20 Kinky Things You so Can Do

By Ronnie Koenig

You may have to leave your comfort zone to try some of these very naughty deeds but the reward will be a renewed interest in your partner and pleasure that's off the charts!

Get Spanked
Nothing makes a person feel naughtier than being bent over their lover's knee (think about that scene in Secretary with Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader!).

"If you decide to receive a nice little spank, be open to it," says Sadie Allison, Ph.D., founder of TickleKitty.com and author of Tickle My Tush: Mild-to-Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty. "This means letting go of maybe feeling silly, and engaging in the fun by making sounds of lust and passion with each spank. Or play with your partner by teasing him and saying things like, 'Is that all you got?'"

Let Him Tie You Up
Many women find taking the submissive role during sex to be a major turn-on (hello, 50 Shades of Grey). The best thing about this game is that there is no plot, script or planning necessary. Just whip out a scarf, some tape, a belt and let him take over. The rest will follow.
"If you're just starting out at bondage fun, take baby steps and make sure there is 100 percent trust if you're going to be tied up," says Allison. "Also, create a 'safe word' with your lover so he knows that if/when you use it, that means stop immediately."

Watch Porn Together
Choose a female-friendly film -- that means one with an enticing title, a silly story line or simply pick one with actors that you find attractive!
"Understand you're watching an erotic video for both your pleasure. So unwind, relax and enjoy," says Allison. "And if your man gets excited by what he sees, let it turn you on instead of making you feel insecure or jealous."
Try to watch the entire film. Wait until you are both bursting at the seams before you satisfy each other's urges…and maybe recreate what you just saw.

Film It
Just knowing that the camera is capturing your every move can make sex even hotter -- even if you erase the evidence without ever watching it.
"Just make sure you have control of the footage at all times and can feel safe that it's kept private and secure," says Allison.

Role Play (Naughty Nurse or Sexy Librarian?)
Being someone else during sex is a way of giving yourself permission to act out your wildest fantasies and be just a little bit sluttier than you are in real life.
"Keep it simple to start," says Allison. "Choose a character you can get into and feel comfortable with playing out. Even better, have him dress up too (if you're the librarian, he can be a male teacher at the school), so you're role playing and creating an act together."
But, you don't necessarily need costumes or a lot of props to get started. The pool cleaner and the housewife or the hot UPS guy and the woman waiting for his package are old standbys that require little dress up. Also try to borrow roles from the movies (be a Bond girl to his James or pretend you're Lara Croft and raid his treasure).

Go Behind the Scenes (Even if You Aren't Going All the Way!)
The anal area can be an extremely hot spot for both men and women. For many people, just knowing that it's a forbidden zone makes it erotic.
"The entire butt is an erogenous zone that is all too often ignored," says Allison. "Try massaging the anus' surface with your thumb-pads -- that alone can take him to the moon! But no matter how far you explore, always, always use lube."

Put a Mirror Next to Your Bed (or Above It)
Watching yourselves in a mirror can take sex from ho-hum to downright kinky because there's no hiding from what you're doing.
"Enjoy the action, watch how your bodies move, relish the way your face expresses pleasure," says Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. "Just don't get caught up in obsessing about what parts of your body you may consider imperfect."

Be Remote Controlled
Put on a vibrating toy before going out in public and hand him the remote control. Your pleasure is now literally in his hands the rest of your time out. You have no choice but to give into it.

"Surrendering to pleasure can amplify your arousal in ways that you never imagined," says Levine. "Relinquish control of the experience and you'll likely have an amazing orgasm...or multiple ones." If not while you're out, definitely when you get home.

Make It a Happy Ending
There's something very sexy about just focusing on one form of pleasure-giving (instead of making sure your every move is tit-for-tat). Give him a massage and end it with a gesture that's all about pleasing him.
"Find a position that's comfortable for you so you can focus on your technique," says Allison. "Almost any man will enjoy a two-handed stroke, and some sexy eye-gazing and enthusiasm. Be sure to use enough lube for his comfort and preferred friction."

Find Your G-Spot Together
For many women, this area, when stimulated during sex, is an erogenous zone. Start your exploration by having him feel for it with his finger an inch or two inside you, on the front wall of the vagina. It is a slightly rough patch. If you feel adventurous, his G-spot is in a similar spot in the anus. Up to you!
"This takes practice, so be open and patient with yourself," says Allison. "Let it be an adventure as you explore with no pressure to 'find it'. And, G-spot touch is not for everybody, so if you don't enjoy it, that's okay too."
To make your exploration sexy fun for the two of you (and less like a gyn exam) try any rear entry position during sex. This allows his penis to hit the front wall of your vagina and could possibly result in an orgasm like no other you've ever experienced!

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