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  • 5 Date Ideas for Dog Lovers

    Would you bring your doggy on a date?Elisa Baxt recalls one of her first dog dates with her boyfriend: It was on a beautiful spring day, and she and Scott were having lunch at an outdoor cafe, eating salads and sipping lemonade. Next to them was Elisa's three-and-a-half-year-old chow-lab mix Cody, chewing on a special order carrot (raw and unpeeled). "It was a great day," Elisa said, "and Cody was a great icebreaker. Of course, now, she's like our child. And we take her everywhere."

    The fact is bringing your dog with you on a date can not only lend to fun and adventure, but can also let you know if you share a love of dogs early on, experts say. It can also enhance romance. Just ask Lisa Saliture, who took her German shorthaired pointer out with a date and his dog early in their relationship. "We walked on the beach and in the wooded areas," she writes on, "and it gave me an instant feeling of romance and closeness with him. The dogs were running and playing, so they inspired us to let loose too."

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  • 4 Things that Can Kill a New Relationship

    These things can really put out the flame in a relationship.In the beginning of any courtship, everyone shows up wearing their finest mask and putting forth their best foot. We all can agree that we have found ourselves attracted to someone of the opposite sex who appeared to be perfect on paper until we discovered a little more about him or her that was a complete turn off. We could list a number of deal-breakers that can be a killjoy to a new relationship, but below you will find some of the top four that will shut down the fireworks of any new encounter.

    1. Dishonesty
    The discovery that a person is not who they say they are is the number one deal breaker. I once coached a client who dated a man that acted like he was a professional athlete who was a divorced doting father of two. Once the relationship got serious, she discovered that the man had a ton of debt, did not consistently pay his bills or child support and was still married to his wife albeit going through a divorce. Distrust from the start is a shot in the heart to any potential

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  • VIDEO: Help! How Do I Stop Thinking About My Mean Ex?

    If you've ever been through a difficult breakup, you know it can take a long time to recover. In this video, Family/Relationship Therapist, Bestselling Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Weil discusses what to do when you can't stop thinking about the mean things your ex said to you right before you broke up.

    "Do you realize that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself?" asks Dr. Bonnie. Holding onto anger only hurts you. Dr. Bonnie urges you to try to forgive your ex for the harsh words you exchanged at the end of your relationship. After all, it's too late to take them back now. Related: My Ex-Husband Showers Our Kids With Too Many Gifts

    Next, Dr. Bonnie suggests seeking closure, and the best way to do that is with the help of a friend, family member or counselor. By focusing on the good things about the relationship, you will eventually find the peace you need to move onto your next relationship. Related: Should I Stay Married For The Sake Of My Kids?

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  • What I Learned from Calling Off My Wedding

    Having second thoughts about forever? You're not alone.When Kim Kardashian got reamed by every comedian, blog and tweet possible for marrying Kris Humphries in a public, televised, multimillion-dollar spectacle, and divorcing him not three months later, I could relate. Well, in one tiny way, anyway: I understood the importance of calling things off, no matter how inconvenient the circumstances.

    I called my wedding off eight years ago. It cost considerably less than $20 million, even by the most generous estimates, but it felt like an awful lot to us at the time. (It was about $10,000, truth be told, an amount I still wouldn't mind having in the bank right now.) It felt, in fact, paralyzingly expensive. When my first I'm-not-sure-I-want-to-do-this pangs began, my initial thought was not, tellingly, how I would express such hurtful feelings to my fiancé, nor was it even how we might break the news to friends and family. It was: I don't think the caterers would take this well. Maybe I'll just stick things out. Related: 6 Tips For Planning

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  • 8 Quotes About Condoms that Are Worth a Laugh

    Using condoms for safe sex is no laughing matter—but these condom quotes are worth a laugh.In honor of April being STD Awareness Month, we thought to bring a humorous take to the conversation about condoms. Not to make light of the importance of using them-nothing will ruin your year like an STD, people-but simply to provide some laughs.

    Without further do, the funniest condom quotes from film, TV and pop culture that we could scour the web to find:

    "Condoms should be marketed in 3 sizes-jumbo, colossal, and super colossal, so that men do not have to go in and ask for the small." -Barbara Seaman, women's health activist and journalist.

