Has a Guy Ever Made You Feel Bad About Your Body?
By Kate Sullivan, Allure magazine
Last week the third season of Jersey Shore premiered, bringing with it news that Jenny "J Woww" Farley's ex-boyfriend Tom Lippolis is threatening to sell naked pictures of the reality star from before her second round of plastic surgeries (a second breast augmentation and cellulite treatments).
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Lippolis is acting like this is all business, telling Radar Online that he's only holding the photos over her head until she pays his management fees. But in describing the images, he says her breasts are "deformed" and that she has "tons" of cellulite. As we reported in 2009, the then-23-year-old J Woww had cellulite treatments before taping the show, so clearly that was something she was self-conscious about, and probably before her relationship with Lippolis. But while Lippolis might not have spawned her negative feelings about her body at that time, it was disturbing to read his cruel comments. All this coming from a man who supposedly used to care about her. One hopes that at the very least, he did not say these things to J Woww during their relationship.
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Even when it's not mean-spirited, commenting on (while not complimenting) a significant other's looks is complicated. Telling someone you care about that maybe they should hit the gym more often, or cut their long hair (or their g----- toenails!), or that they've lost too much weight on a new diet-will sound harsh, even if it's done with love. But comments that go beyond that-statements like "You're fat" or "You're gross" or "You're deformed" are simply abusive. (To find out more about verbal abuse, check out these articles from Psychology Today. If you or someone you know is an abusive relationship, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or visit their website thehotline.org. If your computer use might be monitored, call the number.)
Has your partner ever made you feel bad about your body, even to a lesser degree?
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