3 Signs Your Boss Is Secretly Hitting on You
You want your boss to like you, but not like you.
If he makes a few of these seemingly harmless moves, there's a good chance your boss wants to get it on.
1. He tells you about his life outside of work and constantly asks about yours.
These days we're all working crazy hours to pay the bills, and it's normal for your personal and office lives to overlap a bit. In most workplaces, it's pretty standard to go out and grab a drink or two after work and to dish about your weekend escapades with your co-workers on Monday morning. But when your boss starts to pry about who you're sleeping with or mentions that he's tired of going home to an empty bed (or the one with his wife in it), he's crossed the line. Find out why so many men hook up with their co-workers.
Here's how to deal: You don't have to answer any questions that give you the "uh-oh" feeling. Instead, wince and say, "Oh, it's really complicated." When he's the one giving you way TMI, try to end the conversation as quickly as possible by acting bored (it probably won't be that hard) and saying that you need to make a dent in your to-do list. Use these get-ahead tips to stay on top of you job.
2. He constantly calls you on your cell.
Sure, your boss needs to be able to get in touch with you when you're not at work, but if he's calling your cell late at night or on the weekend, he'd better have a damn good reason. Ask yourself if his calls and text messages are really pressing or if he is using his access to chat with you outside of work. You don't have to deal with a bully... even if he's your boss.
Here's how to deal: When your boss calls your personal number, treat it like you would any other work call. Instead of saying, "Hey, what's up," your voice should have the same all-business tone as if you're standing in the middle of a crowded office, even if you're really just watching The Hills and giving yourself a mani.
3. He constantly asks you (and only you) to work late.
Unless you are his personal assistant and this is truly part of your job description, then it's likely that he's inventing reasons to spend more time alone with you. There's a fine line between ordering takeout so the two of you can work on an actual task at night and being out on a first date. Suss out the situation by asking yourself if was really necessary for you log OT to finish up a project. Steal these success secrets to get ahead fast without longing insane hours.
Here's how to deal: This is tricky, but if you are regularly staying late and your gut is telling you it has more to do with his crush than your workload, it's time to have a discussion with your boss. Ask him if you can recruit another coworker to work with you on a few projects (that way if you have to stay late, at least you're not stuck alone with the creep). If you're under the impression he's singling you out because you're available, it may be time to mention your new (fake) boyfriend. Men generally lay off when they know a women is taken, so you'll only have to bring up the fact that your new guy looks exactly like Penn Badgley a few times before he gets the point. Actually, considering that your boss has probably never heard of Gossip Girl, you'd better make that George Clooney.
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