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I grew up with two sisters who were Division I athletes. So I know girls can kick ass in sports. That being said, I see no reason not to put the pedal to the metal when I play girls in sports.
But there is a strange thing I do differently in competition with women that I don't do with men: I try to mentally break women down. Whether it's beer pong, tennis, or even synchronized swimming (yes, I told my friend who did synchronized swimming in college that I could beat her one time when we were in a pool - I lost), I will try to wriggle under a girl's skin and throw her off her game. It may be the very fact that I grew up with sisters, and when I smelled blood in the water (when one was slightly annoyed at something), I knew it was time to attack. And I learned how quickly their concentration was damaged when they were successfully annoyed.
Letting someone win is somewhat condescending. No one wants to have victory handed to them, and I'm way too competitive to just give
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The other day my friend asked me how I'd react if a girl asked me out. I told her I'd be ecstatic, because it would take away all of the work I had to do: the waiting 2.038 days to call her, the wondering, the worrying, figuring out what to say on the phone. But then I took a step back and realized that every girl who has asked me out, I've said yes to regardless of whether I was interested or not. I like to give everyone a shot, and I totally respect a girl who finds me attractive enough to ask out. So, yes, guys love it when a girl takes the initiative. But just remember that the same problem exists for you if you ask us out: We might just say yes and unintentionally give you the wrong idea. Bottom line, it is fair game for either gender to make the move, and it's always good to shake things up! So, go ahead - keep us on our toes.
Anyone should be able to make the first move. There is only one first move that is the grandest of them all - the very first
I'm gaining a new appreciation for couples who make it an entire year without breaking up. A year is actually a pretty long time...especially in this day and age when the average attention span is miniscule. A year includes peaks and valleys in a relationship that you have to traverse to make it through.
I recently came across a study in Men's Health that outlined the most common breakup points in the year. This info was gathered after monitoring Facebook profiles referencing breakups. It was interesting to see that breakups spiked during certain points in the year. Here's my analysis of the are the results:
Spike 1: Valentine's Day
It's ironic that there would be a rash of breakups on the most romantic day of the year. My theory is that women dump their boyfriends when he drops the ball on Valentine's Day. Perhaps he didn't get a good gift, or he completely forgot about the holiday.
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When it starts getting warm again and our hormones start
- Rich Santos, Marie Claire | Love + Sex – Thu, Jun 23, 2011 7:59 PM EDT
Most men claim that their quest for the perfect girl is essentially a quest for a girl who isn't that crazy.
I used to think that guys were just kidding about women being insane. But now, I'm less inclined to think that way.
Upon reflection, I've realized that true insanity can only be determined by the rationalization offered in its defense. Below are the five most common reasons I've found that women offer to explain their mean or crazy behavior. Sure, admitting you were acting crazy means you're aware of your actions, and thereby not so crazy. But when your reasons for acting that way are irrational, then like it or not, I think you just come off as even more insane.
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Something happens to women when they get hungry: They mutate into evil, cranky beings. In fact, many women I've dated have completely broken down immediately after the onset of hunger. But what baffles me is that even though a woman may be low on energy and dysfunctional while hungry, she
I recently attended a European (read: interesting, and forward thinking) conference called Hyper Island for my digital advertising job. Hyper Island explored the relationship between the Internet and advertising, particularly in social media. One of the speakers mentioned that the Internet has sparked the biggest cultural shift since the industrial revolution.
During the discussion, I pondered how much the internet has changed the dating world. And then I moved on to wondering what other entities or inventions changed dating through time. Here's what I came up with:
There were a number of movements that minimized the influence of religion, and empowered scientific and societal shifts. For example, Darwin's theory of evolution challenged the notion that women were created from a dude's rib. It turned us into animals essentially; and proposed that we choose mates - a dark haired mate, or a mate with a huge bank account - due to unconscious natural selection.
When women are happy, it's easier to get a date. Fall and winter seem to sap the female spirit. By April, the ladies are pining for sun and warmth. Summer is prime time for guys to make their moves.
All guys know to grease the swivels on their necks for the first few weeks of summer. During those weeks, women dust off their sundresses and short skirts. After a long cold winter, legs are everywhere.
After months stuck indoors, we can hit the beach, dine al fresco, and take long walks. Whether it's a bike ride or a glass of wine on a rooftop deck, we can go on more creative dates.
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Recently, my friend asked me to help her build an online dating profile.
An online profile is essentially a digital "resumé," and like a resumé you have to spend some time figuring the best way to highlight your attributes and set the tone of your personality.
This particular friend is one of the few people I know that I can't say anything bad about. In order to convey her brilliance through her profile we decided to adhere to a few rules while constructing our masterpiece. Here they are:
Choose the Right Community
Online dating is helpful because you're able to choose the type of environment you want to explore. Some sites allow you to find Jewish singles, some allow you to meet through community service, and some even allow you to find someone to cheat with if you're married.
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I'm a proponent of honesty, even in an online environment where it's so easy to lie. People need to get what they saw on your profile when they meet you in
Getty ImagesThe other night I was talking with friends about how awkward it is to meet people at bars. The women in the conversation were sharing their frustration with the whole "getting the number" process. They feel they have to give their number out to be friendly (and to get a guy to go away if he's hitting on her). But some guys make it tough for girls to be nice.
The common move among guys (I'm guilty of this one too), after getting a girl's number, is calling her phone to confirm that that it's real and that his number is now registered in her phone. Most guys will watch the girl's phone as they call it to make sure there's no funny business going on. Essentially, cell phones have made it impossible for a girl to give a guy the wrong number.
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Getty ImagesA while back I asked if women enjoy sex even when they don't orgasm.
Now I'm wondering if sex is bad for a woman if the guy doesn't orgasm. I'll be completely candid here: I don't orgasm often during oral sex or intercourse. What is the cause of this phenomenon? I'm not sure, but I have a few theories about my affliction:
Too Much Self-Stimulation
I satisfy myself quite often. All this self-stimulation not only tires me out, but it creates a high standard for physical pleasure because I'm the only one who knows exactly what I want. Masturbation is isolating: I am more comfortable orgasming by myself than with another person.
During sex, I worry about anything and everything from losing my erection, to the girl not enjoying it. I wish I could be a regular dude and think: "Man, I'm nailing this chick right now," but I can't.
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During foreplay, the crazy thought that enters my head is often, "Oh man, we might have to have sex."
The advice I get from married guys scares me.
It's like they all live as a suppressed population in a far-off land, under rules laid upon their broken spirits by some higher, more-powerful entity. I guess this is why my married friends see me as a bastion of hope - a maverick of sorts. I'm like Jack Nicholson's character in One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, before the labotomy.
But, there's a scary undercurrent of "join us" in my married friend's advice too. It's like they want me to be part of the suppressed clan so as to rest assured no man out there is actually exercising his free will.
Here is the latest sage advice I've gotten from my married friends:
You're Never Free of Duty
My brother-in-law stood at the grill on Easter Sunday wondering how he got there. He was adamant, on his way to our house, that he was not going to do any cooking. My sister (his wife) had assured him that he could relax the whole day.
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