8 Times You Should Say 'No'

The word 'No' can be very powerful. Use it.
The word 'No' can be very powerful. Use it.

It seems every young actress in Hollywood is scrambling to land the role of Anastasia in the movie version of Fifty Shades of Grey. But not Selena Gomez. In fact, she recently told reporters that if she were offered the role, she'd likely say no. We respect her for knowing what she wants-and doesn't want. And sometimes saying no might just save you from making a huge mistake. Like these girls:

By Amary Wiggin

"My aunt was training to be a hairdresser and asked my cousins and me to be her guinea pigs. Not wanting to hurt her feelings, I said I'd just gotten a haircut (lie), but my cousins agreed to do it. They all ended up with these hideous little-girl bobs. Everyone, including my aunt, was in tears. So glad I dodged that bullet." -Samantha B.

"A huge cable network tried to lure me away from my company, telling me I was the only person who was right for the job. I had a bad feeling about the way the CEO spoke to me about the offer, as if my questions weren't important. I turned him down in an email. Well, he accidentally hit 'reply' instead of forwarding it to his colleague-and I found out how he really felt about me. He wrote, 'On to the next one.' Clearly, I wasn't the only person he was considering after all." -Erica K.

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"My friends all bought a Groupon for skydiving and tried to convince me that it would be really fun. Being afraid of heights, I declined. Well, they survived the jump, but they said the instructors were really sketchy and unprepared, and the whole experience felt very bootleg. The moral? Stay away from discounts when your life is at stake." -Lauren P.

"One of my friends asked me to be in her wedding. I really wanted to, but being in grad school and paying off loans, I said no. She ended up calling off her wedding at the last minute! I'm so glad I didn't spend a fortune on travel expenses, a bridesmaid's dress, and other major costs for nothing." -Katherine E.

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"My best friend from high school was super controlling. Whenever I made plans with my new college friends, even if I invited her to come along, she'd get upset. Finally, she gave me an ultimatum: her or them. It hurt to sever ties with her, but it was worth it gaining a new group of friends who didn't feel the need to boss me around." -Kate G.

"One summer, a guy friend invited me to go tubing on his family's boat. There were jellyfish floating in the water, so I refused. He kept trying to convince me and said no until he gave up, called me "prissy" and got on the inner tube himself. When he eventually fell off, he got stung all over his body. Back on the boat, he hopped around shrieking in pain." -Heather R.

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"I dated the same guy all through college. When he went to grad school in California, he asked me to move cross-country to be with him. I wanted to-but my life was in New York, so even though my heart broke to do it I told tell him no. Our relationship ended up dissolving. The upside? I got into my dream acting school in New York, pursued my career - and fell in love with someone local." -Claire S.

"I had this job where my bosses treated me really badly. I finally worked up the nerve to quit, and they offered me a big raise to continue dealing with their horrible management style. It was tempting, but I stuck to my decision and left. I'm now working in a much saner environment where I'm actually learning skills that will further my career. Plus, no one treats me like I don't matter." -Rachel G.


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