is part of the deal. Arguing, disagreeing, clashing mightily over issues large and small not only have their place in a relationship, but most experts also agree that couples who have regular air-clearing arguments have healthier relationships than those who keep their slings and arrows buried deep inside. That said, every fight need not be a bloody battle-here's how to keep it fair and civil. After all, "this is the person whom it's easiest to hurt, so you have to be careful with his or her feelings for the sake of your relationship," says James Córdova, PhD, a professor at Clark University and author of The Marriage Checkup. Here, 10 rules that ensure your blows hit above the belt.
1. Fight early, fight often
The idea is to get what's bugging you off your chest when it first bugs you, rather than saving up hurts and slights for some giant blowup every six months or