Blog Posts by NoGamesLove

  • Holiday Gift Guide: What to Buy Your Guy

    By "NoGamesLove" Dating Coach Laurel House

    Whether you have been dating for a few weeks or months, you have a long distance love, or you're in a longterm relationship, it can be difficult to decide what to get your guy. This gift guide will make it easier.


    Laurel House is an international Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, MTV's MADE "It Girl" Coach, 4x published Lifestyle Author, and a go-to Expert on E! News. She recently sold her 5th book "Screwing The Rules: The No-Games Guide to Love," which will be released in December 2014 with Running Press.

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  • The Make or Break Vacation Date

    by NoGamesLove Dating Coach Laurel House

    The Make or Break DateThe Make or Break Date

    So you recently started dating a new guy and he seems different from the others. You have great chemistry, he makes you laugh, your conversations are engaging… You agree to be exclusive, cut the line with all of the other guys you were persuing, even ended it with the men on the burner. Still, you have been down this road before and as soon as the façade is dropped and he reveals his real side, suddenly this match seems less made in heaven and more made in momentary fantasy.

    Instead of wasting time waiting until the other shoe drops or he lets down his guard and exposes his true colors, create an environment that encourages transparency- one that isn't about being "on" all the time, but is instead about being real. Go on vacation. You learn A LOT about a person when traveling together:

    -What are their habits?

    -How high maintenance are they?

    -How long does it take them to get ready?

    -Are they moody in the morning?

    -If things

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  • Vegas: A Girl’s Getaway

    by NoGamesLove dating coach Laurel House

    Girls GetawayLas Vegas, to me, has always represented exactly what it's most proud of "the city of Sin" where "what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas." And that's not my thing. Not that I'm a pure "good girl." I definitely have a bad side. I just prefer express it in other ways than hooking up with random people, being teased by cheap grinding in strip club, losing money at the slots, or partying in packed clubs until I'm so tired I feel nauseous and wake up with a massive hangover that is "best" remedied with the hair of the dog (and memories that I'd love to forget).

    Problem is: my anti-Vegas pretension has prevented me from enjoying the non-sinful experiences that the city has to offer.


    Just because you're going to Vegas doesn't mean that you have to "do it."

    Spa'ing + glamour + dining + adventure + relaxation + fun = my ideal getaway. Turns out, Vegas is the ultimate destination for all 6 of my ultimate vacation

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  • Have a Summer Love that Lasts

    by NoGamesLove Dating Coach Laurel House

    Couple on the beachCouple on the beachJust because it's a "Summer love," doesn't mean it has to end in the Fall. Turn a hot beachy romance into an enduring relationship by getting raw, dropping the pretense and being true to yourself. Tear down those walls and let true love in!

    It's easy to find a hot chick, a wealthy guy, someone who has a nice car, a good job, a quick wit, someone who makes you laugh. You know what's hard to find? Someone who you connect with on a deep level, someone who you are comfortable with, who calms you, who challenges you and uplifts you- someone who gets you. In order to find that, you have to be real. The summer is the perfect opportunity to do that.


    What's great about summer love is that your inhibitions are down, your energy is up and the heat is on. You are also more available to be vulnerable and get raw- in the emotional sense. You are feeling free'er, you aren't as stressed, some of your walls have come down- melted down in

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  • 10 Love Lessons from "The Bachelorette": Final Rose

    by NoGamesLove Dating Coach Laurel House

    Final RoseFinal Rose

    It's strange how a reality TV show can help you to get real about your life, reflecting on your own mistakes, even instigating change. For me, this final episode of The Bachelorette had a surprisingly profound impact. It was especially surprising to me because this wasn't one of my favorite seasons. Still, I really felt Desiree's pain, understood her struggle and related to her desire of having that intense intoxicating chemistry. Like Desiree, I am an utterly hopeless romantic. I believe in the fairytale too. But sometimes we are led astray. And that can happen as a result of many things: bad people, bad intentions, ulterior motives, misguided beliefs, deception, an attempt to do "the right thing" or the thing that "makes sense," and sometimes even by our own fantasies. What I noticed from the episode, may be different from what you saw. But you extract the lessons that you need to see, right?

    Here are 10 things that I realized about

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  • Getting Back with an Ex? 10 Mistakes I Made that You Shouldn't

    By NoGamesLove Coach Laurel House

    Dating Coach Laurel HouseAdam Levine is engaged! 3 weeks after getting back with his ex, he proposed. But does that happen in the real world. Did they address the reason for the breakup? Have they healed from the distrust that occurs from the simple act of leaving?

