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  • 7 Ways to Teach Kids About the Importance of Gratitude

    Do your children know the importance of gratitude?As a parent, it can be awfully tempting to spoil your kids, especially around the holidays. And while it's okay to regale them with gifts every so often, it's essential that they learn to appreciate what they have. With that in mind, here are some tips from YourTango Experts about how to teach your kids the importance of gratitude:

    1. Model gratitude for your children. Your children can easily see if you are thankful for the things that come into your life and whether you share that thanks with the people who bring things into your life. When you model this, you reinforce not only the behavior but also its importance. -Christopher Smith

    2. Introduce gratitude as a game.
    Focusing on small things, play a game where each person shares something that they are grateful for. You can play this game while in the car by naming things that you see; you can play this game sitting in a waiting room by naming things that start with different letters of the alphabet; you can play this game in so

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  • VIDEO: Is it Ever OK to Fight in Front of Your Kids?

    Do you find yourself arguing with your husband when your children around? Are you worried that your arguing is going to have a negative effect on them? If so, help is on the way.

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    In this video, psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Hillary Goldsher explains that the short answer to this is "no." "It's not helpful to expose children to adult material. They don't have a context for it, [so] it becomes a source of worry and concern rather than being an opportunity to teach them something."

    So, what do you do when you do fight in front of your children? "Be very direct," Dr. Goldsher says. "Go to your children and say, 'I know you saw or heard mommy and daddy fight, and I want to let you know that it's normal for mommy's and daddy's to fight.'" Ask them how they felt about the situation and "reassure them that everything's okay ... mommy and daddy are okay and still love you."

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  • How to Survive the Holidays While Pregnant

    It's that time of year again ...Pregnancy can zap energy. After all, growing a human takes a lot of work, even if you're just sitting on the couch. Simply walking from the bathroom to the kitchen can completely take the wind out of you. Here are some practical tips to help you stay at the top of your game during the holidays:

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    1. Slice your to-do list in half. The cookies don't have to be made from scratch and the napkins don't need folding in the shape of reindeer.

    2. Catch your breath between errands ... literally.
    In-between jumping from store to store, close your eyes and rest in the car for a couple of minutes.

    3. Eat small meals. Throughout the day, nibble protein to keep your blood sugar even. This will also keep you from gorging on a big holiday dinner, causing heartburn.

    4. Set activity boundaries. Only accept those invitations that are most important to you, and give yourself permission to turn the rest down.

    5. Leave parties early. Don't worry about

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  • Surviving Black Friday: A Guide for Couples

    The couple that learns how to shop together stays together.Planning on venturing out with your partner on Black Friday to make a dent in your holiday shopping? Congratulations: you're braver than me. Shopping with your significant other can be a difficult task even in the best of times; holiday shopping under pressure - with frantic shoppers shoving you aside to nab the last $2 countertop appliance - can be a recipe for a relationship disaster. Have you seen Walmart at midnight on Black Friday? It's enough to drive even the most loving, centered couple to the brink of bitter, nasty bickering.

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    If you're still up to the challenge, try these tips to make the day manageable, productive...maybe even romantic.

    1. Get on the same page. Before you even step foot out the door, have a meeting of the minds; agree on the objectives of your Black Friday excursion. Decide exactly what you're shopping for and why you're shopping for it. Is this a leisurely shopping trip so

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  • VIDEO: How to Reignite Your Sex Life

    Is your sex life in a rut? Are you and your partner just missing that spark in the bedroom that you once had? How do you get the passion back? It's easier to do than you think.

    In this video, author, wellness coach and YourTango Expert Patty Contenta explains how easy it is to lose the spark in your sex life. She says that having stale moments in our lives is quite common and that sex can be one of those areas that can feel stale. But that doesn't mean you can't do anything about it.

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    According to Contenta, rekindling your sex life can be done very easily. "Creating a regular date night, even if it's once a month is really important. But not just any regular date night, so I really think it's a moment for you to turn up the volume on flirting and foreplay - I mean really turning it up." Flirting over the menu playing footsie under the table may seem a little silly, but Contenta says it can do wonders for your sex life.

