• by ScrewingTheRules Dating Coach Laurel House


    Miley Cyrus' "Wrecking Ball" was a huge hit.
    But it also has some solid advice when it comes to dating and relationships.

    Courtesy of Instagram @MileyCyrusCourtesy of Instagram @MileyCyrusIn fact, the struggles that she talks about in the song are common mistakes that both men and women make. Her moment of clarity is what is actually quite profound… whether she actually wrote the lyrics, I don't know. But she clearly felt them. And so have millions of fans. Here are the lyrics, then I will break down what seems to be the meaning…
    "I came in like a wrecking ball"
    "all I wanted was to break your walls."
    "all you ever did was wreck me"
    "I just wanted you to let me in, and instead of using force, I guess I should have let you in."

    The harder I tried to break you, the more you pushed back and fortified your resolve against my force. I exhausted myself by slamming up against an impenetrable wall.

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  • Nightmare

    Other people's dreams are never interesting…except when they're about sex. Each week, EMandLO.com dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

    My boyfriend and I had been arguing all night. Sometime around 4 am, going on 5, we both had a nightmare and addressed each other about it around 8 in the morning. We weren't in the same place, he was home and I was home. I find it so ironic how we had the same dream (when we weren't even around each other) let alone more ironic how we woke up at the same time. His dream was that he got jumped. My dream was that these kids he had altercations with were outside my house begging him to come out & pulled out guns but the cops came. Is this symbolizing it's gonna come true? I'm scared, I'm thinking about visiting a fortune teller. Please help!

    Lauri: Oh for goodness sake, save

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  • By: Ivy Jacobson for TheKnot.com

    There's at least one time in a celebrity's life when they aren't the star of the show, and that's at their sibling's wedding - but even then, they still manage to gorgeously stand out. Hey, it's good to have camera-ready bridesmaids, right? In honor of National Siblings Day, we rounded up eight of our favorite ladies who look just as pretty on an aisle runner as they do on a red carpet:

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  • By: Ivy Jacobson for TheKnot.com

    In Touch WeeklyThe Real Housewives of Atlanta star Kandi Burruss never does anything halfway, so when she and longtime boyfriend Todd Tucker got married on April 4, their wedding was a seriously glamorous affair - complete with a $20,000 wedding dress!

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    "The whole thing was like a fairy tale!" Kandi told In Touch. "This is one of the best days of my life. And to have just had the wedding of my dreams, it's all been so beautiful. Now it's time to party!"

    Here are the five most important things you need to know from the reality star's lavish wedding:

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    1. The wedding took place in Atlanta (where else?) at the Le Fais Do-Do event space with 300 guests present.

    2. Kandi's wedding dress was a $20,000 custom-made Reco Chapple gown with a 12-foot train of feathers. To make an even bigger splash, Kandi emerged from a wall made of ostrich feathers before

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  • For about 20 percent of couples, there's no obvious reason why it's taking so long to conceive. We've looked beyond the usual suspects: stress, coffee, cigarettes, bad timing, blockages...and birthdays.
    By Jena Pincott

    Photo: ThinkstockYou have the universal blood type.

    First off: There's no big red flag here. Forty-four percent of us have type O blood, and most have no trouble conceiving. But a study at Yale University School of Medicine got our attention when it found that, among female fertility patients in their 30s, those with type O were twice as likely as other blood types to have a hormone profile that made their ovaries seem older than their age. As a group, their FSH (follicle-stimulating hormone) levels more often passed a threshold (>10 mIU/ml) that suggests a lower egg reserve.

    The lesson: "Blood type serves only as an alert--it's not a risk factor," stresses Lubna Pal, MD, the study's senior author and a researcher in reproductive endocrinology, who doesn't want healthy

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  • Why I Stopped Using the Silent Treatment Against My HusbandWhy I Stopped Using the Silent Treatment Against My HusbandWhen we first got married, it's quite possible that I was the worst wife on the planet.

    Granted, we were pretty young when we got married - barely 21 - but aside from the fact that we were young, I had a lot to learn.

