10 Secrets To Attracting Men-- No Hard Work Required

For my most recent writing assignment, I have to list the qualities that men find most attractive in women when dating. One thing I'm good at is researching topics and reporting on them (hence my journalism background). Ironically, I am being paid to give advice on a subject I'm really clueless about. Don't get me wrong: many men have told me how "attractive" I am, and I have enough self confidence to know there's something about me that turns men on. When it comes to catching a man and keeping him, I have been met with failure multiple times. But I'm learning from my mistakes, and getting insider tips sure does help!

So, I offer you the fruits of my knowledge from my own experience and the information I've been given from experts on dating, relationships and the differences between men and women. Take each tip with a grain of salt (after all, I'm the messenger, not the messiah when it comes to relationships!).

1. Be confident. Nothing says "I'm sexy" to a man than a woman who knows who she is, what she wants, and goes into every situation with a cocky attitude that she "can't fail." After all, isn't that what's sexy about men, too?

2. Be unpredictable. Men love a challenge, mystery, and not knowing what is about to happen. Just when they think they have you figured out, do something different, and keep their interest by wondering what is next to come.

3. Be a good listener. Men have fragile egos, and they love when a woman hears them once they finally speak. Don't just listen, but put yourself in their shoes to sympathize. Yeah, now you're really warming up to him!

4. Be the dominant one. This goes back to #1, but also, in a flirty way, be in charge, be selective, and let him be the one to pursue you. I'm not saying put on the black leather and grab a whip-- although, that might come in handy later!

5. Be flexible. And no, I don't mean be a yoga expert or a gymnast. Nothing says "cool chick" more than a woman who can go with the flow and be understanding with a guy's needs. Fake it until you make it if you have to.

6. Be positive. Yes, become more like the cheerleaders in high school. There was a reason why the guys were more attracted to them in the first place: who doesn't want someone to just be "peppy" and turn the mood from boring to exciting! (It's really easy if you are already a positive person, by the way).

7. State your ground. Tell a man what your intentions are right away, whether it's holding off for a long term relationship, or having a one night stand. Men like a woman who knows what she wants and is honest about it. If you want to hold out for a committed relationship, he will respect you for not "settling" with any man that comes along.

8. Get pretty! That's sort of obvious. Men are visual creatures, and they like pretty things. Shave your legs, wash your hair, and put on those sexy panties. (He may not see them, but if you have confidence because you know you're wearing them, he'll probably catch on).

9. Be independent. This is another version of #1, only, have your "sh*t" together. Guys are immediately turned off by needy women, so showing that you can make it on your own will turn him on faster than running the faucet.

10. Resist his advances. You heard it. That is the number one rule to driving men crazy: holding back. A guy is nothing but a hunter, and the excitement lies in pursuing, catching and conquering his prey. Make him work for it, and he'll make you his most "prized" possession.