When Laura Duvelius brought home Ellie, the 2-year-old girl she had adopted from the Ukraine in 2004, she noticed that the girl was hoarding food. Duvelius soon uncovered missing fruit, granola bars, and, in one smelly case, smoked salmon the toddler had stashed under the mattress and in a closet.
Perplexed, the 39-year-old logged on to a Yahoo group on adoptions looking for help and got the advice she needed. The solution: She had to take all nonperishable food in her pantry, place it on the bottom shelf and remove the door. That worked.
“Ellie just needed to know it was and there and that she was safe,” Duvelius tells Yahoo Shine, who notes that her daughter, who lives with Duvelius; her husband, Alex; and their 12-year-old son, Drew in Silver Springs, Maryland, is now a healthy 10-year-old who loves to cook.
That kind of parenting skill is not exactly intuitive, says Adam Pertman, president of the Donaldson Adoption Institute (DAI) and author of “Adoption Nation.” A recent reportRead More »from Experts on Declining International Adoptions: Do Them Differently