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  • Sex & Texting: Survey Reveals Startling New Stats

    According to one survey, 10% of people under 25 text during sex.Just how attached are you to your mobile phone? According to OnlineCollege.org, 10 percent of people under 25 text during sex. Among all adults surveyed, 15 percent said they would answer a phone call in the middle of sex. Do your friends really need a play-by-play, 160-character description while you are naked, under the sheets with your significant other?

    Would you include a photo attachment? Apparently, many singles find it appropriate. Sexting and texting have become mainstream for young women. Earlier this year, a Harlequin romance report showed that 43 percent of women aged 18-40 engage in sexting. That is a pretty huge number, considering you might not want your children to see the details of your digital dialog. Also Read: How To Have Phone Sex: Tips For Beginners

    As women, we want a commitment from the men we are dating, which is why 65 percent of those sexting think it is fine if they are in a serious relationship. Thirty-six percent of casual daters admitted to

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  • Why You Don't Need to Have Kids to 'Have it All'

    What does having it all mean to you?Ever since Anne-Marie Slaughter's article "Why Women Still Can't Have It All" appeared in the July issue of The Atlantic, I've been fired up and pissed off ... because she's absolutely right.

    First, let's define what Slaughter means by "having it all." She's referring to that constant juggling act of having a thriving and high-powered professional career outside the home and a loving, supportive husband and children at home. Again, by that definition, I agree with her. But here's what rattled my cage about her article: Slaughter's definition of having it all assumes that all women want the same thing.

    And it's not just Slaughter. With all of the advances to women's rights in the 20th and 21st centuries, including our new normal of out earning men, it seems as though society and the author has decided that women all want and choose the same life path. First comes career, then comes love, then comes baby. Also Read: 11 Signs Your Biological Clock Is Ticking

    Correct me

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  • He Said, She Said: When is the Right Time to Talk About Money in a Relationship?

    What role does money play in your love life?Although we generally do everything in our power to avoid talking about it, money really does play a crucial role in relationships. Whether you care a whole lot about money or not, the amount of green you and your partner have in your bank accounts can greatly influence your love life.

    We think we live in an era where "gold digging" is taboo and relationships are based on so much more than just money. But is that true? How do our incomes factor into the modern day dating scene? And, when is the right time to talk about money in a relationship? Obviously sharing salaries on a first date doesn't fly, and every relationship expert will tell you that leaving the "money talk" till after you've walked down the aisle is too late.

    We asked YourTango.com contributor Amanda Green and YourTango's Tomfoolery blogger, Tom Miller-two savvy, urban daters-to sound in on the role of money in their relationships and when it makes sense to talk green. Here's what they had to say:

    She says:

    I'm a

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  • The 5 Biggest Regrets Divorced People Have About Their Failed Marriages

    Divorced people cite bad communication as their number-one regret about past marriages.University of Michigan psychologist Dr. Terri Orbuch collected data from 373 couples (46 percent of whom later got divorced) during their first year of marriage. As reported in The Wall Street Journal, she found that most divorced people shared the same five regrets about their marriages. Here is the advice she gathered, based on the post-divorce experience of 210 of the subjects, of whom 44 percent remarried.

    1. Show your partner you love and care for them in any way you can.
    Small gestures like complimenting your partner, saying "I love you" or holding hands go a long way. The most important ways to display affection are showing love, showing support, making your partner feel good about themselves and keeping things interesting in the relationship.

    2. Money matters, discuss it. Money is the number-one source of conflict in most marriages. "Talk money more often-not just when it's tax time, when you have high debt, when bills come along," Dr. Orbuch says.

    3. Leave the past behind

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  • What You Don't Know About Sex at the Olympics

    Olympic condoms, by Durex.When you think of the Olympics, the first thing that probably comes to mind are hardcore athletes who have trained their entire lives to get to where they are, right? You probably envision muscle, talent and an effort to excel that a lot of us just don't possess. Well in addition to all this, it's time to picture rabbits too, and not just cute, furry bunnies, but jackrabbits with a thirst for sex. Yes! Olympians get hella busy during the games every four years, so much so that they even get a condom sponsor and Olympic-brand rubbers (like how I threw that British term in? London Olympics? Get it, get it?) Wouldn't you know, they have run out of condoms at every Olympic Games so far.

    During the 2000 games in Sydney, for example, 70,000 condoms were not enough to keep everyone, um, covered, so they shipped in more. But according to some sources, it's not just because of all the sex the athletes are having: There's a tradition to take tons of condoms home as souvenirs - hey, no shame in

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  • Lady Gaga, Jason Segel and More Celebs Who Have Officiated Their Friends' Weddings

    Some of our favorite stars have become ordained ministers in order to marry off their friends!A fairly new trend taking over Hollywood is celebrities marrying off their friends.

