This Year, Make New Year's REVolutions


By James Lane for BounceBack.com

As we say goodbye to 2011 and kick off 2012, our minds are racing with the same trite questions, the same as every year: What will I give up? What will my resolution be? How can I change myself for the better next year? I know you are thinking these because, well, I am too.


Every January, we reflect on the past year and notice the things we wish we would have done differently, the things we should have said, and the times we wish we didn't say anything. We remember the new and fresh people brought into our lives and we recall the ones who have left it.


For me, I try never to make resolutions because I am just setting myself up to fail. If I wanted to go to the gym three times a week, I should just go. I don't need the instance of a brand new year to energize myself to workout. If I wanted to change a relationship in my life, why not do it right now instead of waiting until a ball drops at midnight? I believe that most of us use the New Year as a crutch, a time when we "should" be trying to change ourselves when it wasn't convenient in the past.


So, instead of resolutions, I invite you to make revolutions, or changes, that will enhance you for the better this brand new year. These are things that cannot be forgotten or ignored within the first two weeks. They should be more like vows you make to yourself. Most importantly, these revolutions will not happen overnight, as any life changing promise shouldn't. It will take time, so patience is key.


A few that I have used in the past, and still refer to every day are: To living in each moment. Always being aware of what's going on and never taking anything for granted. To not settling for anything, or anybody, less than you're worth. To making each day count. To meeting a new person every day. To learn to forgive. To not sweat the small things life throws at you. To always see the cup half full, never half empty. To take chances whenever the opportunity strikes and to never doubt those chances. To always choose love over hate.


They were hard adjustments for me, and I am sure will be hard on most of you, too. But like I said before, these are ways to enhance your life, and more significantly, to enhance you. So toast to the past and the future, spend time with those you love, and wait for the change to come. Happy New Year!


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