    "Condoms aren't completely safe. A friend of mine was wearing one and got hit by a bus." -Bob Rubin, comedian and actor

    "There's a new medical crisis. Doctors are reporting that many men are having allergic reactions to latex condoms. They say they cause severe swelling. So what's the problem?" -Phyllis Diller, actress and comedienne

    "Emma is a product of a bottle of Merlot and a five year old condom." -Monica (Courteney Cox) to Chandler

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  • 5 Little Ways to Get a Man to Commit

    Following these tips will keep him yours!You've been dating a guy for a few weeks, things are going great and you want to know to where you stand. You want to make sure he isn't seeing anyone else, and if you're being honest, a small part of you wants to know when you can change your Facebook relationship status from "single" to "in a relationship."

    Having the "Define The Relationship" (DTR) talk generally only succeeds in making him feel backed into a corner because he feels like you want something from him - in this case a commitment - that he hasn't offered up on his own.

    The best way to get a man to commit isn't by pleading your case and making ultimatums, it's by being the kind of woman who doesn't need him. Suddenly, he'll want to be with you. Sound easier said than done? Not really! Check it out. Related: The Top 4 Reasons To Date A Bad Boy

    1. Associate yourself with fun.
    Be the kind of girl he wants to hang out with, not someone who is only out to get something from him. Bring more to the table than you want to

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  • What Does a Woman's Lingerie Color Say About Her?

    Red lingerie? You're passionate and energetic.According to a recent survey, 79% of women said buying lingerie was "very important" to them. Survey respondents said they buy lingerie: to build self confidence, to feel powerful and to seduce.

    As illustrated in this infographic by The Sexy LingerieShop, most women don't realize that the color of their lingerie says a lot about their relationship, love life and themselves. The results may surprise you!

    Check out the graphic below and see what your lingerie says about you. Related: 7 Sex Positions Men Love

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    • VIDEO: "Help! My Low Sex Drive is Hurting My Relationship"

      Is your low libido causing problems in your relationship? Are you unable to keep up with your spouse's sex drive? Good news: you're not alone.

      In this video, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and YourTango Expert Janie Lacy explains that it's common - especially for women - to experience this problem. Her advice? Start by seeing a doctor to rule out any potential physical or hormonal complications that might be causing your libido to drop.

      Next, she says, you should examine your relationship for areas that need to be strengthened. Feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner can cause you to feel less sexually inclined. Related: How Can I Divorce-Proof My Marriage? [VIDEO]

      Whatever you do, don't let your low sex drive ruin your relationship. Check out the video above for more advice.

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    • VIDEO: What Are Signs that a Couple's Relationship is Doomed to Fail?

      Isn't it strange how sometimes couples who seem perfect together break up, while couples who seem completely mismatched can last a lifetime? It makes you wonder: is there any rhyme or reason for how relationships turn out?

      In this video, Relationship Coach, Author and YourTango Expert Shela Dean discusses the warning signs that indicate whether a relationship is destined for long-term success. "What I observed is that there are four main predictors of divorce, all of which have to do with how partners treat each other in good times, and perhaps more importantly, during difficult times," says Shela. Therefore, if you or your spouse if guilty of any of those behaviors, your marriage may be at risk. Related: Why Can't I Find A Relationship? [VIDEO]

      Want to learn what behavior predicts divorce? Check out the video above and find out!

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    • What Does a Man's Pet Say About His Romantic Potential?

      If your guy has a cat, he's probably the sensitive type.What type of pet a man owns says a lot about who he is and how he lives his life. When you meet someone who has a pet, it's just not the same as meeting someone who is pet-free. There's a good chance his pet will affect your dating life - especially if it's a dog or cat, since those tend to become the center of a person's life.

      In other words, sometimes you just can't compete with Doug the Dog, whom your new dude has had for years, so surrender that fantasy right now. If you're looking for someone to make their whole world about you, you probably won't find it in a pet-owner - I speak from experience.

      From dogs to rabbits to snakes, here is what your man's choice of pet says about him. Use this as a guide to weed out the weirdos before you do something ridiculous like fall in love. Related: 10 Celebrities Who Are In Love With Their Pets

      If he owns a dog, your man is loyal and can actually commit, because owning a dog is as close to having a child as it comes. While other pets

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