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  • The Upside of Having a Broken Heart

    Believe it or not, there is a silver lining.Being grateful for your past relationships, even the most painful ones, is the key to opening yourself up to the possibility of a better relationship experience. The question is: How can we bring ourselves to be grateful for something that caused us pain, humiliation and/or abuse? And what is there to be grateful for anyway?

    More from YourTango: How To Move On From A Painful Breakup

    Every relationship happens for a reason - to help us grow. Thus, we have two options: either we can choose to understand the lesson that we we're supposed to learn and cherish the wisdom that we acquired from the situation, or we can remain in the land of victimhood and accumulate emotional baggage while attracting the same type of relationships over and over again.

    Remember yourself 20 years ago. What's different about you now? All the negative and painful experiences that you had left their mark on you. If you chose to learn from them, they made you stronger and more independent; but most importantly,

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  • A Mistress Speaks Out: 'The Paula Broadwell-David Petraeus Affair was Inevitable'

    I once had a conversation with a man in Vermont. We met at a business conference and decided to get drinks afterward. He worked for a partnering organization, lived and worked nearby, and-oh yeah-happened to be married. Still, I quickly fell in love.

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    When the news arrived last Friday that the beloved General David Petraeus had cheated on his wife of 37 years with his biographer, Paula Broadwell, I almost ignored it as a non-event. The headlines and nightly news went wild, and SNL crafted a humorous joke about the title of his book, All In. I think you get it. Even before my own feelings developed for a married man, I had always been fascinated by the idea of marriage, monogamy, and affairs. In a different world, I would perhaps be shocked myself. But having lived it, I think the answer to why this happens is much simpler than we wish to believe.

    To start this conversation, I have to address a few myths about the

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  • Rachel Maddow Isn't an 'Angry Young Man' — and Neither Am I

    How a homophobic comment by a public figure can have a far-reaching and devastating effect.It seems like a million years ago that I was an introverted, closeted lesbian, forced to spend every day in a suffocating classroom, in a rural farm community. Looking at me now, you would probably never know that I came from a primarily white, protestant, homophobic town in Southeast Michigan. Now, I confidently wear a James Dean-esque haircut and boxer briefs, but, just six years ago, I was struggling to come out in a high school where it was commonplace for prominent gay figures to be slandered.

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    There's an exact moment that I will never forget. Sitting in my senior practical law class, I meekly attempted to justify to my peers the idea of gay marriage. My teacher, an incredible, liberal man, who seemed just as out of place in that school as I did, sided with me, but a young man sitting three rows behind me blurted out, "Gays. Disgusting. Why should they be able to get married?" I lowered my eyes and

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  • VIDEO: How to Feel Sexy Naked & with the Lights On

    Are you a little uncomfortable being naked? Does your significant other want to do it with the lights on? If so, you're in luck.

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    How To Be Comfortable Naked [VIDEO]

    In this video, YourTango Expert Bonnie Gayle explains it's normal to feel a little shy when you're all exposed and nude. However, there are some things you can do to get comfy. "The tip that I suggest to people," says Bonnie, "is for them to literally light up some candles, and place them all over your room. The glow of the candlelight makes you look and feel so special and amazing, and you are going to just feel romantic and so is your partner."

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  • 9 Signs that You Are a Nag

    Moi? Guilty of nagging? Never!Why don't you ever take out the trash? When are we going to spend real time together? You said you were going to mow the lawn. Why can't you just put the dishes in the dishwasher? You spent HOW much on that? Are you listening to me? …

    Sound familiar? This is called nagging, a verb Webster's Dictionary defines as "to irritate by constant scolding or urging." A recent YourTango survey reveals that more than half of respondents consider nagging to be a serious problem in their relationships.

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    One of the main problems with nagging, experts say, is that pleading/complaining/urging isn't effective and rarely gets "the nagger" what he/she really wants.

    "Generally, if you're on the receiving end when someone is nagging, you feel like you're being controlled and asked to submit to someone else's plan for you," Life Coach Nicole Burley says. "You don't necessarily feel inspired to do that thing on your own."

    Even worse is

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