Our male columnist, Jake, knows what works.
There I am, on a third date, fooling around for the first time with a smart, funny, gorgeous woman. We're at her place, and I'm, er, down south. But it isn't going well. For one thing, she's silent. No moaning. Not even sighing. I up my game: a little faster, a little more pressure. Nothing. Then she says my name, and not in the good, gasping way. Am I about to be fired? Get the head tap and "have a nice life"? She continues: "Be more gentle, teasing." Ah, instructions! I get back to work. I hear moans. Sighs. Soon enough I hear my name again, with a giggle: "Jake. Thank you!" And I think, How cool was it that she could tell me what she wanted without any weirdness or embarrassment? Very cool. And then I think, Shouldn't that happen all the time? So I asked some female friends, "Why don't you tell men what to do during sex?" Here are their responses, debunked by yours truly.
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- Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Fri, Jan 4, 2013 3:08 PM EST
Our male columnist, Jake, knows what works.Read More »from How to Tell Him Exactly What You Want in Bed, According to a Guy
No, not that. (Well, not just that.) Writer Jane Pratt on how she started telling the truth--to herself and everyone else.Read More »from How to Quit Faking It
Fairchild ArchivAll throughout my childhood, I lied about who I was. In first grade I knocked on the door of my mom's painting studio to tell her I'd scored a home run in kickball. I sucked at kickball, but I was looking for attention so I kept inventing fake home runs. I was five but already starting to understand that my mom's "Great job, Janey!" didn't make up for my sneaking feeling that this kickball-champion girl was the praiseworthy one, not me.
In second grade I told my classmates, all churchgoing, that my family attended the First Presbyterian Baptist Church of Christ. In reality we were agnostic artists who sat on our lawn at my mom's thirtieth birthday party while a band called the Weeds played wearing nothing but gold spray paint. (I did not appreciate the coolness of my actual life.) Of course the lie just reinforced my growing sense that I wasn't
- Glamour Magazine | Secrets to Your Success – Fri, Jan 4, 2013 2:47 PM EST
The toughest type of self-expression? The kind required when you're sitting across the desk from your boss. Meet your coach, Bethenny Frankel.Read More »from How to Sell Yourself at Work (and Not Feel Sleazy)
Meet your career coach, Bethenny Frankel.
We women don't have any trouble talking about ourselves when we're with friends, and we're usually pretty good at accepting credit. But when it comes to work, we clam up. Recent studies out of Harvard and Stanford universities confirm what I could've told you: You have to self-promote to get ahead, and most of us have a hard time doing it. So let's up our game, ladies. Here's how:
Know your worth. A lot of women I've met are insanely talented, but for some reason they just don't think they're good enough. Remember: If you have passion, drive, and commitment, you also already have the advantage. So talk with your colleagues and keep a list of your accomplishments, including anything you've done above and beyond your job description, and look at it when you doubt yourself. Then use it as your cheat sheet when asking
- Glamour Magazine | Beauty – Fri, Dec 21, 2012 12:16 PM EST
by Nikki Ogunnaike, Glamour
Tis the season for holiday travel, folks. Whether you're going near or far, here are some TSA-approved beauty products I think you should pack.
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- Glamour Magazine | Beauty – Fri, Dec 21, 2012 12:04 PM EST
by GlamourRead More »from 10 Easy Beauty Tricks to Look Great the Morning After
Fairchild Archive In for a wild night? This step-by-step plan will make you look like you had a boring evening of TV, followed by sleep!
First, be prepared for the worst.
Alcohol dries out everything--your skin, hair, even your brain. To get a hydration boost from inside out, pop a fish oil supplement or B12-complex vitamin while you're getting ready to go out. You'll look refreshed and feel less fuzzy the next day.
Try sleeping with an extra pillow. "The additional height helps promote lymphatic drainage and prevents fluid from accumulating," says makeup artist Jemma Kidd. You can also apply a B5 serum to skin before bed-that helps too.
Try: Skinceuticals Hydrating B5 Gel, $70, blissworld.com
In the morning, caffeinate your face.
Caffeine combats inflammation and helps stimulate skin--making it the perfect remedy for the hangover trifecta: blotchiness, eye circles, and dullness. Makeup artist Sir John, who works with models like Karlie Kloss, suggests placing warm
by GlamourRead More »from The Best Drugstore Hair Stuff. Period
Get in on the miracles in aisle three! The Rachel Zoe Project's Joey Maalouf buys these for his clients.
The Brush for Blowouts
"I love this brush," says Maalouf. The vented barrel lifts the roots so your hair dries faster.