    Conveniently, with the help of several online companies, one can easily be granted ordained minister status in order to conduct an official wedding and marry a couple. (Kathy Griffin says it only took her 10 minutes!) Also Read: Wedding Trend: Would You Get Married By A Friend?

    It's no surprise then that many of our favorite stars, including Lady Gaga, Jason Segel and more, have taken advantage of this honor in order to unite close friends, fans, and even contest winners in holy matrimony. Find out which of your favorite stars double as ordained ministers below.

    1. Lady Gaga
    Just when we thought Lady Gaga had done it all, she surprised her fans by becoming an ordained minister! Also Read: Lady Gaga Has Babies On The Brain! Is She Moving Too Fast?

    Gaga was ordained in 2011 to show her support of same-sex marriage, and to marry her friend/yoga instructor Tricia and her partner after same-sex marriage

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  • Drugs, Dating and Sexting: Revealing New Stats About Teens

    Study says one in four teens have sexted. There's a new STD being spread by teenagers. Symptoms include lowered heads, twitchy thumbs and dirty, dirty thoughts.

    The name of this new plague? Sexting.

    Of course, sexting is nothing new, but its rise among young girls is causing some alarm. A recent study published in the Archives of Pediatric & Adolescent Medicine revealed that more than one in four teenagers in Texas had sent naked photos of themselves. In addition, one-third of those teens had asked to be sent a nude shot via text.

    To find these numbers, researchers from the University of Texas studied nearly 1,000 students aged 14-19, all from seven southeast Texas high schools.

    Some shocking (and not-so-shocking) correlations can be gleaned from the results. For instance, it's no surprise that teen girls who frequently sent and received sexts were more likely to have started dating and having actual sex. These sexters were also more likely to have used drugs and alcohol. Also Read: Kids & Sexting: What Parents Need To

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  • Is Your Teen Addicted to Anger?

    Anger often becomes an addiction for adolescents. Learn to help them quell this fiery emotion.A recent Harvard Medical School study found that nearly 8% of adolescents experienced bouts of extreme anger, sufficient to be diagnosed as "intermittent explosive disorder" - a form of mental illness. I'm surprised the number isn't higher.

    Over the past 20-plus years, I've worked as a self-esteem elevation coach and have witnessed a growing addiction among the majority of people to three primary emotions: anger, sadness and fear. While all people display all three of these emotions during upsetting situations, adolescent males are most addicted to anger.

    Early on in life, typically before the age of six, children experience some significant event that causes them to doubt themselves and/or their self-worth. Someone says or does something that causes the child to believe that he/she is flawed, unlovable, unworthy and imperfect, marking the child's first true realization that he/she is not perfect and fails to measure up to society's standards in some important way.

    The initial upset

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  • 10 Ways to Feel Sexy Again After Having a Baby

    Becoming a mom does crazy things to your body and mind, but here's how to fight back.When I got pregnant, I was bound and determined to look good after the baby was born. I admired those moms in my Facebook newsfeed whose hospital pictures showed them smiling with makeup on as they cuddled their newborn. That was totally going to be me. I even imagined all the comments people would make in on those first few pictures. "Congratulations! Baby and mama look great!"

    In retrospect, this was a crazy notion. (Can I blame that the hormones?) None of those things happened. Oh sure, people congratulated me on my baby, but I did not look good. Not at all.

    I was completely unprepared for the world of hoo-ha hurt and for all the things that come in the weeks after birth, like the oozing and not being able to control your bladder very well. Gross, right? Tell me about it. So, putting on makeup in the hospital never happened. And all those pictures of me with lipstick on, cuddling my newborn? Those never happened either.

    In fact, despite the euphoria over having my daughter

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  • 10 Dating Tips I Wish I Had Followed when I was Still Single

    When's the last time you did something When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.

    In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong. I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s. Besides, so much luck was involved in my finding my match that there are probably more alternate universes where I'm still living solo than where I'm married.

    I realize that my past experiences have made me who I am today, but I still wish I could go back in time and have a sisterly chat with poor, clueless, "younger me." I could've written three novels, started a business and hiked the Appalachian Trail with all the wasted time and energy. It's too late for me, but maybe you can learn from what I wish I knew then.

    1. Finding a romantic partner is only one of many goals you can have at once. There's a difference between making something a priority and having an

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