October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Breast cancer is the most common cancer among women worldwide, and approximately 1 woman in 8 will develop it over the course of her life. Breast cancer is so common that most women know someone who has been diagnosed with this disease. Just over 10 years ago, my dear friend, Marsha Vaughn, died of breast cancer after an ugly battle that lasted a couple of years. When she told me the news, I was so sure she would beat it. She was, too. It seemed like so many strides had been made in its treatment that we just knew she would pull through. We were wrong.
So, in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, this week's Fab Friday Favorites theme is taking care of your bosom, your ta-tas, your boobs, the girls...
Mammogram At what age a woman should start getting mammograms and how often she should get them depends on her family history, and health status. Talk to your doctor about what's right for you. I get one every year. I have a friend who won't
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October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Breast cancer is the most common cancer among women worldwide, and approximately 1 woman in 8 will develop it over the course of her life. Breast cancer is so common that most women know someone who has been diagnosed with this disease. Just over 10 years ago, my dear friend, Marsha Vaughn, died of breast cancer after an ugly battle that lasted a couple of years. When she told me the news, I was so sure she would beat it. She was, too. It seemed like so many strides had been made in its treatment that we just knew she would pull through. We were wrong.Read More »from Show "Your Girls" Some Love
One of the reasons being single works so well for me is my robust circle of what experts call social connections: some I've known forever, others I only recently met, some I share a bloodline with. Lots of studies and medical experts support that --single or married-- healthy relationships are what help keep people sane and thriving. Family, friends, co-workers, neighbors; it doesn't really matter who they are as long as you're good to and for each other.
Making new friends as an adult can be a challenge. When we're younger, we're in more situations where it's easy to meet people --school, sororities, the club, playing sports-- but these seemingly unending people options get thin once we're no longer doing those things. A couple of readers of this blog have commented that they want to be more socially connected, but it's a little more work. Here's how a few people I know are navigating this:
- ▪ My sister, Phyllis, has met a number of interesting and fun people while taking
I keep asking myself, "What is wrong with her?" Why was she with this man to begin with, and why did she stay longer than five minutes?
I'm sure some will say this is really none of my business, but I disagree. If it's in the news, on the news and every newsmagazine and talk show, then it's open for discussion.
They say he's "engaging" (Barbara Walters), "charming and fun" (Lesley Stahl), and he may be, but is that enough? I see a man who is cruel and unbelievably self-absorbed. He seems to have no soul.
But, for me, this is about her. I used to be a real admirer. She came from a family of faux-U.S. royalty, and chose to pursue her own career in the uber-competitive media business, although she could certainly afford not to work...or not to work hard if she didn't want to. And she was good at her job.
But I stopped being a fan when her randy husband --shortly after he announced his run for governor-- was accused by a group women of inappropriate behavior againstRead More »from Wife as Co-conspirator?
- Spinsterlicious | Love + Sex – Tue, Oct 2, 2012 10:54 AM EDT
The growing numbers of singles is not just a U.S. trend. Many countries around the world are also experiencing a decline in marriage. I love that readers of The Spinsterlicious Life are from "everywhere"...places like Australia, Brazil, Canada, Ecuador, Egypt, Germany, New Zealand, Peru, Romania, Slovakia, South Africa, and the U.K....in addition to the good old U.S. of A.
Today's guest post is by two women --Lisa Brignoni and Thembi Mngadi-- who write about their experience of being single in Ecuador and South Africa...one who grapples with the ongoing inquisition of "why aren't you married" in a culture different from her own , and the other who is confronted by her own culture that has not advanced as far as she has.
In their own words: Read more: http://eleanorewells.com/travel-tuesday-the-single-experience-in-ecuador-in-south-africa/Read More »from Being Single, Around the World (or at Least in Ecuador and South Africa)
I like things that smell good...but I have a love-hate relationship with fragrance. It seems that I have a stronger sense of smell than many people, so I often smell smells at an amplified level...which can be a problem. There's a guy in my building who wears so much cologne that I can tell when he's been in the elevator before me because the aroma is still there. Ugh. Loud smells give me a headache, so I am drawn to those that are what I would describe as "light and lovely." With that in mind, the theme of today's Fab Friday Favorites is Scents (and Sense).
