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  • 4 Dating Tips for Singles from Bravo's 'Miss Advised'

    Three modern-day Carrie Bradshaws navigate the dating waters of three big cities.When I first saw the trailer for Bravo's new docu-series, Miss Advised, a reality show about three single love and dating experts, I wondered: How can these beautiful, successful women still be single? The ladies - relationship and social media guru Julia Allison, matchmaker Amy Laurent, and radio host and sex expert Emily Morse - are capable of sealing the deal for their own clients, but which of their own advice haven't they been taking?

    So what did I learn when I joined a conference call to chat with these heroines about their own lives? For one, they're just like us - vulnerable and hopelessly romantic, addicted to love and confused to the max when the heart says one thing and the head says another. As they search for love in three different cities, Los Angeles, New York, and San Francisco, respectively, we'll watch them on Bravo.

    Below are 5 nuggets of wisdom the love gurus from Miss Advised want you to remember:

    1. Dating Mistakes
    Julia Allison: "I make this mistake, or I used

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  • 5 Ways to Transform Yourself from a Single Mom to a Hot Mama

    Hit the dating scene with these simple tips!You just put your child to bed after a long day of patty cake and picking up toys and you're still in the stained large t-shirt and substantial fleece sweatpants you put on at 6 a.m. You look in the mirror and shudder to think about going out on a date.

    I vividly remember when I first became a single mom trying to rediscover who I was again separate from my husband and was catapulted into this thing called dating. I had a closet full of oversized, black mommy tops, a bunch of nursing bras and neutral colored Birkenstock sandals. All of my clothes were too big, too black and too boring. This image was not very sexy to say the least. But more importantly, I wasn't feeling attractive and I didn't know how to give signals that I was even interested in men. Read More: 5 Ways To Feel Dateable After Divorce

    I then started going through my metamorphosis; I lost weight, which led to a new wardrobe that fit my body and was date friendly, got my hair updated, visited the make-up counters

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  • Survey: Owning a Certain Type of Dog Can Influence Your Dating Life

    Are people judging you based on your little furry friend? And should you care?Just when you thought it couldn't get any worse than people judging you by your shoes, another study finds that the type of dog you have can also elicit harsh judgment.

    Thanks to a new app called Kloof, 1,000 users, both gay and straight, were asked to match personality traits to people based on the type of dog they own. In a nutshell, people with large dogs were perceived as trustworthy and relationship material, whereas people with, say, a Chihuahua, were viewed as not only "dumb," but a mere one-night stand.

    When it came to people with medium-size dogs, things got a bit more complicated. Apparently, if you're a guy with a French bulldog, you're perceived as "fussy and particular;" women with poodles also fell into this category. Men with larger dogs were considered more attractive. And a man who owns a German shepherd - well he's more of a "take care of business" type of guy. Read More: 9 Types Of Pets & What They Say About A Man

    Overall the most desirable dogs for men to have,

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  • VIDEO: When is it OK to Start Calling Him My Boyfriend?



    While our moms tell stories of formal courtship, dating today is a whole different ballgame. There are no official rules we all abide by, and sometimes, it can be tough to tell where things are headed.

    If you've been dating someone for a little while without putting labels on your relationship, you may wonder whether it's safe to consider him your significant other - or if maybe he isn't so significant after all. Read More: Should I Have Sex On The First Date? VIDEO

    In this video, dating coach, matchmaker and YourTango Expert Julianne Cantarella explains how to tell when it's safe to refer to him as your boyfriend. "Now, I would caution you not to rush things," says Julianne, "However, if you have a need to define your relationship, then I suggest you take a look at how things are playing out around you by asking yourself these questions: First, how long have you been dating?"

    Want to hear the rest of Julianne's questions? Check out the video above.

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  • Having Kids Right After Marriage is "A Mistake," Says Actress Nikki Reed

    The 'Twilight' actress believes that a couple should wait to procreate. Do you agree?Nikki Reed thinks that putting a bun in the oven just after you've said "I do" is a terrible idea.

    The 24-year-old newlywed recently told People: "Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like it's a mistake for people to get married and then just (have kids right away)."

    Reed and her husband, American Idol alum Paul McDonald, got hitched last year. Although they want to take things slow when it comes to child-bearing, the couple certainly took the fast track to marriage. The two met on the red carpet in March 2011, and Reed was seen wearing an engagement ring that June (only 3 months later!). Then, they wed in October! Read More: Quicky Marriage! Nikki Reed & Paul McDonald's "Magical" Wedding

    In any case, Reed feels very strongly about her whole "waiting to have kids" stance. She said: "We want to travel and be able to fly on an airplane without a baby and just have freedom."