    It may have stemmed from the dynamics in my family growing up, as all good love stories go, of course, but I never really learned how to properly "fight." In our house, it was a lot of hurt feelings, emotions brushed under the rug, cold shoulders, and then, finally, when the tension moved from "simmer" to "burn," a giant, violent explosion.

    No one is perfect of course, but looking back, I can see how unhealthy my version of dealing with conflict was.

    And of course, like a dowry from the blushing bride, I was only too happy to bring my conflict baggage straight into the sacred bond of our marriage.

    My favorite form of fighting in those turbulent early years?

    The silent treatment.

    I'm not sure what I thought was so brilliant about the use of the

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  • by ScrewingTheRules Dating Coach Laurel House

    #2 After a drunk make out you regret and don't want to pursue#2 After a drunk make out you regret and don't want to pursue

    Texting is a passive form of communication. Despite the often immediate gratification nature, when texting you don't have to invest much into each message. You can let someone know that you are thinking about them, without having to commit to a 10 minute call. You can confirm a date, without having to interrupt their day. You can also flirt, engage in witty banter, and get to know someone's off the cuff personality.

    But how do you use it to deliver important information… when it comes to dating? Here are 5 responses to common dating texts:

    1. After an awesome date where you're really hoping to see him again
    "Thank you so much for last night. Your upcoming trip to Bali sounds like a blast! Before you go out there and get caffeinated by arguably the best coffee on Earth, I would love to see you again."
    Why: Men are like dogs (in a very good way), they need to be rewarded for good behavior. He took you out and paid (yes, he

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  • 7 Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating — Post-Divorce7 Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating — Post-DivorceOk, so you're 40+ years old, divorced with a kid or two (or possibly more - God bless you!), and you have just awoken to the realization that you're single, too.

    Let's face it: Dating after divorce is really weird. And I know getting divorced is weird enough without having to add, "Finding another mate to fill up your loneliness," to your already long to-do list that you're probably doing alone.

    For a while, you went out and did all the things people told you to do: You found a hobby, you took a yoga class, you went on a trip around the world - or you stayed home and wished you had done all of the above. But the truth is, we like companionship. We were built to "co-stuff" - you know, like co-going to a movie, co-going to a concert, co-walking on the beach and looking at the sunset. And if we're being honest, it's a lot more fun to co-stuff with a guy or a gal that we're actually into. My mom and my girlfriends are fun, but come on - snuggling up on the beach is way more fun with

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  • 8 Signs You're in a Marriage of Equals

    You know it as well as we do: A well-balanced union is hardly as simple as divvying up chores--though it's certainly nice when he picks up a vacuum. It's about being able to rely on each other in every situation. By Brie Schwartz, REDBOOK.

    Ben may have famously said marriage is work, but behind the scenes, Jen told US Weekly that they talk through each movie role to make sure it's what's best for the whole fam.1. You're each other's biggest cheerleader. That may not mean hashing out every single thing that went on in your day, but you better believe your fridge is covered with as many of your accomplishments as those of your kids. That marathon bib deserves to be seen!

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    2. If you've had an epically bad day and need some pampering accompanied by a pep talk, he'd sit with you at the salon while your nails dried. Not that you'd ask him to, but he would. And it still counts if he complains about the weird fumes.

    3. He cooks, you clean, or the other way around. As long as you both get to eat, who cares about traditional gender roles? You've totally overhauled the antiquated notion that women should

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  • by Gena Kaufman

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    Somewhere between the first few butterfly-inducing dates and the committed-for-life stage, there's the period of wondering if you're both on the same page about how serious you feel about a future together. If you're not quite at the point of That Talk but you're looking for a few clues you're heading in that direction, here are some signs he's in it for the long haul as your relationship progresses.

    He takes you on nondrinking dates. Nothing wrong with a few cocktails on dates, whether you've been out twice or for 20 years. But the beginning of a relationship tends to be pretty socially lubricated, so when he starts asking you to hang out in broad daylight without a beer, he's getting comfortable with you.

    He expects that you have plans even when you don't make them. In the beginning, he asks, "What are your plans for this weekend?" to see if you're available. When he's serious, he asks, "What are our plans for this weekend?" because he just assumes you'll want

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