13 Things Your Oral Sex Technique is Missing

There's a lot to think about while you're doing it, so some tiny (but important) things may be slipping under your bj radar. There's a lot to think about while you're doing it, so some tiny (but important) things may be slipping under your …
By Loretta Folgers for HowAboutWe


For the most part, guys are delighted to receive a blow job -- so shelve any fears or insecurities you may have. That said, there's a lot to think about while you're doing it, so some tiny (but important) things may be slipping under your bj radar. Here's a little reminder of those things you may be forgetting about during oral sex.

To use the rest of your body.
Girls are often so focused on pleasuring a guy with their mouths that they forget to put their whole bodies (especially hips) into it. Remember when, in Dirty Dancing, Cynthia Rhode's character Penny told the women that "God wouldn't have given you maracas if he didn't want you to shake 'em!" She was NOT talking about blow jobs, but she might as WELL have been.


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Hands! If you're getting really into it, you may forget you have hands. But since you do, use them to stroke his shaft and cup his balls. It will feel good for him, and also allow you to give him the feeling you're going deeper than you are.

His balls in general.
Girls ignore guys' balls, but Lord knows why. Suck on them or play with them! (Here are 12 ways to do it.)

Believe it or not, his penis in general.
Some girls focus on the tip, but remember that there's a whole penis down there.

Mixing it up.
Do not always approach the blow job in the same way. Surprise him when he comes home from work or when he first wakes up. It's like my grandmother always used to say, "anytime is a good time for bj time." (She NEVER said that.)

He doesn't HAVE to finish.
Guys like to use oral sex as foreplay, too -- not necessarily as the main event.

Lick the meatus.
Yes -- the meatus. That's the incredibly-sensitive hole on the tip of his penis, and sadly, it's often ignored. Put medium pressure there with your tongue and he will go wild.


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Lube. Hey, if it tastes better down there, you are much more likely to do a better job. And they make some fabulous lube flavors. (UMM, LIKE WHISKEY.)

That spot:
The one between his testicles and the base of his penis. Suck lightly on it, it's very sensitive.

Give him something to do!
(With your nipples.) He shouldn't just stand there. Have him play with your nipples -- stroking or squeezing them, depending on your preference.


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Grip the ridge. When was the last time you paid attention to the ridge of his penis (the place where the tip meets the shaft)? Covering your teeth with your lips, place them around the ridge and apply some pressure, release and repeat.

He wants to check you out.
First of all, be naked. Second of all, if you're feeling adventurous, do it near a mirror so he can get a total, unhindered view.


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Use lots of saliva. Guys sometimes complain that their partner's mouth is too dry -- and that's an easy fix. Use your own saliva to keep things really wet. Don't worry about sloppiness -- now is not the time to worry about being a lady.