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  • 10 Warning Signs that Your Relationship is Headed for a Dead End

    Is your relationship headed for a dead end?

    We love lists as much as the next gal or guy, and this one, unearthed in the Sun Journal, was a good one. According to the advice in this article, if your relationship fits one of these scenarios, you are advised not to pass "Go":

    Unequal distribution of caring
    It's a rebounder
    It's a "jailbreak"
    One partner's on a pedestal
    One partner's emotionally unavailable
    One partner's wing is broken; the other's always patching it up
    One partner fills in blanks about the other, trying to make up for his/her missed potential
    There's compatibility, but only around one activity or topic
    It's straight-up infatuation
    It's an affair

    We must admit that there are a few here that do sound familiar. If only we had uncovered this handy, dandy list a tad earlier.

    Written by Julie D. Andrews for YourTango.com.

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  • VIDEO: If My Boyfriend's Parents Had an Awful Marriage, is Our Relationship Doomed Too?



    As we grow up, there are many things about our parents that we hope we can inherit: maybe it's your dad's sense of humor and your mother's legs. On the other hand, there are also aspects of them that we hope to leave in their generation (that quick temper? No need to pass that down, thanks).

    That's why it's worrisome when you witness your parents' bad habits when it comes their relationship. It makes you wonder, "Is that going to be in ten years when I'm married to someone?"

    In this video, Spiritual Relationship Expert, Therapist and YourTango Expert, Dr. Erica Goodstone addresses the topic of bad relationship habits being shared from one generation to the next. One of our readers is concerned that her boyfriend's parents and their terrible marriage is going to rub off on her own relationship. A scary thought, indeed.

    Dr. Erica suggests that in order to stop history from repeating, this reader should not go into the relationship expecting to change her boyfriend's views on love.

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  • Are Men More Likely to Keep Resolutions Than Women Are?

    More women set New Year's resolutions than men! (Women 67% - Men 55%)
    With every New Year there comes a chance for a do-over, or at the very least the opportunity to do things differently than we have in the past.

    Tokii's DiscoveryGames collected the responses of participants to see exactly what kind of resolutions men and women are setting-and who's sticking to them.

    Both men and women make New Year's resolutions, with the ladies being ahead at 67% and the men at 55%. Although there is an effort being made from both genders, 80% of men and 45% of women reported that they've failed to keep resolutions, or more specifically "gave up too easily."

    When it came to sex in this month of resolutions and cold weather, 62% of men and 38% of women would be comfortable "introducing their partner to a sexual position once a month"-and some very eager respondents (51% of men and 32% of women) want to learn a new sexual position every week for the duration of the year.

    But what's love and sex without some level of restraint in other areas of

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  • Why Humor is Important for Your Relationship

    Life is too short not to laugh at yourself!

    Many of us live under the misconception that laughter should be reserved for the good times. The reality is that humor is more necessary than ever when life hits the skids. I was just reminded of this fact when I saw my friend Linda. I'm always amazed by her sense of humor, even in light of some ongoing family issues; a husband who isn't well and serious concerns about one of her children. Somehow, she manages to find humor anyway; on any given day she is busily affording someone a good belly-laugh.

    Realizing the importance of humor, one of my daily goals is to help patients, where appropriate, to see the humor in their circumstances. Once I've gotten someone in a dire situation to laugh, I know we've begun to move in a positive direction. The side benefit is that I also get a good laugh in the process!

    Why is laughter so important? Two of the obvious reasons are that laughter is pleasurable and that it provides some relief from the stress du jour. There are many

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  • VIDEO: I Have Serious Trust Issues, How Can I Date?



    In part one of this video series, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert, Lori Pinkerton counseled one of her real clients: an incredible businesswoman named Deborah, 59, who's been single for the past 6 years while focusing solely on her career. Since she's ready to begin dating again, Lori helped her establish a "dating strategy" and got her in the habit of acting like a single woman.

    In this video, Lori helps Deborah with her significant trust issues. She's been burned in past relationships and some part of her is worried that dating just isn't worth it anymore. Deborah explains why her two long-term relationships in her life have given her these feelings, while Lori helps her to see that these trust issues may be with herself.

    The only way Deborah is going to resolve these trust issues is to get out in the dating scene and gain new evidence. See what else Lori prescribes for her in the video above.