Revlon Perfect Style Ion + Ceramic 2-inch Barrel Brush, $10, drugstore.com
The Best Hairspray Ever
"It gives a great nonsticky hold," he says. One Elnett fan: Rachel Zoe
L'Oreal Paris Elnett Satin Extra Strong Hold Unscented Hairspray, $14, ulta.com
The Ultimate Smoother
"This antifrizz cream is major," says Maalouf. "Apply it on wet hair, and air-dry." Diffuse for more oomph!
Garnier Fructis Style Curl Calm Down Anti-Frizz Cream, $4, drugstore.com
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All Hairpins Aren't Created Equal
"They have to be strong," he says. "These are my faves." Get ones to match your color. Jamie-Lynn Sigler loves these bobbies!
Vidal Sassoon Bobby Pins, $1, drugstore.com
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- Glamour Magazine | Love + Sex – Thu, Nov 1, 2012 12:46 PM EDT
Shopping? Real Housewives? Vibrator use? Take it from Jake: Men like your little chick habits.Read More »from 20 "Annoying" Girl Things He Secretly Loves About You
You think you know what guys like? They like you. And IMHMO (in my humble male opinion), these things show how cool, funny, and caring you are.
1. You make fun of me starting the minute we meet, and even my wingman's laughing.
2. You ignore my texts but answer my calls. I should've just called, and I know it.
3. You send your overcooked steak back. You send your flat beer back. You have high standards! Just don't send me back, OK?
4. You leave me wanting more when you kiss me good night. Best/worst walk home ever.
5. You constantly quote Liz Lemon. Because you're right: Tina Fey is brilliant.
6. You've somehow coaxed my dog, Piano, into liking you more than he likes me. And I feed him!
7. You tell me your ex is an Olympic swimmer. Also, your other ex has seven tattoos, and your college boyfriend owns a social-media start-up and drives a Porsche. Because (ha-ha!) you're
- Glamour Magazine | Women Who Shine – Mon, Oct 22, 2012 3:04 PM EDT
as told to Jessica Duncan, GlamourRead More »from NeNe Leakes Shares the DOs and DONTs of Being Fabulous
NeNe Leakes, star of three-count 'em, three!-hot TV shows, The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Glee, and The New Normal, shares her Glamour DOs and DON'Ts guide to life.
A lot of people don't know that before I was a reality star, I was an actress. So the transition to scripted TV was easy for me--I love playing Roz on Glee and Rocky on The New Normal. I also love my life, and I've got some rules I live by that you should too:
DON'T be anyone but you.
I'm just not into trying to convince people like me. I always say to myself, It is what it is. I walk into a situation knowing that people are either going to love me or they're not, and that's OK. I'm just going to be me. You can't be everything to everyone.
DO know that chic is within your reach.
One of my girlfriends is a real estate broker who doesn't make a ton of money. Every year, she buys one new bag for the summer and one for the winter, and it keeps her looking great without having to go
by Devin Tomb, GlamourRead More »from Why Randi Zuckerberg is the Zuck on Our Radar
photo by Jake StangelHer little brother Mark launched Facebook, but Randi, 30, is the Zuckerberg of the moment, with a new company, a reality show on Bravo…and career advice for you.
Randi Zuckerberg is no shrinking violet. At 23, the Harvard psych grad joined the marketing team at the fledgling Facebook, where she soon did all the talking for her famously press-shy brother, Mark. She also fronted an in-house cover band that performed at work functions (Evanescence Essence--you can catch the band on YouTube) and converted a closet in the company's Palo Alto offices into a TV studio, conducting interviews with celebrities who visited (hey, Katy Perry!) and posting them on Facebook.
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But she's more than a mouthpiece: In 2009 she turned that studio into home base for the runaway success "Facebook Live," a streaming video platform on which President Obama held a virtual town hall in 2010, and Perry announced her
Everything guys think about pre-sex shenanigansRead More »from Foreplay, According to Guys
by Melissa Gira Grant, Glamour
First off: Do you enjoy foreplay?
- Yeah. It gets me in the right mind-set: 88%
- Nope, I'd rather just skip to play play: 12%
So how long is your foreplay "playlist"?
- I can go 30 minutes or more, or about eight songs' worth: 30%
- Fifteen minutes, or about four songs: 31%
- Seven minutes, or about two songs: 19%
- Less than seven minutes: 20%
How do you like to set the mood?
- By turning down the lights: 28%
- By cooking her something really delicious: 24%
- By putting on a romantic CD: 8%
- By asking if she would like to have sex: 40%
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Which is highest on your foreplay to-do list?
- Kissing her all over: 30%
- A lot of rubbing: 23%
- Going down on her: 47%
And which gets you going most?
- Getting kissed all over: 15%
- A lot of rubbing: 30%
- An awesome (or even so-so) blow job: 55%
Are you ever worried you won't last all the way