4 Ways Kate and Prince Wills Can Add Oomph to Newlywed Nooky
Even if the two of you have been busting bedsprings for years, marriage can bring your lust to a whole new level. Learn how to claim the best sex of your life.
By Jennifer Benjamin
Reportedly, one of the hottest trends these days for engaged couples is to declare sack sessions off-limits in the weeks before the wedding. The thinking: Banning booty guarantees that honeymoon sex will be as hot as possible. After all, if you're marrying someone you have dated for years or even lived with, chances are, the scorching sexual excitement you had when you first started banging headboards has probably been replaced with more sensual lovemaking.
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But you don't need to become a born-again virgin to get your groove back. Because, believe it or not, just being married can launch your lust life into the stratosphere. "You're starting a new chapter in your relationship, which gives you the kind of rush - physically and emotionally - that you had when you began dating," says Sandor Gardos, PhD, staff sexologist at mypleasure.com. Add the trust factor of a lifelong commitment to the mix, and you have a randy recipe that's so red-hot, even your swinging single friends will be jealous. To guarantee oh-God-yes! sex for years to come, add these tantalizing tips to your repertoire.
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Let Loose
You and your guy have probably done your fair share of X-rated experimenting. But still, there may be some naughty things you haven't been brave enough to bring up yet. Well, getting married gives you a sense of security, which allows you to divulge your desires and be yourself without worrying that your guy will prickle at a bedroom suggestion. "And when you're this bonded," says Gardos, "you're less self-conscious and better able to be fully immersed in the moment." Jody,* 34, realized how coming clean can send your libidos into overdrive when she finally fessed up about her favorite sex toy. "Matt and I were together for three years before we got married, but I never brought out my vibrator because I was afraid that he'd think I was trying to tell him that he sucked in bed, which was absolutely not true," Jody says. "But during the honeymoon, I figured, 'What the hell?' At first, he looked a little surprised, but he was game. Now we use it all the time, and our sex life is fantastic."
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This is also a prime time in your relationship to start developing horny habits to last a lifetime. "You want to set the framework now, at the beginning of your marriage, to ensure hot sex down the road," says Gardos. So relish in your newfound naughty comfort zone by taking a no-holds-barred approach in the bedroom: Yell, moan or scream at glass-shattering decibels. Tell him how you want him to touch you and where, and ask him to give you dirty directions, too. You could discover brain-altering bedroom moves that spark both your frisky fuses.
* Names have been changed.
Break the Rules
Some very misguided folks think that once a twosome gets hitched, their hands-all-over-each-other behavior should taper off. "Society expects married couples to be more serious and mature, and that expectation can have an effect on how newlyweds act toward each other," says Gardos. "But there is a thrill that comes from bucking expectations and acting like a brand-spanking-new duo...not husband and wife." Which is exactly the reason why you should kick convention on its big old fat ass and maul each other like a couple of horny teenagers on prom night. If you're out to dinner with friends and the urge to lay on some steamy PDAs strikes, give in. Or steal each other away for a short but oh-so-sweet interlude in the loo.
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Michelle, 26, discovered how titillating being bad is when she and her hubby had a stealthy sack session during a Sunday afternoon party at their place. "Kevin and I sneaked into the bedroom and went at it," she reveals. "We kept telling each other we should get back to our guests, but we couldn't tear ourselves apart." The icing on their quickie cake: "When we reemerged flushed and sweaty, we could tell by the smirks on everyone's faces that they knew exactly what we had been up to," she says. "That made it even sexier." But this gotta-have-it-now energy is about much more than just flaunting how hot you are for each other. "It's good to reaffirm your commitment to keeping that spark alive," says Gardos. "And the more fun you have with it, the more you stir up your lust." Adds Aline Zoldbrod, PhD, a sex and marriage therapist in Boston and author of Sex Talk, "In that first year of marriage, you're cementing the relationship and becoming more of a 'we.' By keeping it playful, you create an inside joke, making you essentially partners in crime."
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Capitalize on Your Confidence
There's nothing foxier than a chick with sensual self-esteem. And no doubt, after getting buffed, groomed, and pampered to perfection for your big day - and being bombarded by compliments about how gorgeous you look - you're in one helluva salacious mind-set. "Being a bride is like being the star of a show," says Zoldbrod. "It's a time in your life when your confidence is sky-high, which means you're feeling sexier than ever." So take advantage of your newly eroticized ego and flaunt some flesh. "When John and I returned from our honeymoon, I couldn't stop thinking about jumping him," recalls Jane, 26. "One night as I was making dinner and thinking about sex, as usual, I decided that it would be really hot if we ate together naked. Needless to say, it took John about three bites before he went straight for 'dessert.' That idea would never have even entered my mind before, but I'm so glad that we went for it. John and I basically spent that entire week without clothes on, and I loved it." If you need more proof that your bare derriere is worth displaying, remember that your husband is totally head over heels for you, perfect package or not. "It's so reassuring to know that your man has chosen to spend the rest of his life with you," says Julia Bourland, author of Hitched: The Go-Girl Guide to the First Year of Marriage. "He accepts you 100 percent, which means you can let go of those body-image issues that might have been plaguing you."
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Buh-Bye, Birth Control
One major, yet overlooked, benefit of wedded bliss? Tossing the condoms if you decide to conceive. You can't beat the mind-blowing, spine-tingling, all out euphoric sensation of skin-on-skin contact. Just ask Justine, 29: "I couldn't believe how amazing sex was the first time my husband and I did it without condoms, which was the only birth control we used before. I didn't think it would be that different, but it felt sooo wet and hot." Not to mention the fact that there's no mood-killing letdown when you have to take a breather and roll on the latex. Going condom-free also increases sexual chemistry - literally - according to a study conducted by Gordon Gallup, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Albany. "Semen contains testosterone and naturally occurring opiates like endorphins, which are absorbed into the woman's bloodstream and increase her sex drive," Gallup explains. But even if you've been pressing the flesh for a while, it's incredibly liberating - and erotic - when the two of you ditch all birth control and try to make it a threesome. "Knowing what your body can do brings out all kinds of sexy feelings like power, fertility and, above all, desirability," says Bourland. You're also free from any pleasure-wrecking pregnancy panic. "When Darren and I decided we were ready to have a baby, it felt like a huge weight had been lifted from our shoulders," says Maria, 33. "We were like 'Woo-hoo!' because getting knocked up was no longer a lingering fear. We could relax and just have fun." And that, after all, is what great sex is about, isn't it?
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To keep your guy guessing during your getaway, follow these naughty newlywed tips.
Get Him Airborne
Start the passion party before you have even landed at your lusty locale. When he's catching some zzz's on the plane, reach under his blanket, unzip his pants, and give him a mile-high wake-up call.
Whet His Wanton Appetite
Turn your man on to a tantalizing treat by strategically placing drops of flavored oil on any of your nooks that he likes to nibble on. He'll get a salacious surprise each time he tastes one of your secret spots.
Slather on the SPF
If you're jetting off to a sunny place, offer to rub some sunscreen on his back. Start with his shoulders and smooth the slick stuff all the way down to his shorts - and below - for a grease job he'll never forget.
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