    When getting back with your ex, you need to realize that this is not a new rosy relationship. Whether it was an issue of cheating, losing interest, bad timing, or something else, you broke up because you were broken, not bent. Before you can move forward, you have to move back and address the issues, fix the break, and regain trust.

    But here's where it gets tricky, even the sheer act of leaving creates distrust because you have created an unstable environment. How does he know that you won't pick up and leave again, or vice versa. How does he know that when times get tough or you don't get what you want, that you won't just ditch him again? If you don't have trust in a relationship, you don't have anything.


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  • 10 Ways to Tell If He's Using You

    by Dating Coach Laurel House

    How do you know if he's into you or into something else that you offer (ie: your body, money, dinner, connections, or even your laundry machine)? Here are 10 signs to look out for. Of course, just because your guy exhibits one of these signs doesn't mean he's using you. But sometimes we have our blinders on when it comes to love and we refuse to see the red flags no matter how obvious or numerous they are...

    Real or Faking It?1. Listen To Your Gut

    Yes that little voice in your head that is giving you warnings, that's your natural instincts. Your subconscious might be picking up subtle signs that your mind and heart are too excited to notice.

    2. He Doesn't Make Much Of An Effort

    He sees you when it's convenient for him (like when you go over to his house or meet him out with his friends). But he doesn't put much effort into making the connection.

    3. He Doesn't Pay

    If you seem to always be shelling out the cash for the dinner, movie tickets, cabs,

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  • Why You Should Fly Your Red Flags

    by Dating Coach Laurel House

    First Date TipsFirst Date TipsLooking for love? Craving a real connection? Sick of the games? Then stop playing them.

    You might not even realize the games you play. You may think that you are just abiding by "the rules," following the conventional dating expectations that dictate when you should call, not call, make yourself available, pretend to be busy, and tip toe around the truth… which isn't lying, it's just not being exactly transparent. Well screw the rules! It's time to get real. This new column is the no-games approach to dating that will help you break down your barriers, be your authentic self, and step out your strategy to finally meet "the"one, as opposed to just another "some"one.

    On your first date, don't stick with "safe" subjects like your career, your dog, and your favorite travel spots. Get raw! Open up. Share something about yourself. That's the purpose of the first date right? To figure out if there is chemistry, if you're a potential fit, if you share

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  • Refresh Your Space (on a Budget), and Your Life Will Follow

    by "QuickieChick's Cheat Sheet" Author Laurel House

    A Backyard SanctuaryA Backyard SanctuaryIt's said that your living space is a reflection of your life. If both are a bit stale, it might be time to hit the "refresh" button. And while a new sofa, more modern duvet, or even a new apartment are nice, you might be surprised by how dramatically a fresh perspective can transform all areas of your existence, breathing fresh life into your relationships, career, and perspective.

    -You no longer love (or even like) your career,

    -Your relationship isn't working,

    -Your energy is "eh,"

    -or You simply need to feel re-inspired…

    change your space and your life will follow.

    Even if you feel like your back is up against a wall and the unhealthy habits that you are stuck in give you the sensation of spiraling out of control, it may sound trite but a simple change of environment can reset your world. That's what happened to me.

    *Love: After being on-and-off for entirely too many toxic years with my

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  • How-To Have a Summer Fling or Vacation Romance

    by Dating Expert Laurel House

    Romantic Thriller

    It's summer time! Inhibitions are down, energy is up, you're strutting in less clothes, feeling natural and free, and the heat is on… which can lead to quick and easy flings. And while those quick love-like romances may be fun, you don't want them to leave you reeling in the end (when it ends), or putting a damper on your relaxed carefree days. Here's how to keep your sumer lovin' hot but still safe and not too heavy.

    1. DANGER RADAR- You might feel free but you still have to have your Danger Radar on alert.

    If you find yourself in a situation that you don't want to be in or that you are uncomfortable in, be honest. You can be sweet and still strong and unwavering.

    2. ASK PRE-QUALIFYING QUESTIONS- Just because it's a summer love doesn't mean it's ok to date whoever and do whatever. Ask pre-qualifying questions that reveal who this guy (or girl) is. You don't want to be conned, played, or mislead.


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