Blog Posts by Spinsterlicious

  • Where Do "Old" Broads Hang Out?

    Last Saturday night, I found myself prowling the streets in search of food, drink, fun, and maybe even a guy. I wasn't alone, but my dear friend, Nameless, who was with me hated it so much she won't allow me to use her name...not even her initials. Here's what happened. I invited her to a comedy show where a guy I knew was performing. However, I screwed up the details and so we found ourselves all dressed up with nowhere to go. Actually, we weren't all dressed up; we were dressed pretty casually. If we had been all dressed up, we would have had more options.

    Anyway, we tried to think of where we could go for a little fun, but we had a few criteria: good food, good drinks, inviting atmosphere, and a few grown-up guys we could flirt with without feeling like pedophiles. There are tons of places in NYC that fit the first few criteria, but the last one is what stumped us. Read more…

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  • 25 Things: 2011 Year in Review

    A number of blogs are posting the answers to this "25 Things" questionnaire and linking to each other. Hilarity in Shoes is one of them. It's kinda fun to read others' responses. Here's mine...which I think, alas, may be a little dull. I'm hoping it's dull because I have a lousy memory, and not because I became boring this year. Anyway, here we go:

    1. What did you do in 2011 that you'd never done before?

    I did a radio interview about my blog (with Joseph C. Phillips, sitting in for Larry Elder on his KABC show). It was a new experience so I was a little nervous. I was very conscious of how many bad tv and radio interviews I see/hear and I didn't want to be one of them. I wasn't. It actually was pretty easy…and fun. (I'm hoping he'll have me back on when my book comes out this spring.)

    2. Did you keep your new year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

    I don't really make New Year's resolutions, though I usually re-evaluate my

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  • Is He Really Your Boyfriend?

    I had an awkward conversation a few weeks ago with a friend of mine. She's "seeing" a man who she pretends is her boyfriend, although he is not. In my opinion, he's a guy she hangs out with and sometimes sleeps with. He's recently divorced and told her that, though he likes her, he has no desire for a girlfriend. I think that's pretty clear. She still, apparently, doesn't believe him.

    So I get regular calls and texts from her when she's upset about something he did or did not do. Something a real boyfriend probably would have done...but since this guy is only her "boyfriend in her head", he keeps falling short of her expectations. And I keep getting "I'm upset" calls from her.

    Apparently, one of the seemingly most common trip-ups in dating is that the two people in the so-called relationship have differing opinions about what kind of relationship they're in. Invariably, someone's feelings get hurt because expectations are different from what is actually being

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  • When is a Gift Not a Gift

    Gift. noun. 1. something given voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favor toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance; present.

    I had a conversation this week with my friend --let's call her Cheryl-- about gift-giving, during the holidays and all the other gift-giving "opportunities". I was in the middle of wrapping my Christmas gifts and mentioned that I have begun to exchange gifts with fewer and fewer people. Really, I don't need another thingy. What I've started to suggest is that we get together, treat each other to food and drink…or something else we both like to do, and just enjoy each other's company. That's what I really want for Christmas (and usually my birthday, too).

    Then Cheryl told me a story about how she feels slighted by a friend to whom she has given many gifts, though has received few (or none, depending on how you look at it) in return. Cheryl says that, over the years, she has given

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  • In Praise of the Mature --and Fab-- Woman

    I celebrated a birthday last month and what a fun day it was. In commemoration of me adding another year, a friend sent me a piece attributed to Andy Rooney called In Praise of Women Over 40 (or something like that). I like it. Here it is:

    As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

    • A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, "What are you thinking?" She doesn't care what you think.

    • If a woman over 40 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting.
    • A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 give a damn what you might think about her or what she's doing.

    • Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an
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  • How Long Should a Marriage Last?

    One of the reasons I didn't want to get married is that " 'till death do us part" just seems so looooong. Whenever I would look at whatever guy I was in love with, I would try to envision him still in my life in 15 years, and I couldn't. I would do my peer-into-the-future, but that face I loved would get really blurry. I've always been intrigued by people who can make that leap-of-faith into FOREVER. I never could.

    So I was talking about this recently with my friend, who had just spoken to her friend who was celebrating her 25 th wedding anniversary. The "bride" confided, that in planning her anniversary celebration (a full-on gala in Laguna Beach, CA, where they met) her husband told her… "you know, when I was watching you come down the aisle, I thought "well, I'll give this marriage-thing 5 years". Say that again? Read more:

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  • When Your Friend Has a Baby..

    At the beginning, I think they used to feel sorry for me all-single-and-alone in my apartment, so they had me over on a regular basis for food and drink. I took complete advantage of this.

    And several nights a week, we would unwind from a rough day at work over a glass of wine. This is a picture I took of the inside of their refrigerator. Tells you what their priorities are/were, right?

    Their frig

    They were so much fun. Then this happened. Read more:

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  • My Bountiful 2011

    Thanksgiving's coming. It's my very favorite holiday. I start calorie counting on November 1 just to make room for all the goodness I'm going to absorb at Thanksgiving dinner and the week of leftovers. Yum!
    This year I'm hosting a very Spinsterlicious holiday that will begin on Wednesday evening and last through the weekend with my sister and a few fabulous girlfriends. I'm looking very forward to it.
    2011 was a good year. Here's a few of the many things I'm thankful for:

    -Another good year with Danny, the world's cutest dog.

    -Fresh Direct, my Thanksgiving partner, who makes it all possible (well, much of it). Once I discovered them a few years ago, I've been hosting Thanksgiving dinner ever since. They deliver a delicious, full Thanksgiving dinner. All I gotta do is warm it up! And my house smells I've been cooking all day.

    -My friends. They're great. Good people. Always there for me. And they make me laugh.

    -Oprah's Life Class. At first it seemed corny to me, but

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  • What to Do About "Him" at Thanksgiving

    I love Thanksgiving. It's my favorite holiday. It's a kick-off to the holiday season (Halloween doesn't count), and the best holiday, as far as I'm concerned. Everyone celebrates it and there aren't a lot of rules: eat well, enjoy each other's company, pack up some leftovers. But if you're single-and-dating, Thanksgiving may also be the kick-off to a "what are we doing" conversation.

    If you're a married woman, you have Thanksgiving dinner with your husband. It might be somewhere you're excited to be, it might be somewhere you're not excited to be, but wherever it is, you're there with your husband. If you're single-and-dating, a conversation often has to be had: Where are you having Thanksgiving dinner? Are we having it together?

    This conversation can get complicated. And it can also make a statement about the status of the relationship.

    If the relationship is seriously serious, you're having Thanksgiving dinner together. 'Where' is another discussion, but you'll be

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