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  • 4 Signs of Emotionally Unavailable Men

    Signs of Emotionally Unavailable MenSigns of Emotionally Unavailable Men

    Are you frustrated by your "broken picker?" Learn how to navigate the tricky space between picky and selective using these four tips!

    If you are sick of attracting men who are emotionally unavailable, it's not because you have a "broken picker!" More likely, you are not listening to what he says (many women have selective hearing and interpret everything he says based on what they want), not listening to your gut, or jumping into a relationship so fast it makes it hard to get out when you know it's the right thing to do.

    Never fear, once you begin to recognize Dating With Dignity's "Four Signs of the Emotionally Unavailable Man" and how to effortlessly spot him, you will never again have to wonder what it means when he disappears, flakes, is hot and cold, or is words and actions are just plain confusing.

    Clue #1: He directly says it to YOU. Yes, men typically mean what they say and say what they mean. He may simply tell you he's not looking for a relationship.

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  • How to Tell If a Man is Interested in You

    How to Tell if a Man is Interested in YouHow to Tell if a Man is Interested in You

    Five Sure-Fire Ways to Tell He Is Definitely Interested in YOU!

    Whether you are making eyes at some hunky guy over your latte, or on a first date with a man you think might be a keeper, you need to know how to tell if a man is interested in you. Check in using our Five Point "Is He Into Me" System - and wonder no more!

    1. Read his body language: Body language is a big clue to whether or not Mr. Interesting is into you. Is he leaning in while you talk? Whether it's a subtle lean-in, or even a full court press, proximity to you is a yes! That or he really likes how you smell. Either one is good. So whether you are chatting with him in line for scones, or across the dinner table from him, you can casually check if he is going for the lean in, or the lean back. Did his lips part when you first locked eyes? Great. Can you see that he is perched on the edge of his seat in an effort to get that much closer to you? Check.

    2. Gauge His Eye Contact: If he is into you, he'll hold

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  • Men Who Are Emotionally UnavailableMen Who Are Emotionally Unavailable If you feel like your "picker" is broken (and you aren't alone), we first want to direct you to Dating with Dignity's Four signs of emotionally unavailable men so you can begin to spot them more easily. Make sure to read this article if you haven't; and then, once you're familiar with the signs, it's time to take responsibility for your relationship results and begin to take steps to avoid these men at all costs. (Yes, even if he's super hot, super successful, or has potential.)

    What follows are Dating with Dignity's four best tips and tricks to avoid men who are emotionally unavailable so you can fix your "picker" and get directly on the road to finding your Mr. Right!

    1. Don't settle for any relationship just because you want to be in a relationship.

    If you're at a place in your life where you're ready for a relationship, that's great news! However, it doesn't mean you should settle for someone who only partially meets your needs just because, well, he's partially

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  • 7 Dating Tips for Women from Men

    Seven Tips to Be a Savvy Dater: What Men Never Tell You

    While our male counterparts can confuse the heck out of us Dignity Daters, sometimes they can be the best when it comes to dishing out dating advice. Now that you have access to the Dating with Dignity's Men's Advice Column (Starting with these seven dating tips for women from men!), you'll never be confused again.

    1. Do your own thing. Don't let a man become the center of your universe. If you make a man your whole life, he's going to lose interest because he will most likely feel smothered! Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic "you" who has her own interests and passions who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing.

    Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of "interdependence." Interdependence requires that you're both independent and dependent; that means you create sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends.

    Don't lose the things that are most important to you, and

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  • Life After Divorce: How to Move Past the Hurt

    Life After DivorceLife After Divorce

    For most women the end of a marriage feels like starting life completely over from scratch. So although it might feel strange, divorce can ultimately become the "best, worst thing" that ever happens.

    And, armed with that mindset, life after divorce can signal a new beginning. One day, your marriage will be a thing of your past; even though you may share things like children, pets, homes, and in some cases financial responsibilities, you will be able to move past it.

    The typical "adjustment period" can take anywhere from one to five years and includes the following phases: physical separation, breaking free from your past, revealing and then releasing the old wounds and hurts, forgiving your ex and yourself, creating the life you love, rejuvenation, and then beginning to entertain the idea of dating and inviting a new man into your life.

    In case you need some help with the steps you need to take in your life after divorce head on and move past the hurt, here at

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  • The Key to Getting Past Your Breakup


    We've all been there. You just broke up with a boyfriend, husband, or long-term partner. Whether you thought he was The One, or the one for the year or month, it never feels good.

