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  • The Secret to a Good Sex Life for Moms? Clear Out the Kids' Toys!

    After having kids, it's not easy to find the energy -- or the time for sex. After carting the kids to and from playdates and finally getting the baby to sleep, sex is probably the last thing on your mind.

    Let's be honest-it's hard to get in the mood when there are wipes, diaper changing pads, stuffed animals, and little plastic toys scattered around the house. It's no surprise you can't keep the romance alive when your house smells like diapers!

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    But the truth is that sex is a big part of healthy relationships. If you want to remain close to your partner (and feel good about yourself), you need to start thinking about ways to bring back the spark.

    Here's our relationship advice:

    If you want a healthy relationship, give yourself some adult space. Try to keep your bedroom as romantic and kid-free as possible. (In fact, it's probably not a bad idea to work really hard at making it YOUR space.) Think 'adult'.

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  • Mom Confession: Being a Stay-at-Home Mom Is Easy!

    I'm going to let you in on a little secret: Not every day as a stay-at-home mom is hard. In fact, there are some days, some rare and wonderful days, when it's a downright breeze.
    We all know the joke about housewives, bonbons and soap operas. And I'm right there with you acting all disgruntled when it's even suggested that our days are spent getting fat and happy in front of the TV.

    But the truth is, some of my days do look like that. Some days, when the planets and nap times are in alignment, I sit down in the middle of my dirty living room, amidst piles of unfolded, clean laundry, with a cappuccino (which I have, of course, made in the microwave from a powder mix in a paper envelope) and a bag of Milanos.

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    And I will eat all those Pepperidge Farm cookies while lounging in my lime-green sweatpants and tomato-stained T-shirt. I will also do any or all of the following:

    - Ignore the tennis ball-sized dust bunny

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  • Please Don't Make Me Breakfast for Mother's Day!

    Why does it always seem that being pampered on Mother's Day ends up meaning more work for me?!

    In theory, I'd love the idea of my husband preparing me breakfast in bed. But the thought of cleaning up after him sounds worse than hauling my butt out of bed at 6 AM to make my own eggs.

    Somehow, he manages to use every pot/spoon/bowl in the kitchen in the preparation of one measly little meal. And something will inevitably be broken in the process -- probably my favorite dishes. Raw egg spills will petrify on the counters and be impossible to get off by the time I get to them. It just isn't worth the extra 45 minutes of sleep.

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    Let me make one thing clear: My husband's nickname is "Destructo." Everything he touches gets wrecked or broken or burnt. He means well and is the best guy in the world, just as long as he stays out of the kitchen.

    I guess I should be happy that he wants to make me breakfast in the first place, but

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  • Do I Have to Share Mother's Day with My Mother-in-Law?

    It's called Mother's Day -- not Mother-in-Law's Day. So why do I have to spend Mother's Day with my Mother-in-Law?

    I mean, really, we're supposed to be honoring me for all of the sacrifices that I've made in the name of my children. Why should I be forced to sacrifice a perfectly good morning to brunch with you-know-who?

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    Don't get me wrong, my mother in law is kind and generous and … oh, who am I kidding? She drives me nuts. Sure, she puts on a nice face, but behind it there's a passive-aggressive streak that judges my every move. She thinks she could raise my kids better than I do and isn't afraid to show her disdain. And don't get me started on her so-called generosity. Sure she's paying for brunch, but what's an $18 plate of eggs Benedict compared to daily reminders of how much she has done for our family?

    What's worse is that I have to put on a happy face and pretend that I'm absolutely thrilled to be spending my

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  • I Want to Spend Mother's Day Without My Kid. Is That So Wrong?

    Mother's Day is usually a day for mothers to spend time with their kids, right? But I do that every day, so what I'd like for Mother's Day is a break from being a mom! Does that make me a bad mom?

    I love my daughter more than life itself. But honestly, the best Mother's Day gift I could get this year would be a day away from her. Everyone needs a break sometime -- and I'm sure ready for one!

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    I haven't had a day without changing diapers, cooking five (or six, seven, eight if she doesn't like what I've prepared) meals, cleaning those meals off the floor when she chucks them from her highchair, doing laundry, etc. in two years, and I'm exhausted.