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  • Top 10 Ways to Treat Yourself While You Are Single

    Bubble baths are a great way to treat yourself after a stressful day!Just because you're single doesn't mean you shouldn't be treated to the finer things in life. The best part about being single is doing things for yourself and on your own terms. So quit your sulking and get to pampering. It's important to be good to yourself. Here's how:

    1. Buy yourself flowers. Flowers not only brighten up a room, but can brighten up your day. Don't wait for someone else to buy you flowers; do it now for yourself.

    2. Take yourself out. Get dressed up and take yourself out on a date. It might be scary at first to go into a restaurant alone, but it also takes a huge amount of confidence, and confidence is sexy. Men love sexy, so you never know - you just might meet someone while you're out there.

    3. Eat dessert for breakfast. The one thing I love to do when I wake up cranky is have cupcakes for breakfast. Being an adult means deciding you can have chocolate when you first wake up, and being single means there's no one around to judge you.

    4. Get

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  • VIDEO: Help! How Do I Get Back into Dating After Taking 6 Years Off?


    Do you find yourself at a point in your life where you've accomplished all of your career goals and aspirations, and can finally focus your attention on love? Are you scared or confused about how to make that transition and what you bring to the table?

    In part one of this video series, Dating & Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert, Lori Pinkerton counsels one of her real clients: an incredible businesswoman named Deborah, 59, who's been struggling with this exact problem. She's been single for the past 6 years while focusing solely on her career. Now that she's ready to begin dating, she's nervous that she won't be any good at it and fears she doesn't have the feminine qualities to attract a man. Deborah explains that she feels an underlying sadness and asks for Lori's help.

    Lori's advice in this part includes establishing a "dating strategy" much like a business strategy, and also getting in the habit of being a single woman. Watch the video above for more.

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  • 5 Reasons Why You Should Move in Together Before Getting Married

    Why living together before marriage actually decreases your chances of divorce.

    After reading a recent study in Glamour which reexamined the long-propagated myth that couples who live together before marriage have a higher chance of divorce, I felt ridiculously triumphant, wagging my finger in a self-aggrandizing "I told you so" to society at large.

    Really, all of those articles were starting to depress me, especially since I'm engaged to a man I have been living with for the past four years. Far from believing the myth, I became convinced that my fiancé and I were just different from the rest of the world, luckier than most. Blame it on my desire to be different, but after reading the article, I started questioning why the myth has held for so long. Was there any truth to it? I couldn't find any good reasons for not living together through my Internet searches, and I kept coming up with "because it is a sin" from religious organizations.

    After scouring the web and relentlessly asking couples, singles and even my fiancé for opinions on the matter, I realized

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  • 3 Simple Steps for Turning a Rocky Relationship into Lasting Love

    Keep the flame burning in your relationship until the end of time!

    Are you in a rocky relationship? Feeling resentful, anxious, distant, or lonely in your situation? Whether you have been dating for two months or married for 10 years, things can go south all too easily in a couple. Yet there is nothing quite as painful as when things are falling apart, when you know that your love might be lost forever. Can I turn it all around, you wonder? Is it even possible now?

    Well I have some great news for you. It is possible if you have the courage to go for it. All you need to do is follow three simple steps. And pow, you can become super happy with your partner. Here is the three step secret sauce, adapted from my new paperback, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love:

    1. Identify what I call your Relationship-Killer Beliefs. These are beliefs like, "All men are jerks," which kick in when you are in love that cause you to go on emotional rants in your mind instead of dealing with what is actually happening. Let's look at a

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  • Why Do Women Love Mitt Romney?

    Did you/would you vote for Mitt Romney?

    With the Iowa Caucuses behind us, the 2012 Republican primaries are well under way. Treading the waters of an election can be strenuous on a new relationship, especially when political views lay on polar opposite ends of the spectrum. But before you yell, "Can't we all just get along?!" know that there are plenty of political ideals that singles do agree on.

    Zoosk, the social dating network, surveyed 4,000 singles in the United States on their views of the current candidates. Of course, none of these things matter when it comes to determining who you want to run the country (unless you care more about looks than health care, or want to dine with the President rather than let him solve educational issues) but the results are interesting nonetheless. Plus, since 87 percent of single men and women plan on voting this year, it's nice to know that they've taken at least some notice of the candidate pool, right?

    Looks matter. Although Michele Bachmann has suspended her campaign due to lack

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