Annick Goutal's Petite Cherie
I rarely wear perfume, but I love scented body lotions. First, they're 2-for-1 because I get moisturizing and fragrance, but they also are often lighter in scent and longer-lasting. Petite Cherie by Annick Goutal is my favorite. According to legend, Annick Goutal designed this fragrance for her daughter, and it is described as an "irresistible, sensual and seductiveRead More »from Scents and Sensibility
- Spinsterlicious | Love + Sex – Wed, Sep 26, 2012 1:56 PM EDT
Last month, I wrote a blog post about an event I attended sponsored by Match.com, to promote their new Stir events. Stir events are targeted to single people and range from large scale happy hours at local bars and venues, to more intimate, interest-based events such as cooking classes, wine and tequila tastings, dance lessons, bowling nights, rock climbing, and more.
I don't love online dating so I thought these events would bring a different flavor to singles-meeting-singles, and help get over that uncomfortable situation that comes when your date doesn't look like his/her picture...and other inconsistencies. So I like the concept of Stir.
I was given the opportunity to attend a Stir event, with the agreement that I would write a blog post about it. So last week I attended a Happy-Hour-like event at a New York City bar on the Upper East Side. Read more: http://eleanorewells.com/maybe-just-maybe-consider-mixing-up-your-dating-life-with-stir-events-by-match-com/Read More »from Hate Online Dating? Maybe You Should Consider Match.Com's Stir Events
Every other day until the end of September, we will feature essays we find particularly inspiring, from our Spinsterlicious Sweepstakes. This is fascinating to me. When people- who-don't-know-better make jokes about single women as "crazy cat ladies", "angry",Read More »from In Celebration of National Singles Week..
"too unattractive to get a man", I wonder who they're talking about. Certainly not the readers of The Spinsterlicious Life. Here are our essays for this weekend. Read more:
For many women, one of the downsides of being single is the desire to travel but having no one to go with. Traveling without some or at least one of your favorite people can be daunting, but it can also be freeing and fun (see Lori's Cuba).
It's past the evening news, and you are just about to turn into bed when a commercial comes on that catches your interest. You plop back down onto the couch and become mesmerized by the aquamarine-colored ocean that engulfs a frolicking couple, as they chase one another down the beach. The advertisement continues, showing the same couple exploring the island's numerous activities, while wrapped in the lavish beauty of Barbados or some other island paradise. You sigh to yourself and click off the remote, knowing that you could never go on a trip like that by yourself - or could you?
Single travelers, particularly women, tend to have a misconception that unless they are traveling with a significant other or a friend, they will beRead More »from Chicks that Trip: The Joys of Solo Travel
- Spinsterlicious | Author Blog Posts – Sun, Sep 16, 2012 11:58 AM EDT
"[W]hat it does bring home to us is that we can no longer pretend that marriage is the central organizing principle of society?"
- Historian Stephanie Coontz
There's been a rash of studies and news articles lately on the declining marriage rate and the subsequent rise in single people. Two that I've seen a lot of include:
- NPR - When It Comes To Marriage, Many More Say 'I Don't'
- The Pew Research Institute - Barely Half of U.S. Adults Are Married; A Record Low
Looks like the rest of the country is finally starting to figure out what I've known for a long time: not only is being single not bad, it can be pretty good.
In 1960, 72% of all adults ages 18 and older were married; today, just 51% are. While many of those who are not married used to be -they're divorced or widowed- 28% have never been married, which is almost twice as many as in 1960. Something's happening.
When I first started writing my book, The Spinsterlicious Life, people would lookRead More »from Sweepstakes for National Singles Week...Because Single is In!
The theme for this edition of Fab Friday Finds is c o l o r. For each, the color of "the find" is an integral component of why I love it...except for the last one.. Read more: http://eleanorewells.com/fab-friday-finds-color-me/http://eleanorewells.com/fab-friday-finds-color-me/