Have you just met someone new and started to think about a relationship? Have you checked his Facebook profile? Gone are the days when you have to make a leap of faith or "ask around" about someone you're just starting to date in order to figure out what kind of person he is. Now, you can just go right to the source! Here are four things a guy's profile can tell you when you're just starting to get to know him.
What his relationships with other women are like
If there are other women in his life - platonic friends, ex-girlfriends, or even his mother - his Facebook page can tell you about his relationships with them. Is he uncomfortably flirtatious with others? Maybe he's hanging onto some extra baggage, or perhaps you'd have too much "competition" if the two of you were in a relationship. Whatever the case may be, the nature and frequency of Facebook posts to and from other women scream volumes about what your future might look like.
A peek into his sense of humor
Facebook can be an excellent platform for showcasing a sense of humor. Whether he's sharing an article he finds funny, recording a humorous daily observation, or posting witty comments on his friends' walls, you can tell from his Facebook interactions whether you "get" and enjoy his sense of humor. On the flip side, take a look at whether he's responding positively to your funny posts. If not, you might be laughing to yourself more often than you'd like in your relationship.
How private or public he keeps his life
Some folks use Facebook as a personal diary, posting every thought that enters their minds. Others "lurk" and rarely post on their own Facebook profiles. Still others post regularly but are selective about what is Facebook-worthy and what is better left to "real life." I'm not suggesting that one of these methods of using Facebook is better than the others, but make sure his style jives with yours. If he's particularly open with his Facebook postings, you might later find yourself having something personal about yourself shared with the Facebook world. If he's rarely active, you might be given fewer Facebook "shout-outs" than you'd prefer in a relationship.
How much time he spends on Facebook
Perhaps the most important thing you can learn from his Facebook profile is exactly how much time he spends on Facebook. If he seems to be updating and interacting with others all day long, you will probably be competing with his phone or computer for attention all day long. If he never spends any time on Facebook, maybe he has no friends to interact with or so much of a life outside Facebook that you will have trouble fitting in.
Don't overanalyze his Facebook profile, but you won't regret at least giving it a thorough once-over. Since Facebook has become so ingrained in our culture, it can really shed some light onto the nature of a person's social life.
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