    Breakups are hard because they represent the loss of a shared commitment. Even breakups that make logical sense are still emotionally painful. Moving on can be hard, but there are essential steps to getting past your breakup that can ensure it takes less time to get from breakdown to breakthrough!

    Here is the Dating with Dignity "Break Over" 4-Step Program to get past your breakup today!

    Step 1: Give yourself permission to grieve the loss of your relationship. Even if it was the "right choice," it still sucks.

    Whether it's in your journal or talking with your sister, expressing how you're feeling will help you feel less alone. However, this doesn't mean that you should dwell on these negative feelings forever. You also need to remember that the end goal of your grief process should be

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  • How to Get Him to Propose

    Ready to get engaged? Learn how to get him to propose--without compromising your needs or scaring him away.

    Are you in a long-term relationship with someone and want to know how you could get him to propose marriage? If you've already read Does He Want to Marry Me? The Dating with Dignity Guide to Getting Engaged and are wondering if there are any steps you can take to get him to go to the next step, you've come to the right place.

    One thing is certain: dropping hints is NOT a good way to get him to propose. At Dating with Dignity we call this "leaking." When a woman "leaks" without being direct, it can actually push a man away. Most men are on their own timeline and internally need to make darn sure they're ready before popping the question. The reason? Although we might think that if he's found " the one" there should be no question about whether he wants to marry you, he has to be READY in the way that he personally defines "ready."

    So how to get him to propose?

    Our friends at Glamour have suggested that you bake him a chicken. Here at Dating with Dignity, we have some

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  • What Men Want in a Relationship

    What Men Want in a RelationshipWhat Men Want in a Relationship

    What DO men want in a relationship? It's an age-old question. If you've already read "Dating with Dignity's Guide to What Men Really Want: Three Myths and Three Truths to Stop Wondering Today!", you're headed in the right direction. The problem is, women think the obvious answer to this important question is, well, sex and dinner. While those are two lovely components of a relationship, however, mature, emotionally available men want other things in a relationship as well.

    What follows are the Dating with Dignity "Hit Parade" of the Top Three Things Grown Up Men Want in a Healthy Relationship:

    1. Respect. Period. Men want to be your hero. (Which, in the 21st century, can be challenging to a woman who doesn't really "need" a hero.) That said, it's important for you to find opportunities to show respect to the man you care about. Whether it's through a juicy compliment or a handwritten Post-it note that says, "Babe, loved the way you handled that customer service rep

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  • There are a few surefire signs that your man is in it to win it–and that means winning your hand in marriage. Here are four signs he wants to commit for the long haul.A quick quiz for all you Dignity Daters out there who are curious if the man you're dating wants to marry you. Do you find yourself wondering "Does he want to marry me?" regularly? After one or two years together (or maybe three or four!), it's natural for you to start thinking about the "M" word…

    That's right: marriage. If you're truly questioning if your man wants to marry you, do make sure you pay attention to his actions. For those who are genuinely confused (And for good reason, as these men we speak of can be very confusing!), here is the Dating with Dignity Guide to Getting Engaged.

    There are a few surefire signs that your man is in it to win it-and that means winning your hand in marriage. Here are four signs he wants to commit for the long haul:

    1. He includes you in his future plans

    If your boyfriend can plan only ahead a few days, chances are he might not see you in his permanent future. A man who plans to spend the rest of his life with someone will be okay with (and

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  • What Men Really Want

    It's easy to misinterpret what men really want. Learn the truth behind some common myths and find out what men really want.It's easy to misinterpret what men really want. Whether it be what they want from a woman, or from a relationship, the movies, media and our girlfriends give us mixed message that leave Dignity Daters confused, frustrated and possibly even making tragic dating mistakes that leave them stuck in their romantic rut.

    Today we'll dispel some common myths in the "Dating with Dignity Guide to What Men Really Want: Three Myths and Three Truths to Stop Wondering Today!"

    Myth: Men want a quiet, demure woman who is amenable to their needs. Truth: Men really want a happy, confident, communicative woman who is loving and kind.
    We sometimes mistakenly think that a man wants us to agree with everything he says. NOT TRUE, Dignity Daters. What's more, contrary to popular belief, men also cannot simply read your mind or guess what you truly want based on your "umphhs, silence, cold shoulder, eye-roll, or door slam."
    Males and females communicate differently. So when you're in a relationship with a

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