    My fantasy day would go something like this: I'd sleep in until noon and wake up on some tropical island where a scantily clad hunky male waiter would bring me a Mimosa and breakfast in bed. Then I'd spend the day reading a book, going to the bathroom uninterrupted whenever I

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  • I Let My Kids Run Around Naked. What's the Big Deal?

    My toddlers love being naked and I don't care! I'm always bewildered by parents who don't let their toddlers run around naked outside. It's the ideal outfit for toilet training, for one thing. And nothing, not even the softest cotton, feels better on the skin than air (and water ... and mud ... and shaving cream. But we'll get there in a minute).

    My kids have sensitive skin, so even the softest clothes make them a little itchy. Nudity, on the other hand, lets their skin breathe. Once winter is over, and the snowsuits are no longer required, we set up a little wading pool in the yard and have naked time all summer long (of course, I slather them in sunscreen!). We live across the street from a church, but no one has ever complained.


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    The kids cover themselves in shaving cream and we let them use the hose (hooked up to warm water from the washing machine in the basement) to wash themselves off. We run the hose in the dirt

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  • Mom Confession: I Spoil My Kids. Got a Problem With That?

    My kids aren't spoiled brats...They're just spoiled. I'm not sure why people have a problem with it. Why do other people care if my girls have nice things? As they get older, they are asking for more expensive and nicer things, which they get if they have good grades and do what they are told. What is wrong with that?!?!

    I'm sick of people commenting on the fact that my daughters have many things that other children do not. Sure, they're lucky. But if you have the financial means why not reward your children for their good behavior and for their hard work in school? I understand that not every girl gets the "Super Sweet 16" that they had and not every girl has access to an extensive collection of Christian Louboutins and Chanel dresses. But why is it anyone else's business how we spend money?

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    I want my daughters to experience things I didn't at their age -- like traveling the world. Some people think that I spoiled

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  • 9 Things I Wish I Had Known Before Getting Pregnant!

    Remember back before you were a mom? My son is at the height of his Terrible Twos, but it often seems like just yesterday that the test stick turned pink.

    During my pregnancy, I read every book, watched dozens of movies and scoured the Internet for information but there were still several things that surprised me. Here are the top things that I wish I knew before I got pregnant:

    1. People will never hesitate to ask, "Was it planned?" I still have not figured out the appropriate answer to that question. I mean, it's either, "Yes. We had sex every day," or, "No! Can you believe the souvenir we brought back from Cancun?"

    2. There's a good chance you'll get HUGE. I expected to gain weight-after all, I was pregnant. What I didn't expect was that I would blow right past "chubby," "big," and "massive" and head straight for "enormous."Your ankles might resemble overstuffed sausages by the ninth month. It started out small-just a little puff here, a slight swelling there. By the end, it

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  • Mom Confession: I'm a Terrible Wife

    Like many parents, this mom wasn't prepared for how all-consuming motherhood would be. She's only got enough energy for one man in her life -- her son. Read her mom confession:

    I'm a very good mother. But I'm a terrible wife.

    It wasn't always like this. My husband and I were together for 12 years before our son was born. That's a pretty long love affair by any standard. And it was a love affair. But then this thing happened. We had a baby. And overnight it went from all about us to all about him-him being our son.

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    My husband says the problem is mine. There simply isn't enough of me to go around. But when I'm being completely honest with myself, I admit that it goes deeper than that. How deep, exactly, I don't know. Balance is definitely a piece of it. But there are other things, too. Like the fact that I no longer have the energy to connect with my husband on the level that we connected before we became

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  • Mom Confession: I Have a Favorite Child

    Every mom knows that she's not supposed to play favorites, but this mom think it's only natural....Can you relate?

    Of course, I love both of my kids equally, but let's be real. They've got their personalities and I've got mine. It's only natural that I'd click more with one of them. Is that so wrong?

    When my daughters ask, "Which one of us do you love more?" I tell them "I have enough love for both of you." Which is the truth. It's just a good thing they don't ask me which one I like more... 'cause that's a whole different story.

    Honestly, I like my 5-year-old, Rachel, better than my 7-year-old, Molly. And really it comes down to the same reasons we like anyone better... Rachel's nicer to me!

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    When I arrive home from work, Rachel will ask, "How was your day, mama?" while Molly just wants to know if she can watch TV. While Rachel can't get enough mommy hugs, Molly walks 10 feet ahead of

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