Blog Posts by Liz Brody

  • When men choke women—the shocking truth

    Rihanna knows what it feels like. Brooke Mueller and Tila Tequila too. Your lover's in a rage, his hands at your throat, fingers digging in, making it hard to breathe. Maybe you lose consciousness. Rihanna, says she did.

    But when a man tries to choke you, is it a crime?

    That's a very good question, and one I give a New York Times Op-Ed three cheers for raising. Because the answer, in many cases, is: No. For example, choking-and by the way, that's sugar coating it; the correct word is "strangling"-is not a felony in New York unless there's evidence of physical injury. The problem is, while it takes only 10 seconds for a man to squeeze a woman's neck hard enough to make her pass out, and minutes to kill her, the San Diego's DA's office found that 62 percent of the time there are no visible signs. Thanks to what authors Dorchen Leidholdt and Jane Manning call the "choking loophole," only about half of the states in our country have laws specifically addressing non-fatal strangulation.

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  • The Love Ref: 6 Little Insights that could save your marriage

    "Honey, get your dead, stuffed dog out of the living room!"

    What a relief, we finally know we're right on this one. Thanks Jer.

    I won't rehash, or rather re-gnash, Jerry Seinfeld's new show, The Marriage Ref, because numerous reviewers have already mauled it toward early TV death (here, judge the first episode for yourself). But what if, instead of couples arguing about keeping his taxidermied Boston terrier in the house, we had a show about real conflicts and winning insights?

    Here's a preview, featuring spouses in the trenches sharing their best love Eurekas-those ordinary moments of genius that have helped turn their relationships into long running hits:

    What drives you crazy: Your partner takes forever to get to the point-and no doubt he's made it before. You can see it coming for miles.

    Love Light Bulb: This is from Mike Dougherty, a dog show judge and kennel owner in San Diego, who's been married 7 years: "I'll think I know where my wife is going, so I jump in

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  • Birth control 101: 7 ways to ensure better condom safety

    "Uh, it broke."

    I can think of more than a few sentences I'd rather not hear after having sex ("What's your name again?" is right up there), but pride aside, finding out that your birth control has just failed is probably the worst-not to mention the scariest.

    However, these rip-and-slip mishaps are more common than you'd think. While this isn't the kind of detail people are anxious to share with inquiring researchers, according to a study by the Kinsey Institute, if you don't use condoms properly (not pinching the tip before unrolling, for example, or catching the latex on a diamond ring), you can expect them to break-at a rate of 15 percent.

    But what about when you do use them correctly, and they still tear (more like 2 or 3 percent of the time, according to studies)?

    Nick White, Technical Risk Director for SSL International, which makes the Durex brand, decided to find out. After he and two other researchers examined almost 1,000 returned torn condoms, they discovered that

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  • 3 Important Questions to Ask on a First Date

    What a fairy tale-His and Hers Olympic Gold Medals! But the romance of dark-eyed skating stud Evan Lysacek and flaxen-haired gymnast Nastia Liukin was so speedy, it may have broken a record. On Monday morning they were seeing each (by her account), by evening it was all in her head (by his). "I'm single," he told ET. "I'm lonely."
    Nastia, poor thing, will bounce back (with a perfect 10, no doubt), but I felt such a creepy sense of deja vu, I started dialing up experts: Hi, quick question: What are the three most important things to ask on a first date? So let me share. If you're tired of taking emotional spills, find your dating style, and write these questions down:

    YOUR DATING STYLE: Let's see what happens

    "On a first date, you don't want to grill him," says psychologist Diana Kirschner, PhD, Today Show regular (check out her Date Him or Dump Him quiz) and author of Love in 90 Days. "The idea is to get him talking, and then read between the lines." Her top three questions:


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