How to Tell if You're With the Wrong Guy

Are you in love with him? Or are you just in love with the idea of him? In Holly Peterson's new book "The Idea of Him," the protagonist tackles those tough questions.

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It's a situation familiar to many women. "I think when we go after people, we go after them for a bunch of reasons. Very often it's emotional needs that we're fulfilling," Holly says. "So sometimes we look for the idea of someone to fulfill certain needs we have, before we look at that reality of who that person is across the dinner table from us."

Holly says people get so attached to the idea of someone that they don't let themselves realize that the person isn't quite right.

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So how can you tell if you're on the right track? "I think the central question is, 'Would you rather do something … with this person or with your gay best friend?'" Holly says. If you're choosing friends over you significant other because "he's uptight or he's not as fun," that's a red flag. "Love is about really wanting to share everything with someone else."

To find out why Holly thinks more people should hire "mannies" to watch their kids, check out this episode of "Daily Shot."