    We think it's sweet that she wants some one-on-one time with her husband before the kids come along. But, when you've

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  • Therapists Shed New Light on Cheating

    Think Facebook influences infidelity? Think again.A survey of counseling professionals from YourTango.com-the digital leader in love and relationships-sheds dramatic, new light on infidelity. Surprisingly, it's not about the sex. Instead, emotional dissatisfaction is the number-one reason both men and women cheat, according to these experts, while sexual dissatisfaction comes in second. Only 8% of respondents say men are "hard-wired" to "spread their seed."

    About this statistic, YourTango Expert Lynn R. Zakeri has this to say: "It may sound surprising, but many men are really looking for someone to connect with, to be their best friend and their intimate partner, and when they lose that connection in their marriage, they may look elsewhere." Meanwhile, YourTango Expert Dr. Susan Heitler adds, "While there are many factors that can lead to an extramarital sexual encounter, emotional distance is one that couples can prevent. If there's been distress, dissension or too much distance, take a marriage ed class to learn how to stay more

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  • 6 Surprising Myths About Infidelity Debunked

    If you think the adage A recent survey of over 100 mental health professionals puts to rest some longstanding myths about infidelity. YourTango Experts posed 23 probing questions to its members in an attempt to understand the apparent epidemic that plagues so many American couples today. Namely, the survey sought to uncover who cheats most (men or women), why they cheat, the impact of infidelity on relationships and how couples fare after one or both parties has cheated. Read More: Therapists Shed Surprising New Light On Infidelity

    The results were astounding. Below is a list of the top six myths debunked by our experts:

    Myth #1: Men cheat more than women. While 49% of experts say that men cheat more than women, a whopping 47% agree that women are just as likely to be unfaithful to their partners as their male counterparts. Read More: What To Expect After Infidelity & 7 Ways You Can Cope

    Myth #2: Men cheat because of sexual dissatisfaction. Rather, 34% of experts (a plurality) polled agree that men stray

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  • VIDEO: Do Men Really Expect Sex on a First Date?



    Common wisdom tells us ladies to make men wait for it. You know, monogamy before intercourse and all that jazz. But is it really true that you shouldn't be physically intimate with a man until you're in a committed relationship with him, or is it ever okay to let your hormones lead the way?

    In this video, dating coach, matchmaker and YourTango Expert Julianne Cantarella answers the question: Do men really expect sex on the first date? "As a dating coach," says Julianne, "I always advise my clients - both men and women - to wait as long as possible to introduce sexual intimacy. I suggest they follow the 90-day rule. And what is that exactly? Well, it's dating the same person, two times a week, over a three-month period, equalling out to be about 24 dates." Read More: Is There Any Way To Ensure A Great First Date? VIDEO

    Want to learn more? Check out the video above.

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  • Are You an Overly Involved Parent?

    What kind of parent are you?If you identify with one or more of these symptoms, you might be enmeshed with your children.

    Symptoms of enmeshed parenting:
    -Your children's good or difficult behavior and successful or unsuccessful achievements define your worth.
    -Your children are the center of your life-your sole purpose in life.
    -Your focus is on taking care of your children rather than taking care of yourself.
    -Your happiness or pain is determined by your children.
    -You are invasive-you need to know everything about what your children think and do.

    If you identify with one or more of these symptoms, you might be enmeshed with your children. Read More: 4 Tips To Silence The Mom In Your Head

    The consequences of enmeshed parenting on your children:

    -They may grow up feeling responsible for others' feelings while ignoring responsibility for their own. They might feel selfish if they take care of themselves and could become compliant and disconnected from themselves.
    -They may use you as their role

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  • VIDEO: Is Infidelity as Common as the Media Makes it Seem?



    We hear about it almost every day. Some Hollywood celebrity or Washington politician has cheated on his poor, unsuspecting wife. Sometimes as many as 14 accusers come forward alleging affairs, as was the case with golf great Tiger Woods. But is infidelity really as rampant as the media makes it seem, or is it just a ploy to sell tabloid magazines?

    In this video, bestselling author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus and YourTango Expert Dr. John Gray addresses this very question. "I'm happy to answer this question," says Dr. Gray, "because so much of the time we hear that so many people are cheating on their spouses, and this is not the case. Certainly it occurs, and certainly some of those statistics may be accurate, but in most cases, people are cheating once they've realized the relationship isn't working." Read More: Why Tiger Cheated: "Mars Venus" Author Explains VIDEO

    Want to learn more? Check out the video above.

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